I live with my boyfriend as his two hot roomates. My boyfriend works swing shift so I'm with his roommates at night alone. One of the roommates has openly asked me to sleep with him. I have known him for a long time and don't think he would say anything. I would like to have sex with him - should I???
2006-10-31 03:04:46 · 39 answers · asked by Zoe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No if you feel like having sex with someone else you should just leave your boyfriend you aviously dont care about his feelings because if he did find out he would lose a friend and his girlfriend. Do the right thing remeber what goes around comes around you wouldnt like to find out that he is having sex with some gurl while you thought he was at work.
2006-10-31 03:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by lola 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! I'm concerned that you are asking the wrong question, which you should be asking yourself. Why you are even considering cheating? Currently unhappy with boyfriend, maybe? Then either resolve the issues and fix them 2gether or be fair/honest to yourself and boyfriend and agree to move on separately. NO! CHEATIN! What if the roles were switched, Would you feel deceived? At some point the guilt will haunt you, (wouldn't it) as far as nothing being said, do not trust that, it seems as you don't even trust yourself to be faithful much less trusting someone else to keep a secret. Please have respect for yourself. Who knows, maybe when/if you are free to love someone else, well then you go girl! Go find that hot roomy! Until then do not start something new til you end the old. Good Luck in making the right decision! Looking at fine items of life is only natural though!!
2006-10-31 03:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by flowermama1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you NO! But, I have also learned that people will do what they want to do, and often ask my opinion so that they can justify their actions.
Your boyfriend sounds like a great guy, who loves you for more then the fact that your hot in the sack. He deserves more honor and respect from you then what you're thinking of doing. How would you feel if he ever did the same thing to you? You honestly think you're relationship will ever be the same again? Trust me, the next time you and he made love, he would know.
Also, once you and his friend did it once, it would become more common. Sooner or later, your boyfriend would find out, and that would be two relationships (he with you as his girlfriend, as well as he and his friend) that you would have to live with the shame of having ruined.
Thirdly, what kind of friend would do such a thing with his buddy's girl? You really want to sleep with such a snake?? And, if he'd do this to his friend when his back is turned, what would stop him from blackmailing you, by threating to tell your boyfriend what happened every time you didn't do what this guy wanted you to do?
Look, I can give you all the other reasons why you shouldn't do it, but you're going to make up your own mind on this issue regardless. Only thing I will say to you in closing is to ask yourself what it would be like to live with the guilt of what you did afterwards, along with the pressure of his boyfriend threating to tell on you at any moment, worth the 30 seconds to a minute of an orgasism? If it is, then I would strongly suggest you reevaluate your priorities and values in life, not only for your sake, but also for the sake of your boyfriend who loves, honors, and trusts you.
2006-10-31 03:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you would like to have sex with him then do it but break up with your boyfriend first. There isn't a reason to cheat either you want your boyfriend or you want to play the field but you can't have both. Not for long anyway the truth will find a way to come out. Think about how you would feel if your boyfriend had sex with your sister or your best friend and ask yourself if you want to put the man you love through that kind of pain
2006-10-31 03:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how long have u had this boyfriend and can you honestly see yourself in a marriage with him. If all answers are no then who knows his roommate might be ur mr. right u never really know. Before u do realize every action has a reaction, are u ready for what might happen, if so drink a little bit u might be able to say u were drunk and did not mean anything by it.
2006-10-31 07:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by erker34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to cheat on your boyfriend, go ahead and do it, because the truth will come out! Cheating is wrong, and I don't understand why you're looking for another "source," simply because your boyfriend works swing shift and you're doing things with one of his roommates that you have no business doing! Besides, if your boyfriend finds out that you're cheating on him, don't blame him for breaking up with you because this was your fault! If you love your boyfriend that much, you wouldn't do something so stupid like that!
2006-10-31 03:09:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe is a trick between him and your boyfriend. What is behind all of this is your boyfriend and he is trying to see how faithful you would be.. what if he is ready to take it to the next level of getting married but because of your STUPIDITY you messed things up... Come to think about it, maybe you would deserve being kicked to curve. Is sucks when you give youself 100% and someone like you for a night stand just trows everything away.
2006-10-31 03:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, you need to do what you feel. It all depends how serious you are with your boyfriend. I am sure the temptations alone is unbarable. Do what you think is right. You know what if that is a test between the guys and your boyfriend to see if you actually will cheat? Think about it!
2006-10-31 03:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by CHRISSY K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, if you see no problem with this why not.
Maybe in the middle of the night you can do the other roomate too and make and then when boyfriend gets home complete the cycle.
Make a few movies..............you could be a star...............
2006-10-31 04:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time for you to leave your boyfriend. If you are so willing to fulfill someone else's request for sex, you should not be in a relationship. Leave the boyfriend, and do all the sleeping around you want.
2006-10-31 03:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋