What do you do when the people you love fail?

Answer 1

You just learn to accept the fact that we are all human and extremely susceptible to falling short in someones eyes. Have no expectations, and you will have no disappointments.

Answer 2

It depends on what you mean by 'fail'.....
if they have 'failed' themselves in some way, let themselves down in some way ..... if you really love them then it won't change how you feel - how you feel is about them not about what they can or cannot do/ have or don't have .....
if on the othe hand you mean 'fail'ed you .... then that's another matter ,,,,, it's very hard for any one of us to have our trust broken, our convictions proved wrong ...... you must then reconsider your own values and decide whether you set the goals too high, were your expectations of that person too high, were your expectations of that person really your own superimposed on them, did you maybe really not 'see the wood for the trees' - that what you saw in them was what you wanted to see and not what was really there .... no-one can answer any of that except you - and no-one can advise you on what to do about that .... you must follow your own heart and instincts .....

I would however like to bring in to this a little philosophy of my own - it has stood me in good stead and is something I teach to each and every one of my students every day in every class I take ..... you can never be a failure if you try - the only failure there is is not trying - even if you don't meet your targets or find out you set your targets too high - so long as you try you will always be a winner ......

So I would say to you that if you loved this person, really loved them - and for whatever reason it didn't work out through no fault of your own = then their 'failure' in not returning that love is their loss of your love - your success is that you tried and you know what it is to love someone - when you meet the right person then they will appreciate you a thousand times over for the love you have to give ......

Hope this helps ......

Answer 3

That is a good question....i am going through something simular. I think all you can do is to continue to love them...I found out that when i expect people to do the things i do out of love and caring, they do not always. i inturn am quite disappointed. It is a hard thing to go through...I do not have much family, so this incudes friends. Some people do not show love the same way.

ps i wasnt sure if you meant they failed at something and you hurt for them or they failed you...

If they failed and need encouragement..help them and be there for them. That is what we do for people we love.

Answer 4

When you love someone, in your eyes they never fail

Answer 5

Perhaps they have'nt failed , they might just have not come up your expectations of them , but either way if you love them then the old saying , love conquers all , will prevail .

Answer 6

Proceed in search of people who you love and sure that they will not fail.

Answer 7

You have to remember that nobody is perfect. We all fail. You have to be supportive, and help him/her move past it, and learn from the failure.

Answer 8

be there to give support for them and make them understand that we are only human and saying that we all fail sometimes or onother in our life we are not perfect.

Answer 9

I can't believe the first answer, "move on", what the f*ck! Love is unconditional! You be their for them, you provide encouragement, you do the best you can and stick by their side.

Answer 10

If you love them , be there for them