my parents told me that a source had told them that my husband got this girl pregnant that use to live across the street from us also that the girl said she was going to file for child support when the baby is born so my parents ask this person why you didn't tell tina they said they couldn't but they would tell my parents. also before that it was a incident me my husband and a friend of ours was out side talking and people thought we were arguing but we was just talking loud so the next 2 days our neightbor went to my husband and said "you got busted last nite" that was said before this baby situition so and there is a lot more.
2006-10-31 03:36:10 · 29 answers · asked by angeleyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You believe your heart. What does it tell you. Talk to your husband about the accusations and ask if it is true. If he gets defensive then it probably is.
2006-10-31 03:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would believe my husband. Rumors are always going around and until you get hard proof I would back your man. Anytime someone argues people could assume they got busted for something. I say it to my neighbor every time I hear her and her man argue, which is rare but I still say it. Heck, my kids are even saying it now. Have you talked to this girl yourself? If not, don't you think you should? I would tell her flat out that you need a paternity test done. It can be done during pregnancy so see what she says. If she isn't willing to do a paternity test pre or post partum then she is probably lying. Does she have anything against you or did your husband make her mad? If so maybe that's why she is saying this. Find out, do some investigating. You have the right to know, you are the wife not her.
2006-10-31 03:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by ~*~frankie~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though your husband has done something behind you back otherwise he'd have nothing to be "busted" for.
However, don't jump to conclusions yet. It's best that you talk to him alone about what has been going on and what's been said. Ask him for honesty only. There's no guarantee that he'll tell the truth but it's necessary that you confront him about this all.
Now, if he does deny everything... wait it out. See if this so called pregnant girl gets him for child support. You'll also have to figure out your sources and keep an eye on him.
If he was cheating and you find out, then it's best to end the marriage because a cheater has no respect.
2006-10-31 03:50:07 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how reliable your parents are.
My mother tried telling me that she heard that my husband was stealing my credit cards. She said that from HER reliable sources that my husband was stealing from me.
I told her that "I don't OWN any credit cards!" and that was the fact. My mother had a problem with my husband and was trying a few different ways to get us to separate.
I would encourage you to talk to your husband. Also if you feel you need to, get a DNA test to see if the baby is really his. You could also go directly to the neighbor and ask her personally.
Do NOT have your husband pay for child support until DNA are confirmed. If she was with your husband, I would be wondering who else was she with?
If they were together, then you have to figure out what is best for you and your life.
2006-10-31 04:24:44 · answer #4 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two-bits of advice:
1) Confront him and believe whatever your husband tells you unless you have verifiable knowledge to the contrary. Honesty and asking the hard questions aren't easy things to do, but you might fair better knowing, instead of suspecting.
AND
2) Keep your eyes and ears open. I would advise against snooping as it will show you don't trust him regardless of what conclusions you received from your conversation. You may be surprised what you can find out just by watching what goes on around you.
You said there's more, so I suspect you've already got some idea of what's going on, eh?
2006-10-31 03:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by stevegoryan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your hubby. I have been thorough an affair. And let me tell you if it did happen, your gonna hurt so bad! Well only time will tell if he really did sleep with the pig. And if he did what are you gonna do? If you want to stay (as I did) you are gonna need allot of counseling! together and separate. There has to be a underline reason for him to cheat(if he did). Most men don't cheat just for the coochie. You have along road ahead of you. Just waiting to see if the baby is his. And if it is you have along road. But, remember this if he didn't cheat nasty women will see your happy and try to mess it up. Some people just don't know how to act! I wish you nothing but the best of luck!!!! And keep your head up!
2006-10-31 04:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by Just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When more than one source is telling you that your husband is cheating on you, you should listen. They may all be wrong, but you have to go with your gut. It sounds like you are already starting to question whether these rumors are true. You should confront your husband regarding these rumors. If he does not come clean, you should talk to this pregnant woman. You may find that the rumors are untrue, but you have to find out one way or the other.
2006-10-31 03:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When in doubt, check it out. Who do I believe, me or my lying eyes? Come on, lets be real, do some detective work and find out for yourself. If your man is cheating, do you want to know, or do you prefer to play stupid? If you like being stupid, then by all means, let your man tell you lies without being smart enough to check up on him. Personally, I would with hold judgement, but not action. If I had a man cheating on me, I would want to know, so I could PREPARE MYSELF to live without his cheating behind, and make some sound financial decisions, for myself and my children. After all, why should he be able to impregnate the neighborhood and you and your children end up paying for his mistake (they will garnish his wages, less money for you and kids and if you work, in some states your income can also be garnished to pay for the little tramps baby. You need to know whats up, so you can protect yourself and not expose yourself to diseases and whatever. If he did it with this girl, he's probably done it with others. In any case, without knowing, you know nothing. Keep your mouth shut, call a detective or just quietly check up on him.....is he supposed to be at the gym, drive by and see if he's there. Don't just close your eyes and cry, plenty of time to do that latter. I hope its just some mean gossip and that he is faithful and reliable and loyal. Oh and you can call that program "Cheaters" and see if they'll take your case. OMG!
2006-10-31 03:48:46 · answer #8 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a discussion with your husband right away. Find out "who" said what. Go all the way back to the source of the rumor. That is the only way to find out if it is true.
2006-10-31 03:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by Desperado 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you know it's all true when all your neighbors are talking. Don't even bother finding out what exactly is going on, your jjust gona get even more hurt, you know that. I would suck it up and tell him to just leave. If you stay, it is just gona continue because he is gona keep thinking that he can keep doing whatever it is he is doing. Then you may end up with some kind of nasty virus or strange infection. You really need to be careful and just leave his sorry A**!
2006-10-31 03:42:53 · answer #10 · answered by CHRISSY K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋