my brothers freind tony died at the age of 19 from an overdose/bad drugs. now im scared to have my baby. (wouldnt ever hurt me or the baby or do adoption) i afraid what if it died because of bad friends who influenced it to? (it meaning baby) is this normal?
2006-10-31 04:17:22 · 16 answers · asked by Natasha C 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It is normal to feel like this! I had my son 7 mths ago and from the time I found out I was pregnant I thought things like you are talking about. Having a child lets you put everything into perspective and take life more seriously (at least for most people). Sometimes I lie awake in bed thinking about what could happen in the future. I think how I will help him through different things and how I want to parent him and be there for whatever happens in his life. There are a lot of bad things that happen in the world, but you can't dwell on them. You have to stay positive. My mom died a couple years ago from cancer and I sometimes cry about how she never got to see her grandson, or he will never see her. I also worry about the heredity of the cancer she died from and if I will get it and be taken from his life too early. We are all human and sometimes think of things like this, it doesn't mean you are abnormal. It is normal to worry more about being a parent and what your child's future will be like.
You won't regret having the baby because they are just amazing and so totally wonderful and are full of surprizes!! They are really awesome! I am just completely and utterly devoted to my son he is the center of my universe!
One piece of advice I do have is the only thing that could become a problem is if you are more unhappy than you are happy and dwell on things for extensive periods of time. This could signal depression and you should seek medical help for the safety and well being of yourself and baby.
Good luck with your pregnancy and remember that it's ok to cry sometimes but just not all the time!!
2006-10-31 04:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by Sexy_Bunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's normal. Once you become pregnant you take notice to a lot of things that go on in the world today. You'll look at everything differently than you did before and the bad stuff that you wouldn't pay much attention to or dwell on suddenly become more important. What you're feeling is normal but all you can do is raise your child to be the best that he/she can be and steer them in the right direction. A lot of teens who do drugs and other bad things aren't being parented (not sure if that's a real word....lol) the way they should be. Be the best parents you can be and raise your baby the best way you know how and don't fret over the stuff you can't change.
2006-10-31 12:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by justwondering 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This can be a lesson learned- teach your baby about this- you have an example of how your brother's friend overdosed on drugs and died from it, and how horrible they are for you- enough to kill you. With what the world is coming to now days, I was afraid myself... but you are the one that can influence your child to do good.... your baby will be just fine.
2006-10-31 12:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The world is becoming more and more evil. I think all of us mothers-to-be are worried about bringing our sweet, innocent little babies into this mean world. The thing that gives me comfort is the home that my baby is going to come into. I have a supportive and loving husband, my parents are supportive and loving as well. Look to the good in this world. Show your baby the good things in life. Try to keep the influences of the world away as long as possible. Have a good repore with your baby as a baby, child, and teen by communicating and spending time with them. If you are a good friend to your child, they will always trust and love you and turn to you when in times of trouble. And maybe, if you live in a big city or especially dangerous one, move to a small, more wholesome community. It will be easier for them to find and keep good friends in school. Good Luck and may all our children be strong and avoid the evils in this world. Best wishes and congratulations on your baby!
2006-10-31 12:28:54 · answer #4 · answered by jamiasl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just very emotional and that's normal. My cousin was killed almost 3 years ago he was 19 and it was the worst thing In my life, We never expected something like that to happen and didnt get to say goodbye. Im pregnant now and I know he'll always be looking after my baby from heaven, that cant scare you just make sure you teach your baby good values and always talk to him about drugs and bad influences, be his/her best friend and they'll come to you if they find themselves on that situation.
2006-10-31 12:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by audrey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal to be scared of this. My baby is 3 months old and the thought of it terrifies me. All you can do is talk to your child from a very young age and stress that drugs are bad and that you don't approve of them. Keep communication open with your child and instill your values and hopefully everything will turn out for the best. All you can do is teach them right from wrong, when they grow up they have to make decisions on their own.
2006-10-31 12:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by Julie F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal. We worry because we love our children! If we didn't worry we wouldn't be good parents. It's amazing how these feelings start to happen when our children are still in utero! All that you can do is prepare yourself to be the best mother that you can be. Sometimes, we can't control the path that our children take...however, we can do our best to show them the right path. Beginning before birth! When your baby is born...you will look at it and immediately have this overwhelming rush of emotions and you will be suprised at just how much you can possibly love someone so much that you just met! Hold onto that feeling of love and teach your child right from wrong and educate him or her. Set a good example for them and be as involved as you can. You need to protect them, but you also have to give them the knowledge that they need to make their own informed decisions. It seems like a hell of a task...but it is easier than you think!
Good luck!
2006-10-31 12:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is normal. Everyone gets nervous. We live in a scary world, and lots of bad things can happen. All you can do is do your best to bring up your child in a loving environment. If you have friends or relative that are into drugs, then don't associate with them anymore and just tell them that you don't want your child to be brought up in that kind of atmosphere. I am a Christian and I believe that praying for our kids really helps. Just try to relax and not be scared of the future.
2006-10-31 12:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal. I was always scared of what could happen. The only thing you can do is try to raise your baby the best you can and be there for him/her when (s)he falls, and help pick them up. Trust me, they WILL fall. It's human nature to get into some kind of trouble, just try to teach them the best you can and have faith in them to do the right thing. Be open and honest with them always, and be sure to LISTEN to them when they have something to say, AND BE SURE TO PRAY A LOT!!!! LOL
2006-10-31 13:01:15 · answer #9 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a very normal fear I think. I don't really worry about it, but my husband does. I think though, that your recognition of this possibility will help you raise your child to have better chances of this not happening to him or her. I would recommend getting your child active in a sport and instrument at a young age. Often, being a part of something like that will help kids to feel like they belong and will help prevent the feeling that they need to take drugs or do whatever to feel accepted.
2006-10-31 12:23:26 · answer #10 · answered by Bethany 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋