2006-10-31 03:13:41 · 8 answers · asked by purplelemon06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There is a saying which is, "If love dies, it wasn't love in the first place". Why did you get married at the beginning?? I suggest you read in the Bible, I Corinthians 13 "The Love Chapter" to find out what true love is and isn't. Love is patient and kind and seeks not its own way at the expense of others. It is such that is expressed by one person giving their life to save another person. This doesn't mean that there aren't rocky times, but the overcoming thing is if you let love bloom and bear fruit like it was supposed to be. I can say that after 28 years of marriage, that following the above chapter of the Bible has made a world of difference. Try it and you might get a new perspective and what's more, you might find that there really is love deep inside somewhere and all you have to do is let it come out.
If there are still problems after trying this, then I suggest that you seek out professional help from a Bible believing pastor or counselor. Way back 12 years ago there was something that made you decide to get married. You need to find it and rekindle the fire that once was there. You could also maybe find a marriage enrichment group and take their course with your spouse. You might find that what you had before has just been buried and needs to be dug out.
2006-10-31 03:25:08 · answer #1 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal even after 2 years of marriage for some people.
Depends on a marriage.
2006-10-31 03:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by Michael R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel bored why not spice things up ? Start taking each other on dates , spend more time doing things together . A relationship grows stale when there is no attention given to it and it takes both of you to make it not boring . Give each other little love notes in unexpected places . Call your spouse and say I Love you at unexpected times . Have a romantic dinner at home and lavish attention on each other . You have made it this far and there is obviously love there so do not give up on it now . A marriage takes work , and it takes two to make it work so work at keeping it from being boring .Good Luck and God Bless
2016-05-22 17:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to ask yourself is this: have you been harbouring feelings of anger about things that you have not discussed or resolved with your spouse. And it may simply be the fact that after 12 years you have grown apart.
2006-10-31 03:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by bttrfly0724 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's Normal! However you might want to think about What made you fall in Love in the beginning, Keep trying don't give up if you really love your spouse.
2006-10-31 03:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by mom2one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-01 14:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I am not married but by seeing my mom and dad who are not together after 10 years I do think so.
2006-10-31 03:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by Loka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal...unfortunately so. If you two were to grow together instead of apart...it wouldn't be that way. Honestly!
2006-10-31 03:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by MOM OF ONE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋