My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. in the start it was awesome, he always wanted to go do things, took me to the movies, out to dinner, we had a great time.. then we started having problems and I made a very huge mistake on something. I regret what had happend. but now my boyfriend has been wanting to stay home, play his xbox, play online poker, and hang out with this one friend of his (thats a male), we never go to see a movie anymore. and for our 2 year annaversary he told me he didn't have the money to take me out and that we were going to go the following week. so I said ok thats fine.. well it's been 5 months and he still hasn't taken me so I told him to forget it. now there is this girl that always wants to hang around him, I asked her if she liked him and she said no.. well 2 weeks after i asked her she went to my bf and ran her mouth sayin I was saying all this other stuff.. He tells me she is just a friend and even though she went lesbo I still don't trust her.
2006-10-31 02:59:36 · 23 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I trust my boyfriend but he doesn't understand why I don't trust her.. He never wants to talk to me much anymore. when he says he'll call he never does.. I'm tired of tryin to make this work. I'm about ready to give up.. But If I tell him it's over. is there a chance he'll wake up and figure out he messed up by treating me bad and want to try to come back?
2006-10-31 03:01:08 · update #1
Every relationship is like this after a couple of years. You need to keep some excitment in your lives. Try to do diff things or try to act like you are interested in what he likes. As for this girl, don't worry she is a dyke and is trying to start trouble. Tell you b/f that you don't appreciate him hannging around such a person who likes to stir trouble and makes up stories.
2006-10-31 03:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..... it does sound like you all are having some issues. The first one is communication if he's not talking anymore that's a sign of a problem. Although they say that men are less emotional and they can't express their feeling very easily. All that I can say is that you just chill out for a while....yourself. That doesn't mean that you have to break up with him but quit thinking about it so much and take some personal time to yourself to re-evaluate what you want. The worse thing you can do at this point is stress yourself even more. Get close to you right now so that in the end if you have to walk away you will have the strength to do so. Yes its going to hurt...but relationships aren't easy. As for him....I'm wondering what his zodiac sign is. If he's a Virgo...LOL than this behavior is just what they do. They come and they go. It's not that they don't love you it's just that they need space sometimes. If he's not a Virgo than I can't really explain his behavior all I can say is that there is something wrong. Perhaps he needs space or just gotten too comfortable in the relationship that he feels that he doesn't need to do what he used to do. Who knows? You need to talk to him though but take your time because when you talk to him you need to make sure that he understands that you are serious and at your wits end. I really hope this helps. If you need any extra advice just email me and I will try to help you as much as I can. Remember tough times don't last long and NEVER TRUST that female because she was lying and she doesn't care about you obviously if she went behind your back and told him what you asked her.
2006-10-31 11:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The number one thing in a relationship is trust if you and you loved one does not trust eachother than there really isn't any point in staying together... but also you have tolooak at every relationship has itz ups and downs.. so maybe this is they time for you two to just do your own thing for a minor minute and see what happens between the two of you... because everything happens for a reason.. if it is meant to be then you two will get back together if you not take it as it is and be good friends... and move on.... life is too short to stress over little things.. but always follow your heart. if youfee like something is wrong then go with your gut instinct. but remember you can make your story have a bad ending or a good ending... you are in control of your story...
2006-10-31 11:08:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is exactly why you date awhile before you get married. Men and woman change and this is a prime example of that. People always make the best of the relationship in the beginning and then start changing up and showing you the real them. Some people keep it real from the very beginning so you know what to expect but when a person changes this dramatically and your unhappy, its time to make a change. As for the girl that is running off at the mouth, if your bf is allowing her to come between you and him, then he is not worth the effort and time you will have to put in this relationship to get it back on track. Drop that zero and continue your search for a better man.
2006-10-31 11:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by Kendra J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but unless you take some seriously drastic action this relationship is headed for the toilet. You didnt say what the mistake was so i will make the assummtion that you cheated on him. If thats the case then it would explain why he has you as a hangeron. If i was you I would just accept that it is over and move on. I know leavijng a long relationship is hard but its alot better than staying where you arent wanted.
2006-10-31 11:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by bonfireheat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By your information, I think there is a big misunderstanding between your bf and u. Try talking to him, not over phone, and tell him how much you trust him. If he is not responding properly, then please avoid the topic of the girl. Telling your bf, why u dont trust this girl and trying to prove, she told bad stuff about u, would only make things worser. Try to forget the incident and continue as before. As for the anniversary incident, i personally think, if he had no money to spend, you must've spent it. He only seems dejected and does not want to break up, coz he is not looking for another girl. So best of luck!
2006-10-31 11:07:02 · answer #6 · answered by Mermaid♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your boyfriend and find out why he isn't talking to you at all, and not doing the things that he wants to do with you. I know you love him, but if this pattern continues, then I think it would be best if you end it with him. You deserve better than that! Good luck to you and hopefully it work out for the best! By the way, tell his female friend to back off because she needs to mind her own business!Those aren't the type of people no one can't trust!
2006-10-31 11:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently what u did in the past he still haven't gotten over it and now u asked your self will he ever.....
Try talking to him because it don't make sense being in a relationship and living like this sometimes love is not the only thing to keep a relationship going....Its a combinetation.........
Keep an open mind about the girl she might be a les but its easy to turn bi-s........
2006-10-31 11:07:17 · answer #8 · answered by tutsie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy I can tell you that he has lost interest. Best thing to do is break it off. Chances are he'll do a complete 180 and then you'll have to decide if you want to take him back or not.
2006-10-31 11:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by ksmpmjoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like hes getting dis interested or whatever you did that you regret has affected him a lot. You need to talk to him and figure out whats going on with you two. If its something that cant be mended, then move on.
2006-10-31 11:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by cheerbarbie729 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋