i have been married for a year! well recently i met this really nice guy names alex. i really like him and he treats me 100 times better than my hubby! however i am still in love with my hubby, i mean i have a baby with him and would love to stay with him its just this other guy really has me f***ed up in the head. he is trying so hard to get me to leave me hubby. i kinda do want to leave is the bad thing. i mean i love him with all my heart it just seems that our relasonship would work out better as friends than lovers. i also really like this other guy and he knows this. what should i do? should i cut off contact with the other guy or follow my guts?
2006-10-31 03:28:11 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-10-31 03:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your heart is telling you the wrong thing here! Don't be selfish, think about your husband and your child, you will break their hearts just because of some stupid feelings toward another guy. By the way, feelings are fleeting, they will come and go, a marriage is supposed to be eternal. You need to understand that when you married your hubby you didn't say you will never have any feelings for anyone else, but you did say that you would stay with him no matter what. Do the rational thing and keep your family together. If this guy is trying to get you to break up with your husband how do you know he won't go to another girl when you are with him, obviously he is OK with cheating! You also said that you "really like this other guy"...."like" is very different from love! "Like" will not last, but love is forever....however, hearing these kinds of stories makes me believe in love less and less each day.
2006-10-31 03:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by Yul'ka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though the guy treats you better than your hubby really does, it not right to cheat on your husband. Cut the lose end with other guy because the more you see him the more confuses you will be and trouble will follow it. Marriage is hard for a couple work thing out with your husbands.
2006-10-31 03:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by wonderinggirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass is not always greener. Think about it when ou first met your hubby it probably seemed great like this guy does now but eventually it will fade and be like any other relationship. You have only been married a year maybe you and your hubby should take a vacation or something to bring the spark back but don't give up on him just yet.
2006-10-31 03:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think what you are doing is wrong. I just left a message to a girl who asked why marrage was so hard, It's hard because you are combining two hearts, two different backgrounds, do different lives together to make one. The first year of being married is the hardest, Today is my 1 year anniversary and this whole year has been nothing but argments and even threats of divorce, but I see my self out of the box and I couldn't live without my husband You dont want to leave your husband you know it, but it's the tempation that you can get somone else that thrills you. I know i've been there, but you will regret it i would suggest to leave the other guy alone, tell him your married and not to bother you anymore you need to spend your time right now focusing on your hushand and how you can make your marrage work. For yourself and for your baby...GOod luck and think of this.." a family that prays together stays together" God bless
2006-10-31 03:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes years to REALLY know someone.
The other man is only showing you the side of him that he uses to attract women.
I assume you know and love your hubby.
As for the othe man I think you are "loving the chase", but you really don't know him yet.
When you are able to go to the bathroom with the man in the same room you really know each other (I KNOW THIS IMAGE KILLS THE IDEA OF ROMANCE).
So you are asking if you should toss away a man you know and love for someone that you really don't know yet. It a gamble, the other man could be a better OR a big loser when the passion dies.
Marriage takes work and a good marriage take more work and a happy marriage takes a lot of work. If you don't put the work in you will not find it with any man (great father or the other man).
THINK ABOUT:
Does the pleasure you're getting balance out the pain you will cause? (to your husband, your child and to yourself)
2006-10-31 04:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you marry because you were having a baby? If you truely love your husband. You cannot have any contact with this other man. You also have to come clean. Tell your husband the truth. Tell him it worries you that this man could have come between you and try to work on your relationship. If you married him because of the baby, and you don't really want to be married to him. Then be honest about that as well. You can absolute love someone and not be in love with them. There is no reason why you couldn't raise your child together in a loving atmosphere and not be married. Talk to your self and then talk to your husband.
2006-10-31 03:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by soccermomw3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to grow up and be a wife and mother. I don't mean that harshly but it is the truth. You said I do and that is serious vows. It should not be taken lightly. That is why there is so much divorce in the world! Marriage is the hardest job you will ever come across. It is not easy and there is temptation at every corner trying to pull you from your vows. Don't let it pull you away from your love and your baby! Let your child grow up with a mom and a dad! This other guy must not love you too much because he would not want to pull you away from your child or marriage. Good luck...
2006-10-31 04:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by bbmk333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have grown close with the other guy. You're a newlywed. You should focus your energy on him, not someone else! What do you think your b/f will think of you once you leave your hubby for him? You could do the same to him! He will not trust you as far as he can throw you! Stay married and work that out and stop cheating! GEeeeezzzzzzz, what's with you people.
2006-10-31 03:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your husband then stay with him. You not only have to think of what you want, but you have a baby to consider. You need to tell the other guy to back off. You know what you have with your husband, you never know how other guy will turn out. If this other guy actually did have feelings for you then he wouldn't be pressuring you, he'd leave you alone.
2006-10-31 09:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by ANGELA S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the thing I see that you keep saying is that you LOVE your husband and really LIKE this other guy. If you feel that you may have a better and satisfying life with the other guy then go for it, but also be aware that your husband is not going to be sitting around waiting for you to come back if you find yourself not happy. And one thing that bothers me is that this other guy is trying to get you to leave your husband??!! I mean if he truly cared, why is he trying to break up your marriage??
2006-10-31 03:32:27 · answer #11 · answered by JenniB 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋