Please if you've had children or are pregnant now, whathappens? I am so curious... I'm 25 and my boyfriend and I want a baby boy. I am really scared, but I want to have the experience. I want twins. I think there's a big secret about it that I haven't been told yet, and I really would like to know the truth. Thanks!
2006-10-31 03:05:34 · 20 answers · asked by theskyisthelimit02 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Its an amazing experience. You have a life of someone inside you and you know that it will all depend on you. and its yours andyour boyfriend's only forever. You don't need to be scared. Maybe its best for your health to be happy with everything. Girl or boy ! after all that 9 months of waiting you won't disappointe yourself, after all its nature Good luck and God Bless You
2006-10-31 03:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could probably get the "What to Expect" series - ". . . when you're Expecting" "with newborns" "the toddler years", etc. Those are great guides to let you know a bit about what you might be able to expect - but only in general. As usual, life is never like it is in the books.
I think that every pregnancy is going to be different, because everyone has different experiences. My first born was born with a physical defect which was totally unpredictable. The cause of which is unknown in medical science. He was colicy for about 10 months, was preterm and gave me gestational diabetes (I'm slim and petite and atypical). The whole experience was a rollercoaster of emotions. My second came 18 months later. That was the first surprise. Although experience buffered me for the gestational diabetes and her preterm delivery as well (I was actually on bed rest for over a month in the hospital). Obviously though not everyone goes through that, and in general, most people have fairly non-eventful pregnancies. But again, there are all variations. I've had one friend (petitie asian) married to a 6 foot blond, who ended up with 10 pound babies (she was dying to get those kids out). I've had others who threw up all the time and couldn't stand the scent of food. But in the end, I think my girlfriends would agree with me when I say that I wouldn't change a thing. These are my children, and they are a blessing in so many ways. All the other bumps and hurdles. . . that's life, honey.
I will just give one warning. My sister had a child early, and I was involved in her care as well as some cousins. I felt that I was ready, even though I knew there was a lot of work. In retrospect, what I thought was probably 10 times less than what I experience. My partner says he was probably 100 times off the mark. For instance, in order to work and still get home in time to pick up the kids from day care, he's up at 4am, works 8 hours, commutes back home, picks up the kids, does chores, cooks dinner, and has them bathed. I'm up at 7am to get them ready for school, work until 6pm and don't get home until late to start the cycle anew. To get it so we can minimize paying for daycare, I often work weekends.
Again, I wouldn't change anything (other than if I could win the lottery), but just realize that kids are a lot of work, and require a lot of sacrifice. . . and that work continues until you die. The jobs change, but the responsibilty will always be there. This is going to double with twins. You should make sure that your boyfriend is also painfully aware of this, because being a boyfriend may give him an escape clause from becoming your husband and father if the going gets rough.
My friends without kids can't understand why the last movie we saw was Lord of the Rings, or why we don't feel inclined to go camping with a 2 and 3 year old at the last moments notice. We have no energy, but again, it's offset by our great kids.
2006-10-31 11:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by Gina S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm on my 2nd pregnancy...they have both been pretty uneventful. I have had very little nausea, but a severe dislike for many foods. I also find that I fill up very quickly. My biggest problem has been swollen ankles and hands. I had toxemia with my first daughter, and I have placenta previa with this one, so I really don't know what a "normal" pregnancy is like. I was in labor with my daughter for almost 4 hours with no complications and very little pain, thanks to an epidural. The first time I was pregnant, I dreamed that I gave birth to a huge litter of puppies-I think there were 16 or 17. The other night I dreamed that I gave birth to a head with no body or appendages. In short, everyone's pregnancy is different, but you shouldn't have kids until your boyfriend is actually committed enough to marry you and support you...he might decide that he doesn't want to be a dad halfway through, and then you're alone with a kid. Best of luck!
2006-10-31 11:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by rdnck_grl_ms_007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the person.
I never experienced morning sickness (over a third of women NEVER do), only gained 20 pounds, never had *any* symptoms until I was 6 months, and that symptom was my pants getting tight! I did get sciatica for a month, which hurt like a mo-fo. giving birth...I don't know...I have a high pain tolerance. I was only in labor for 8 hours start to finish, but I was having contractions so hard they were cutting off oxygen to the baby. If you have a low pain tolerance, that might hurt. I think the "after" was more painful than actually giving birth. Everything was QUITE sore down there for a few days.
My best friend was sick with morning sickness for six months straight, though, gained 60 pounds, and gave birth at home (planned). It depends on each person. It even differs from pregnancy to pregnancy.
2006-10-31 14:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by katheek77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 13 weeks pregnant, I don't think there are any secrets being kept from the non-pregnant, but do think that a lot of pregnant woman forget about the symptoms after the baby is born, so when you ask them questions they can't remember their morning sickness being that bad, or being very tired. I will tell you that being pregnant is definitely not glamorous, I feel like all I do is eat and sleep and wait to eat and sleep between the eating and the sleeping. MY husband thinks I'm crazy for all the sleeping and the daylight savings time is really affecting me too. Good Luck in your journey, I wish you a pregnancy without morning sickness :)
2006-10-31 11:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by krista_focus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know about you having twins. But hey you never know. Well I have two beautiful kids. One girl and my son. It's very nice when you are pregnant. But oh my gosh, those morning sickness can kill you.lol!! Mine were all day until night time. I was very ill, so I just had to take it easy. We could not have sex, so who know how you feel and if your Dr. tells you no sex. Well No sex. It does hurt so if you can get the epidural. I hope I spelled it right. I did not have one with my son. It killed me. He was so big. He was 10 pounds. It was to late for me to have an epidural. With my daughter I had one, but with her it was so eay. I got there at 11 something in the morning and by 12:30 she was here. My son like I told you he was big and it did hurt since he also had a big head. lol! It did hurt more but I was inly in labor for about 1 hour and 30 min. I just hope your pregnacy goes smooth and that you dont get as sick as other women do. take care and good luck. Being a mother changes everything. So just be ready and have all the fun you can have right now. B/c once those babies are here you will be at home with them. I'm a stay at home mom. Take care.
2006-10-31 11:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by ~Maria~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone's pregnancy is different. Each child you carry is different. I have an 8 years old son and am 28 weeks pregnant now. Both have been different. You can't pick the sex of your child or how many you will have. Look on the internet at different sites. They can give you insite on how the average pregnancy goes from conception to birth. There are no real secrets. Your body will do the work. It already knows what to do.
2006-10-31 11:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by lnlyheart123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it really like. I am not sure you really want to know, but During the first three months, you will suffer from Heartburn, Morning sickness. Backaches galore. You will feel ugly and unloved as time goes by and when you begin Labor, you will go through the worst time of your life. Your heart will pound and finally when the baby emerges, you will have the most loving motherly feeling you ever had in your life and you will then know what it is like to be a woman. You have just given birth to a friend for life.
I thank goodness I am a Man.
Jaread
2006-10-31 11:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
as much as you will hear a raft of answers about what you will see , feel , hear and experience...remember EVERY pregnancy is different. there are som esimilarities but there are also too many variables to have surity that a certain thing will happen except that everything you have ever had happen so far will change hopefully for the better the two children that are in my life and family since birth has been a boon to me
short note when you become with child(s) just listen to your doc and enjoy life
2006-10-31 11:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by Bucky411_hit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no secret about being pregnant. First you get pregnant, then you are pregnant with the aches, pains, and morning sickness (but not everyone is the same). Then after that you have the baby. The only big deal about getting pregnant is it is a joyus occasion and a little miracle but other than that nothing.
2006-10-31 11:11:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋