I've been told i have an awesome personality and stuff but i dont have very many friends. only like 3. Im 18, work full time, and currently taking one class in college at night cuz i gotta work (im gonna take more classes next semster but all at night). im not ugly and have good clothing style and such. im nice to everyone and i love making people happy. (but i am annoyingly Mature for my age--like a 30yr old stuck in an 18 yr old body.) but how come it seems like people still dont like me? like when i was in high school, i joined clubs and played soccer and even then it didnt seem like anyone wanted to be my friend. they barely spoke to me. i was always by myself and last to get a partner. even now, i dont have much a social life at all. i see all my college classmates having a blast and for godsake, have comments on their facebook/myspace from more than 5 different people! i will talk to people but then they treat me like im some sort of loser or something. whats the deal?
2006-10-31 04:31:39 · 8 answers · asked by teneff88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
And with the friends I have, there's only one girl (we've been friends since we were 12). Guys are cool and all but they have that deal where "they wanna be more" or i cant meet a potential date because i'm with my guy friends. I wanna be friends with GIRLS! how can i do that? girls are the ones that seem to be so mean or hostile towards me and im not sure why.
2006-10-31 04:56:46 · update #1
firstly, you sound completely normal. I have the same problem. My best friends are way older than me and I only have a few. i cherish their friendship very much. Secondly, you don't hae to time to do what the others are doing. You are making something of yourself while they are busy making trouble for themselves. Thirdly, they are probably jealous of you or can't understand why you are so put together and responsible. Do you really want to be friends with people who do not accept you for who you are? Start by accpeting yourself, and then look at who accepts you. You already have 3 friends that do for sure. You are picky, like me. I make sure the friends I have close to me are true friends. Look at the other peoples friendships. ARe they true friends? Or do they spend time gossiping about one whn the other is not there. Are they there to help when someone needs to move? Are they there with kleenex and a hug when there is a break-up? What kind of friend are you, what kind of friends do you want? I myself prefer true friends over aquaintances. I hope you have a lovely day!
2006-10-31 04:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dude, I've been there, done that. It happens to everyone in their life. The first problem I see, is that your failing to make any contact with anyone. Even a little small-talk and somewhat of a conversation can start a relationship with fellow peers. If you are to shy or nervous to do so, then try something not so strong as to engage them in a chat. Ask them a question, such as: "Do you know what time it is?". It sounds quite ridiculous, and even lame. But, try approaching the question casually. Not to offend you, but are you a working stiff? Do you need your job enough not to hang out with people once or twice? The only way for you to start, is for your to engage the people.
2006-11-01 20:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by Mac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because you are working a lot....you said that you work full time, and you take classes at night. Maybe you need to join a club or something, anything, break out of your shell, maybe you are the one that needs to go and meet people, instead of expecting people to come to you. Make yourself easier going.....conform....you're not going to go anywhere in life, if you don't conform at least a little....lol :) hope this helps
2006-10-31 13:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by bekki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on your self image. What do you want to project to people about your personality? Some will like it, some won't but be who you are. Be true to yourself. Then relax and enjoy each day...
2006-10-31 12:42:58 · answer #4 · answered by Patricia D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the kind of godsake. it your fate
2006-10-31 12:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by Komsat/sad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget them. one day while you are pushing your new car, in your new house paid for by you succesful career, they will be crying about how "sally stole my boyfriend" or "i got fired cause i drink too much"
2006-10-31 12:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to do something about your lack of self -esteem!
2006-10-31 12:33:33 · answer #7 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be silly , you haven't met everyone yet !
2006-10-31 12:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋