Why are some guys so revengeful? I mean he and I are divorced, share a child and yet he just cannot stop being a "DICK". He has a woman and has other kids...why can't he just try at least to get along with me? We are fighting for custody of our daughter now for almost 2 years and is ongoing.......why can't he just stop his crap and grow up? Sick of his crap!
2006-10-31 03:14:56 · 7 answers · asked by MOM OF ONE 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have tried so hard to just get along and like this morning he calls screaming and yelling at me for visitation when it is NOT his time with her. I have told him "lets just get along" but he refuses. He continues to play the game....now what?
2006-10-31 03:27:57 · update #1
Difficult to say without really knowing the two of you. However, from the way is sounds, he is simply emotionally immature. The balanced mind would suggest that such behavior not only hurts you, but does not benefit his daughter, his new wife or his own sense of harmony in this world. Unfortunately, he's not going to listen to you. If he's going to get past this, maybe he needs the advice of a good councilor, but how that happens is another issue. In the meantime, if you have a good lawyer and if needed, a restraining order against him, then if you are a fit mother, the legal process should normally award you continuation as the primary. Good luck.
2006-10-31 03:27:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because love can turn to hate. And that kind of hate is the worst kind. The kind that taints the soul and sickens the heart. Why should he get along with you when are still fighting over something? What would happen if you told him that you don't want to fight, that you want to leave the anger behind, and just get along with him until all is settled... for your child's sake, if for nothing else? Then you can part ways and never worry about each other. If he thinks you're the bad guy and are the cause of all this bad blood, then I'm sure what it would take. Saying the above might be a step in the right direction.
2006-10-31 03:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by Dark Prince of Pomp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It definitely sounds like he is vengeful and possibly immature as well. I am also assuming these two characteristics were also prevalent in your marriage which probably led to its demise. Since you know he is this way just let your lawyer do the talking. I would also keep a little notepad of any communication you have with him. THe support checks and any other support he may provide (Extra clothes and the such) Also keep tabs of how diligent he is with his visitation and the times he returns. Just give these notes to your lawyer and they can use them if needed. Good luck to you.
2006-10-31 03:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by tom4texas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should realize that hate is not the opposite of love. Apathy is the opposite of love. He may be acting outis because he is upset that he still cares and is angry at himself for caring, so he does something mean to prove to himself that he doesn't care.
Some people think being revengeful will get them back what they lost or at least convince themselves they didn't lose anything. It doesn't. All it does is show the world you are still in pain about something.
2006-10-31 03:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can be many thing that make a man do thing in your case it can be some beside your ex pulling the stings some new wife or ex mother in-law wont to have the child on there tum. and what make you think your ex is a dick is he being told to . what you might wont to do is go and see if you can get his family on your side and then try to keep custody of your child .. good luck
2006-10-31 03:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You hold all the aces in this game. If you wanted to you could be a real BIT*H. But i don't think that's in your nature. Some men just never grow up. Good Luck.
2006-10-31 03:35:27 · answer #6 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear "Mom",
It sounds as if he has taken a different path in life. One of revenge and pain. Please do not take this to heart, as it will destroy all that you have worked so hard to preserve. If you let him get under your skin, he will win!!! It is all in his head, this twisted, sorted, mind game he has invented to make you pay for the sins of his ways. If ever you wish to vent, please allow me to help....
Huggs and Kisses,,,,
Lonnie
2006-10-31 03:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋