As a chef I am lucky to get three days off this Christmas - Christmas eve, Christmas day and boxing day. Obviously I want to spend this time with my partner of 7 years. He gets two weeks off at the same time. His mother (who lives alone) has invited us to hers for Christmas but the trin will cost us about £500 to book a ticket for travel on those days and I don't really want to spend my days off driving. Last year she came to us but now has a cataract leaving her blind in one eye and so driving is a problem and the trian cost is the same for her. My partner could travel more cheaply on different days but then I would be alone on Christmas day and I would hate that but I also don't want to think of his mum being on her own either even though part of me thinks that she's had 30 years to find somone to spend it with but is still too hung up on her ex husband to do so. Can you see a workable solution?
2006-10-31 04:34:40 · 11 answers · asked by Leapling 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Meet half way in a nice hotel, so you and your partner can have some quality time with and without your mother in law. And because you obviously cook all year take the advantage and have someone else cook for you. If not its yours or hers!!
2006-10-31 04:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not call her and explain the situation. With your limited time off I am sure she would understand the problem of you traveling to her, but if you offer to help with her ticket, and possibly let her make this an extended stay, she will be consider you a thoughtful, giving person and love the idea of spending extra quality time with you all, your partner will be pleased that you were so considerate of his mum, and you will not only feel great about her not spending the holidays alone (or you spending them alone either), but you will not have to experience the drain of all that travel in a short period.
If this doesn't work out, you may find that you either have to make that drive (let your partner do most of it so you can rest), or he goes alone to visit his mum.
2006-10-31 04:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by Survivors Ready? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be cheaper for her to come to you,can you and your partner offer to pay her ticket, even if you could meet somewhere and pick her up it would give you two sometime alone,if you inform the travel company of her disability I'm sure they would make every effort to help,the other solution is you invite her early to avoid the expense of travelling so close to Xmas Good Luck
2006-10-31 04:51:16 · answer #3 · answered by grace k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor you - Sadly Christmas is a time for compromising beyond the norm - most of us have to try to please everyone and it is tricky. Maybe you could do something independent of your partner on Christmas day - or do something silly like have an early Christmas together - with all the trimmings just the two of you - then spend the rest of Christmas together with him and his mum - she is old and you seem to be a considerate person - good luck!
2006-10-31 04:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your partner go alone for a few days between Christmas and New Years; he has more time, the money will be half and she won't be alone. Make sure that you call her on Christmas day though - good luck.
2006-10-31 04:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are gonna have to make a sacrifice one way or another. Either with money by buying tickets or spending the holiday alone. He is your partner and she is his mom. It doesnt matter WHY she alone, thats irrelevant. Sometimes we need to make sacrifices for the ones we love.
Would it be possible to pay for her plane ticket to fly her to you instead of the 2 of you going there? It would certainly be cheaper. Do an indepth search online for price quotes.
Good luck.
2006-10-31 04:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could she not travel up earilier and stay with you longer to get the cheaper fares. She might not have that many christmases left to spend with anyone, you and your partner hopefully will have many more christmases together once she has gone.
The other option is does she know anyone who would drive her half away, then you meet up and take her back with you.
2006-10-31 10:13:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look his mother is not going to be around forever just let him have this time with his mother you all will have a lifetime of christmases to be together . Why sweat this one so bad? Let it alone has this been the only christmas you have been alone? I think not so let it rest and let your mate have his time with his mother . i think you are being very selfish in wanting him all to yourself. Good luck and god bless you.
2006-10-31 04:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say try to delicately arrange for him to go by himself during some of the days that you are working anyway. He could explain that you only have the 2 days off and the travel makes it hard for you to get back to work or something.....something that she would understand...or tell her she will have more days with him if he does it that way instead of trying to get back so you can go back to work???
Good luck!
2006-10-31 05:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by novamanassas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lisa's idea sounds reasonable to me. You could spend a couple of hours with her, have your dinner and then spend the rest of the day together. Very good idea Lisa.
2006-10-31 04:42:02 · answer #10 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋