I was just wondering why people go online and try and find people to date? Are you that lame to go online and find someone you dont even know instead of going out on the town trying to meet people? You have no idea who you are talking to on here! I just was wondering why some people are so ignorant?
2006-10-31 04:46:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Computers & Internet ➔ Internet
yep u r right, makes u think what % of ppl are like that, and where the world is moving into.
2006-10-31 04:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by Ичо 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hm, I agree on the idea that yahoo answers isnt really a good place to find someone at times. Sure, there are some very different people on here. But why does one have to generalize that online dating is the only place thats unsafe? A night out on the town can be just as taunting and strangers are everywhere until you meet them anyway! Anyway, there are websites that are ideally made to find love. Whats so wrong with that? HOW in the world did you get the idea that that was ignorant? Perhaps I should use the word in the correct manner in reference to some of the content in your statements for you. Unlike you, I guess some people just arent that lucky to be spontaneous, shallow-they may be at wits end, extremely shy, low self esteem, and the interent allows many people to feel free, judgments are not thrown around as quickly, etc. It's a great alternative and a chance to meet all kinds of different people rather than the everyday ones that are around the town. If it's looks that are a worry, then there are always pictures at one's own will with honesty to swap. Sometimes, exploring other alternatives is a great way to increase the chance of falling in love and finding the right person. I have heard some funny and successful stories through matches online. NOTHING contained in that evidence was "lame". Love is love. It doesnt matter where you met the person or how you met the person. The only thing that should matter is that they found each other and are both happy with the decisions made.
I too wonder WHY some people are ignorant...hm, how come brick walls often block the mental capacity to expand limitations on ones thinking forming judgments and all other sorts of such nonsense?
>smiles<
Personally, I have never been the type to online but hey to each their own....Have a nice day, hun.
2006-10-31 13:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by Cloe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not one of the people that date online, but I will stick up for them. Maybe they have low self esteem. Maybe people who are out on the town judge them for what they look like and not who they truly are. People who go to match.com or any other online dating service is using that to get into a relationship that isn't based on looks but based on personality and what the two have in common. Everyone says that they don't date someone because of their looks but truly....would you date a 400lb man, that may not be so attractive but do you really know him on the inside...he could be the sweetest guy you have ever met but you wouldn't date him because of how he looks....every person in the world is like that...looks have to have something to do with the dating scene...well online dating has given people a chance to get to know a person without passing judgement on how they look or feel.
2006-10-31 12:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by lil_critter33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is just possible you get an answer here which suggests that behind the words you read, there is a human being who may be interesting. It may be that you find you have similar views on things or it may be that you have quite different views, which could also be interesting.
Until recently I held very similar views to those in your question. At no point did I set out to 'find' someone.
I have been using the internet to amuse myself with chess, playing on-line. On the Yahoo chess site, it is very easy to have conversations with one's opponent or anyone who may be watching the game. It is also easy to see 'public' conversations others may be having.
One day I was taking a break after a particularly intense game and I noticed a very interesting conversation of very contrasting views. One person appeared to be German and was arguing with two Americans. The 'debate' was very heated! And there was some abuse from all sides. Just for fun, I joined in to defend the German (nothing to do with my nationality, I am British). And we 'teamed up' to defeat the opposition.
Having 'won' our joint argument, we went to a private conversation, having found a 'friend'.
My German is not good and the screen-name had suggested the word 'King' in his name. I therefore thought it was a man. After about 10 minutes I was corrected. 'Konigen' means 'Queen'!
I will cut this long story short...
This was back in April this year. Although never the intention of either of us we have developed a long-lasting trust in each other. We have had many long hours of interesting communication and are planning to meet at Christmas!
Incidentally, I got another assumption wrong... She is not German at all! But she likes the German version of her name. She is in fact Mexican.
Assumptions can be wrong but we have had a lot of fun and have been able to support each other in times of need.
We have maintained our 'real' relationships with our friends but we both just happen to be single. I've no idea what will happen at Christmas but we are very much looking forward to our meeting...
2006-10-31 13:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, Its how you look at it. I have no problem going out and meeting people. Actually not to be conceded but I can always get women to talk me either directly or they send their friends over. But sometimes I like to look for different types for example I find Latino/Indians/Middle Eastren chicks very sexy actually beyond sexy. So what do I do? I get online and do a search. If you live in a middle size town like I do then you know that you really can't pick and choose.
2006-10-31 12:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by jack 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
now now now, it doesn't really matter where you meet them..date, live with them or marry them.. no one truly knows anyone, unless that person wants 2 be knowen.. or you stumble into their hidden darkside.. the word lame, ignorant,, can be what one would call blind.. meeting online or in town, is just that, strangers when you meet.. it's a chance we all take at one time or another.. don't know why you think meeting someone in town, is the safe way 2 go.. bummer ~
2006-10-31 13:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally... I wish they had Internet dating when I was single... I'd rather filter my rejects anonymously than in person any day.
How stupid and dangerous is it to Get out there "trying to meet people in person."
I have met a lot of men I would rather have had some idea s to who they were BEFORE actually having to meet them in person. Anyone can lie to you about anything... but Id rather have a heads up, some sort of visual or instinctual pre meeting any day!
2006-10-31 12:56:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And you are quick to judge to. What is the difference in meeting in your own town or on line? They are strangers until you get to know them. Yes i know it is dangerous on line because of the fact of the on line predators,But look in the real world as well. You have to be care full no matter what in your home town or across the world. I met my husband 4 years ago on line on yahoo and he is awesome,We did not meet for 5 months in person and all we had was a cam,phone and on line and we talked and got to know each other,In real life on most first dates you wind up in bed, and it usually ends in a couple of months because it went straight to intimate ,But on line like in my case,You have more get to know each other through talk.And yes i know you can be any thing you wish or any body on line,But if you have any common sense you can usually tell what there game is.I just think that yes you should be very care full on line but that goes the same for meeting someone in a Church,Bar, Store,Park where ever because no matter what they are a stranger if you do not know them .Just because it is on line does not make it more dangerous than real world. My Thoughts Only!!!!
2006-10-31 13:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by tr2thhrt 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
some people have a hard time meeting other people just by walking around town or whatever because they are shy and they find it easier to communicate with people online although i personally agree with you about it being dangerous and that's why i've never done it and don't plan on it either
2006-10-31 13:01:45 · answer #9 · answered by johncena2069 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you been to a singles bar? It can be scary. There are a lot of losers for the rare winner -- the same problem you complain about online. It's a rough world, and why should people avail themselves of every opportunity at your disposal? Why are you so judgemental?
2006-10-31 12:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by novangelis 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I feel your frustration, but it just goes to show you that there are all kinds of personalities in these forums, as well as in the chat rooms. It seems to stagger the mind when you think about what goes through someone's mind when they consider looking to meet someone in this type of venue. Remember.....Ignorance is Bliss, and it seems to be rampant in this forum too.
Best of Luck!
2006-10-31 12:57:03 · answer #11 · answered by Ralph 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋