ok i like this girl but im not gay and i cant stop thinking about what do i do?
2006-10-31 04:54:16 · 17 answers · asked by laura m 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
well i know a few girls who told me they werent gay then they turn up with a girlfriend months later. people change and it may be that u r gay or just bi but u havent admitted it to yourself yet. i have this friend who was always saying shes straight. she had a fiancee for 7 years. then all of a sudden she had a girlfriend. all im saying is its possible so dont dismay it straight away.
i think you should just go with the flow. if she likes you and you like her then just become good friends who can talk about anything. you wont need to work out if shes gay or not cos i met my girfriend and neither of us had been with girls before or since. shes my soul mate and partner forever. we just grew really close over time and then she kissed me one drunken night and the rest is history.
thats my advice get close to her then one drunken night make a move then u will find the guts to do it and you can blameit on the drink if she doesnt feel the same way.
my girlfriend liked me for ages before she made a move cos she felt the same way as u do.
hope it goes well for you.
2006-11-01 01:05:16 · answer #1 · answered by icclesnugglebuddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you are alittle frightened of your emotion and a bit confused.
If you decided to tell her how you feel, I would do some breathing exercises so you can get all the way through it.
Make sure you are both relaxed and that you are not to worried about the outcome. If you are not gay then your have some tendencies, but too early to label yourself, so just take it easy and
and enjoy the knowledge that you do have feelings and that you are acknowledging them. What you need to ask your self is what you want out of this connection. Good luck x
2006-10-31 07:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by ~~~VeNuSeEd~~~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a girlfriend who told me straight out one day that she wanted to eat my pucci - I was amazed, but told her okay if I ever feel like I'd want that to happen, I will let you know. That night, I went home and as soon as I closed my eyes this girl and I were at it all night. We actually made love about a week later and it was the best sexual experience I have ever encountered in my life. Depending on your relationship with this girl, tell her how you feel. Give another girl a compliment, like wow, she is beautiful and wait for her response - that would be the first step to see if she is comfortable giving compliments to the same sex. Then say something like, I wonder what it would be like being with another woman. Break that ice girl and Good Luck
2006-10-31 06:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by bisexysis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one simple answer love if you not gay stop thinking about women. Just ignore her. If you fancy her it could be because you are gay but dont want to admit it or you find the idea repulsive. I les and I dont see anything with it but other people do.
2006-10-31 07:16:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know you're not gay so you probably just admire her. I'm not saying it's easy but try to do something that will take your mind off her - like watching some good looking guys on tv!
It's easy to get confused when you are younger but you will get there. I wish you well.
2006-10-31 05:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by nettyone2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u like her as a friend then it's very normal thing but if u think u like her sexually then am sorry to disappoint u but u r gay and u better tell her about how u feel about her but dont make it sound like u like her sexually,if she's likes u the same way u like her,she will get what u mean but if she doesnot then she will take it that u just like her as a friend
i wish that was helpfull
2006-10-31 05:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by Tara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a huge misconception people have about being sexually attracted or if we are honest with ourselves...an emotional need.
It might just be that your having an amzing friendship relationship with this person.
Be sure you dont think sexually bout her cus mark my words......once you do then problems will arise between you as friends and it wont work anywa! Dont ak me how this happens...trust me
2006-11-01 09:40:00 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in love. that's the first thing you have to accept. WHY ARE YOU SO SURE YOU ARE NOT GAY OR MAYBE BISEXUAL?
Just take it easy and let your heart guide you
2006-10-31 06:48:39 · answer #8 · answered by Starlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her if she would ever go with a girl ... if she says yes tell her how you feel and u r in x
good luck
2006-11-01 10:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dig her, and if she digs you (you didn't say), then go for it... if you don't like it, then chalk it up to experimentation... if you don't know if she likes you, ask her how she feels about being with a girl... "hypothetically" of course
2006-10-31 05:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by Phedre D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋