ive been told its possible that i will have problems concieving, i rarely have periods but before can send me for fertility tests i need to of tried for a baby for at least 6 mnths. im 22 yrs old in a steady relation ship for 3 yrs, we have our own house together an 3 kittens. were redy for children now however ideally we'd like to wait anothe 2 yrs or so. however we dont want to wait until we really want kids and have anothe 1 yr - 2 yrs trying, what should i do??
2006-10-31 03:57:27 · 17 answers · asked by sweetness 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I can understand your dilema.. It must be a tricky situation. I'd say ask yourself, if you wait for another 2 years or so will it be constantly on your mind anyway? Will you be constantly wondering if you're going to have problems when you see pregnant women or babies? If that's the case, and if it's ok with your partner, I'd say don't waste 2 years worrying because it will have become a priority in your mind anyway if it's going to keep niggling all the time so what would be the difference if you waited for 2 years to officially start to worry? Time is precious in these situations from a woman's point of view so I say go for it now. I hope that makes sense. Good luck whatever you decide.
2006-10-31 04:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
difficult one this, cos you could get pregnant right away, and then realise that you had nothing to worry about! I just think even if you did have fertilty problems you are still very young, even if you left it till you were 25 and took two yrs trying before they would investigate you would still be only 27.
to be honest, I was 28 when I had my first baby and 41 when i had my 4th! Being older is a big advantage! It's a lot to cope with in your early 20s, I would try and have a few years with just you and your other half first! If you do try, go on folic acid and don't empty the cat litter! Or be very careflu washing your hands after!
2006-10-31 18:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want kids and are concerned about future fertility then there will never be a right time to have a baby. In fact for any couple there never is a right time, you could always argue to wait if you are logical about it. Personally I wouldn't wait. I think the very fact that you are asking this question means that your heart maybe is wanting to rule your head just now. That's not necessarily a bad thing. There's a lot to be said for intuition.
2006-10-31 18:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by crabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you and your boyfriend are in a steady relationship, but have you thought of getting married first? A lot of the girls that I have known that get pregnant while they arent married decide AFTER they get pregnant that they want to be married when the baby is born, so trying to find a dress that fits them in their delicate phase, is a little difficult sometimes. But honestly, if you wait to have your child(ren) when it is the "right time", you never will have any. Children are a gift and a blessing and if you want to have a child, I say go for it. I'm married and 23 and my husband is in the Military so we have chosen to wait and try in about 2 years, but if it happens sooner, we're all for it. Good luck to you and your boyfriend with whatever you guys decide!
2006-10-31 12:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by val 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to wait 2 years before having a child, then you need to wait until then. It is pretty simple.
You may get pregnant the first time you try!
Take the time the educate yourself on concpetion and try when you are ready. There are things you can do to help your chances of getting pregnant when you are ready.
The best starting place I can recommend is the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler.
2006-10-31 12:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by Cassandra K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that you're ready to have a child, then you should go for it. A kid is a huge responsibility, but only you know if you're ready. And ya know, I think you're in a special situation and as long as you know you're ready for this and you know your boyfriend loves you then I think you guys will be fine & not need to worry about getting married first unless you want to. I've known a lot of women who have gotten married just to have kids and it's not necessary. Just live you life in the order you feel most comfortable with.
Good luck!
2006-10-31 12:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by sorcha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 choices. Either you are ready to have a baby now and you try now and hope to get pregnant (or) you are still so young and you aren't ready just now, you wait with no pressure and try in a couple years. They make more advancements in fertility every day. If you are not ready, don't force yourself to get pregnant just to be sure you can.
2006-10-31 12:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by buggerhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait another year but don't leave it too long the best age to have a baby is 24
2006-11-01 05:02:05 · answer #8 · answered by Gossip81 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to consult your obstetrician. Your doctor can help you regulate your menses so that it will not be hard for you to identify your ovulations days. You are still young and still have a long way to go. Regulating your menses though may take more than six months and when if you succeed, it may take you a few more months or even years to take note of your ovulation period. :)
2006-10-31 12:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by Kinder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally for me, being ready for a baby includes being in a loving relationship, and having a home to bring them home to.
I sounds like you two are ready, and if you have been told it could take a while, then why wait.
Best of luck, I have my fingers crossed for you.
2006-10-31 14:10:22 · answer #10 · answered by FUGAZI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋