me and my girl have been together for about four years and any thing i say or do pisses her off she says she still loves me and wants to be with me but i cant handle the mood swings its driving me crazy if i have a hard day at work and i dont feel like talking about anything she flys of the f ing handle and all of a sudden im a lier a cheater and a good for nothing loser how can i change this or should i just end it?
2006-10-31 03:45:09 · 13 answers · asked by hoyt_mt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you feel the same for her as before ? Your feelings haven't changed ? Something has changed with her. It might be her feelings for you or a medical problem. But if you are the only thing that sets her off, well, it's probably you. Yes, move on . Spending any more time is only a waste of your time.
2006-10-31 03:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by rock d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on the facts you have provided about your situation. I say let her go. The mood swings in addition to her accusing you of being a liar, a cheater, and a good for nothing loser are all indications that she may have an outside relationship with someone else and she just doesn't have the balls enough to tell you.
2006-10-31 11:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by rain_stars_clouds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's tough. I would tell you that generally 'mood swings' with women and lashing out are an indication that they are not getting something they need. She, however, is not handling this situation maturely at all. Before you end it, sit down with her and ask her in a calm, non-confrontational way why she has been acting the way she has. Let her know you are interested in fulfilling her needs but that you need her to communicate them in a constructive way. Then articulate your needs to her, including the need for a few minutes to unwind before you launch into any conversations. If you do this and it doesn't help, you need to walk away, but at least you'll know you did what you could.
2006-10-31 12:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to sit down with her and have a little talk to find out what is eating at her. Is she or isnt she happy with your situation and relationship. Some women keep things on the inside afraid to talk to their mate. Maybe there is just a problem that u both together could solve. I know you said girl, but I am a girl but older. So how old is she? Anything past 35yrs could be early signs of menapause. Hope u gete things worked out...
2006-10-31 11:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by mmsbud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to talk to her and explain to her that you don't like the mood swings. or just ask her what's up? I mean maybe there is something bothering her right now and she just takes it all out on you. Just try talking to her about it. I mean I wouldn't end a four year relationship over her just being moody.
2006-10-31 11:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by Meg 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She obviously has issues. Have you tried sitting down with her and asking her what it wrong. People tend to hold their emotions in for so long that it builds up animoscity and causes them to flip out over the littlest thing. Just listen to her. Don't interrupt. That is key. If she can get it out, maybe you can resolve the issues. Maybe she feels like you don't give her enough attention. Or, hopefully not, but, maybe she needs medication for her mood swings. It isn't bad. Some people just need it to balance things for them. It doesn't mean they are mental. Good Luck.
2006-10-31 11:50:25 · answer #6 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
End it. She obviously has issues that she's not willing to address, and is taking them out on you. I was in a similar situation for almost as long as you, and I've never been happier than I am now, after having ended it.
It's hard to call off a relationship after so long, but chalk it up to experience and do what's best for you.
2006-10-31 11:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by jfellrath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those that are throwing around accusations may be the very guilty themselves. If she is not guilty, then tell her to lighten up and get off your back. You are not my mother. Either take me like I am, accept me as I am, or move on. I am tired of the bitching toward me for no good reason.
People that beat around the bush drive me nuts -- just come on out and say it straight. Your sanity is at stake here buddy!!
And, this is from a female perspective. Then, if it doesn't change to your satisfactions -- the choice is yours -- good luck!
2006-10-31 11:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by JB 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she doesn't want you anymore and is just making things worse by prolonging the situation.
Talk to her about it before you end it; she could be facing a rough time.
2006-10-31 11:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by sebastian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive had relationships like the one your in. it allways seems to get worse everyday. id leave befor you hate each other
2006-10-31 11:50:34 · answer #10 · answered by hailey80223 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋