2006-10-31 03:42:43 · 21 answers · asked by goodbye 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Yes the meanings differ. love does hurt but LOVE doesn't.
2006-10-31 20:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by No Saint 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love Hurts
When whoever uttered the words, "We always hurt the ones we love," spoke that truism, they probably had no idea exactly how right they were and continue to be.
For hearts are fragile things, weak and soft they're easily broken, smashed and crushed. That's why most of us don't wear our hearts on our sleeves, and guard this intimate part of ourselves with great zeal.
That makes it very difficult to hurt the man on the street. You really have to go out of your way to break through that exterior shell and get to what really hurts. It's not easy, but it can be done.
But with someone you love, and someone who loves you, that shell isn't there. That wonderful protective barrier that we all throw up against the world is nonexistent and in the beauty of love we trust our dearest not to crush our delicate emotions or break our fragile hearts.
But even when the love is true and genuine, accidents happen. With a proverbial flick of the wrist or a prod of the finger, an exposed heart can fall to pieces. We don't mean to, we don't try to, but when handling something as delicate as trust, the slightest fumble can open the floodgate of tears.
In response to this, many bury their hearts deep within, never to let anyone come close regardless of how worthy. While they lead protected, comfortable lives, they hide themselves from love and all it has to offer. It's an understandable act when you account for the pain, but it does nothing to fulfill, create, or inspire.
However others refuse to run from the pain. They glue the shattered pieces of their heart back together and move on, forgiving when appropriate, forgetting when necessary. Sometimes a broken heart can mean a goodbye, sometimes it's just a new beginning, but for these people, it's never the end, just another obstacle to overcome.
So while the adage of "love hurts" is a truism. I hope I never get so scared that I run away. For all of the pain and anguish love has brought me throughout my life, it has also brought me the greatest rewards. It's one of the few things in life in which you truly get out of it, what you put into it.
When it comes to matters of the heart, the patient and brave shall inherit the earth. I have been very patient my friends, I just hope now I am brave enough to carry on. Carry on into the future; carry on forever, seeing past the bad to enjoy the good, moving past the heartbreaks to cherish the heart-swells.
That alone is my goal now, that alone is my goal forever.
2006-10-31 11:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by Brite Tiger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love hurts because when you really love someone, you let all your defenses down. You become vulnerable. It's like removing your skin. You are raw and you feel everything more intensely. If your loved one says or does anything to hurt you, if they disappoint you or desert you, it can be devestating. Sometimes people get hurt so much by love that they develop a thick skin, become calloused. They build up walls so that they can never be hurt again, never feel vulnerable.
Love is the strongest & scariest emotion. At its best, it is the ultimate joy. At its worst, the deepest despair. A rollercoaster. How can we resist?
2006-10-31 11:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by amp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unconditional love never hurts, Except for the first experiences of JOY which cause much tears. It is when unconditional love is divided by the concepts within human emotions into conditional love/hate and all that come with it. Possiveness & Attachment is what hurts. this can be demonstrated with old fashioned adhesive tape being pulled from a hairy arm.
2006-10-31 12:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by Weldon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love never hurts, ever. You might confuse other things like neediness, co-dependency, relationship addiction, intense mothering need, familiarity, etc... confused with the word Love. If it hurts in ain't Love. Although, you could have a moment where Love is forgotten, and else can fill it's place for a moment, but if you are truly in a comfortable, Loving relationship, Love is never forgotten for more than a moment.
2006-10-31 12:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by Richard15 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the relationship. I am currently IN LOVE and have been for over 3 years. I doesnt hurt at all... In fact it feels amazing. But I've been in relationships where it did hurt and you just have to know when it is better to let go than to hold on to something so hurtful. Happy halloween sweets!
2006-10-31 14:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not in love if it hurts. Most people don't find true love. I've found it though. It isn't like they all say, love isn't hard, love doesn't take work. Love is easy, love does all the work for you all you have to do is live, and love, and no pain will ever come your way.
2006-10-31 16:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is an experience of true intersubjectivity. It is a connection and a realization of Integral Oneness. In short it is experiencing the divine. In my meager experience love itself doesn't hurt. What hurts is when such a state ends, and one is left feeling Alone again. This is what hurts.
PS. There are some words in this paragraph that are capitalized they are proper nouns, not oversights.
2006-10-31 14:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love does not hurt!
People who you love sometimes do things you do not appreciate and, as a result, you feel emotional pain.
It is not the love that causes the hurt, it is the person or what they do; and you only feel pain because you have made that person the star to which you hitched your wagon.
All in all, you are responsible for your own emotions. It is how you choose to react to the wrong-doing that matters.
We all are susceptible.
2006-10-31 13:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by SANCHA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a theory, and it is based in the idea of subjective reality & the truism that each person controls how they emotionally respond to the actions of others. I think in a relationship, each person is building a construction of their relationship as they each perceive it, as well as a construction of what the other person is based on their perception of them. When 1 of these people does something that hurts the other, I think it is that the hurt person's perception and understanding of the person and their relationship with the offender is automatically called into question. Basically, it makes you doubt yourself.
It takes YEARS of experience to understand that people really do make themselves feel however they do in reaction to what others do, for the most part. A person who understands & has integrated that understanding into their living may not ever really need to build anything, because the construction is the need of someone who is insecure, a projection/symbol of validation they need others to provide.
Those who have that understanding can reject solipsism because they know that they are not the center of the universe, therefore others' actions are not really about them. When you learn that you control how you emotionally respond to others, you can recognize that the offender's actions are their actions, borne of their imperfections, not something done to punish you or even any reflection of you. Your love for the person will then not be altered really because it wasn't based in your personal perspective, but on a deep understanding of people, not expectations that you are looking to that particular person to meet for you.
2006-10-31 12:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by jakomo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋