This guy and I are good friends but we like each other. All along we try to hide our feelings but now he wants to settle down the problem is that I dont think im ready cuz im just 18 but hes 25 so hes ready for that.
2006-10-31 03:51:09 · 10 answers · asked by Lovey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't feel pressured or rushed. He's had his time out of high school to enjoy, and find out his purpose, and you deserve that as well.
2006-10-31 03:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very simple, if your not ready your not ready. You should realize that being only 18, there is so much that you should experience in life still. Guys tend to be a little posessive. It is their nature. So if you get married, he will want you to put your emphisis on the marriage, and his needs. And there is nothing wrong with that. You would feel the same if it were you asking for the marriage. However, are you ready for that commitment? If you really like the guy, then he should wait a little longer if your not ready. There is nothing wrong with getting married early in life, and there is nothing wrong with waiting either. What do you really want? That is what really matters. Make a decision and stick to it. One other thing, a relationship should be free and easy, not just what one person demands or wants. If you two are really right for each other, then everything will just fall into place naturally without any effort and you both will feel happiness mutually.
2006-10-31 04:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by James M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready, do not do it and don't be talked into it. If you do, 3, 5 or 10 years down the road, you will be wondering what you missed, was there something different, was he the right one? Besides you said that you and he are good friends...Are you in love with him? Is he in love with you? If not, then why get married?
2006-10-31 05:25:16 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just live together for awhile if you really want to move on to the next level. But really, so many young marriages don't last. You guys are still figuring out who you are. How could you possibly know what you want when most 30 year olds still don't?
2006-10-31 03:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not sure, then dont do it. Marriage is a life-long commitment, and I think you need to live your life as an adult, before you start making decisions that can alter everything first. If he really feels like he needs to be married, then maybe he isnt the one for you. Do not force yourself, it will end badly.
2006-10-31 03:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you want to be commited to him but your not sure if your ready for marrige just yet. suggest that you live together first. If he truly loves you he'll understand and will wait untill your ready. Good Luck
2006-10-31 04:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by pinkgirly135 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're good friends...you both hide your feelings....where in the world did him wanting marriage come into it.
I think you're way too young and from this question so is he.
Just slow it way down and take baby-steps.
2006-10-31 03:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u r not ready then dont go for it, talk to him, tell him u like him but not ready yet.good luck.
2006-10-31 04:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by naturelover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm well tell him that and see if the livein works for you
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2006-10-31 03:53:42 · answer #9 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not ready....then don't do it!
2006-10-31 03:52:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋