Has anyone ever burned you so bad that you have begun to see all people the same way?
How has it effected you, changed you for the worse or better?
How are you dealing with it?
Has it ruined other relationships or situations for you?
Boss, Job, Boy/girlfriend, husband, friend...
Get it off your chest... share with me if you will, so I don't feel quite so strange. Maybe we can start a PTSS club or something?
2006-10-31 03:50:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
PTSS = Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome.
2006-10-31 03:52:01 · update #1
Yes when a very close family member stole over $20K from me while I was in the hospital. Have a real problem getting over the sense of betrayal. I have forgiven but I can never forget which made me feel guilty, although I have gotten over the guilt. Things will never be the same again (was even invited to appear on the "Dr. Phil Show")
2006-10-31 04:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by Bella Donna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes when my husband cheated on me, we are okay now but I still think about it everyday. Made me realize who my true friends were, made me realize you can't trust even some who you love the most. For the most part I think it has made me a better person b/c before I don't know if I would have told people if there spouse was cheating on them... now that is has happened to me and know how it felt I will tell. It is something hard to deal with... but you can only make the best of it and share it with others.
2006-10-31 03:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by Arual 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't get over the fact I'm a parent ... once you have a child your life has changed so much ... it's never the same ... I'd have to say it's the hardest job you can ever have ... you're teaching and raising this child to become a great person ... and in the back of my mind I'm always questioning ... " Am I making the right decisions for her " ... sometimes I feel like I might screw her life up ... it's one of the biggest responsibilities I've ever had ... and it never goes away .. !
I guess it's not really what you were looking for ... but every since I've had my daughter I always wonder what my life would be like without her .. I love her to death .. but I feel like I lost a piece of me when she was born .. I guess I can't be as independent as I wanted to be ... !
2006-10-31 04:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mothers death.
It created a huge dislike towards her family. Three years later and it is still hard to get over. When she passed away they blamed my father... thinking he should of known and taken her to the hospital. (She died from a blood clot, very hard to detect). When my great grandmother sent him a card (through my grandfather on my moms side) he took out the money she gave him and kept it for himself. He did not even mention the money to my dad. My dad found out by her calling and asking if he got the card and money.
They were there to help plan the funeral yet did not pay a dime towards it at all. (mom did not have life insurance). They accepted all the food from friends and family and it was I who said my dad and his family should get some.
Anyways... it has put a bad taste in my mouth. It has made me realize that deaths do not bring a family together like it should yet it drives a wedge between them. I feel that way for all deaths now. I see now that everyone has to point a finger at someone for something that is no ones fault.
2006-10-31 03:52:32 · answer #4 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first heartbreak was very difficult because it was due to the fact that I did not open up and share my true feelings with him. Once he left and I could not stop thinking about him, I got in contact with him years later to tell him how I felt. Guess what?.... he had gotten married and moved away! Sometimes we bring things that we can't get over on ourselves. Just let people know how you feel, don't take anything for granted and enjoy the time that you have.
2006-10-31 04:08:14 · answer #5 · answered by AMAZON 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I understand the question exactly, but there is someone who has (without even noticing it) changed me and my life. He was my professor and he was a perfectionist. He was perfect both in terms of his values and actions and thought and his career and accomplishments. Whenever I need to do or decide something, I think of what he would have done were he in my situation. He is an inspiration! It is really so hard to explain what he is like with just words.
2006-10-31 03:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by dimenti0 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, good question. I hate disloyalty. I am probably too sensitive and I think someone is being disloyal when really they're not. So I guess the older I get the more I work on that. But I know I have to shake things off and not take things so personally. But there are little things people have done that I will never get past and it makes me treat them differently.
2006-10-31 03:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! but the best way to deal with these problems is to accept the reality. Life does not always go as we want. Just understand this is just a part of real and normal life and you'll get over it!
Sorry that i can't share my experience here.
2006-10-31 03:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!
I absolutely will wear a red dress to my ex-husbands funeral - for divorcing me and marrying my best friend. Little ho that she is.
It has totally turned me off to trust. I have issues trusting men, and female friends. I dealt with it by finding a new love....a friend and lover I can trust....a new job, new friends, and a new house. A fresh start. I am still angry and bitter, but I remind myself of my great life now, and how much better mine is than his!
2006-10-31 03:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but then I realized a hopelessness in humanity is a waste of time. It isn't my place to judge and holding a bitter resentment towards people just makes me feel worse.
Don't start a club, that's just asking for racism.
2006-10-31 03:55:00 · answer #10 · answered by sebastian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋