Why do women do stupid things that make the rest of us look bad?

Question

have you noticed that women constantly do, say and wear stupid things that ruin womankind's credibility for the rest of us?
Women...

Stay with men that beat them.

Have 3 kids by 3 different men, and then complain they can't find a decent guy.

Don't think before they speak or act; classic keyword here being "it seemed like a good idea at the time".

Wear slutty clothes and wonder why they are not taken seriously, or get unwanted attention.

Let themselves go after having kids.

Of course, I am female so don't say I'm sexist! And I'm not saying men don't do some of the same stupid things. I just wonder why we as women feel the need to play into so many stereotypes, and screw not only ourselves over, but other women as well!

Wanted to add, that by no means do I accuse ALL women of doing ALL of the above... or is my list by any means all-inclusive!

Also, I'm not perfect AT ALL, never claimed to be!

I'm married (5 years, never divorced) with 2 kids, and was pregnant when we got married (although all we did was push up an already planned date by a couple months).

I didn't continue my education after high school because I got married young and had kids (I'm in school now to finish my degree).

I've done my share of stupid things, but I accept responsibility and learn from them!

And yes this was a broad generalization, because it was a broad, general topic. I just want women to realize we are all guilty of something at some point, to raise awareness and hopefully make some women grow up a little and think about their actions!

Answer 1

Angel S, first welcome to Yahoo! Answers. You've answered a lot of questions in your first day!

There are two sides to my answer. First I think you raise a few valid points. Second, the things I dislike in one woman don't (consciously, at least) make "the rest" of you look bad. I am as careful as possible not to generalize, and to realize every woman--every person--is an individual first, *then* a member of various gender, age, ethnic and social groups. (I dislike women generalizing about men, as well.)

It sounds as if you don't consciously lump all women together, and have taken responsibility for your own mistakes, both of which are admirable.

Now on to your points...

Yes, many women *do* stay with men who beat them, or are abusive to them emotionally. Many men do the same thing, I'm afraid (more commonly with emotional abuse). I can understand the fears and insecurities which drive these people, but it is ultimately bad for them, and looks stupid to some on the outside.

Not thinking before speaking or acting is a pet peeve of mine! But I don't attribute that trait to women; just people in general. A great deal of life's--and the world's--problems can be attributed to people not bothering to use their heads!

As for wearing "slutty" clothes... I don't think these women should automatically not be taken seriously. Clothing is a choice, not necessarily a reflection of seriousness or sincerity. But I totally agree with you about the "unwanted attention!" I have no sympathy for a woman who dresses in a sexually provocative way and then whines about the "creeps" who are looking at her. While I'm not a creep (and I'm not considered one by women), I am a heterosexual male. If you dress that way, I'm going to look, dammit! Sorry {with sarcasm} that you can't get just the hottest guys to look at you and hit on you... but if you want to choose the guys, GET OFF YOUR HOT BEHIND and do something pro-active, like approach a man, ask him out... take a chance instead of playing the tease and not risking anything, as men have to when they approach you! (You struck a nerve, Angel.)

In a similar vein, I have no sympathy--or patience--for women who b____ about the *ways* guys approach them, when some of these women have never tried to initiate anything. While I have no doubt that some of the approaches and lines guys use are silly, offensive, or whatever, you have little right to complain, in my opinion, if you just sit around waiting, and have never tried it, yourself. What hubrice! "You're silly... get lost... you're ridiculous... jerk!... [or the ever-popular movie scene of a guy getting a drink in his face]...Now, who else will approach my throne and try to 'win' me?"

Screw that! While I always try to be open and sincere, I can feel for some of these guys. Those silly "lines" some of them use often come from fear of that very rejection, and just not knowing how to make the move... something the women usually don't have to experience!

I see your other points, as well, but they didn't hit me at a gut level to where I wanted to respond.

But again, I try not to let these irritants affect my judgement of other women. I know there are so many wonderful ones out there. Many of them have been my friends. :-)

I hope your goal of raising some awareness and motivating a few women to "grow up" succeeds, Angel.

Answer 2

Yes but only those of her kind. Then again they seem to enjoy the publicity and the mass media seems to enjoy following them wherever they go. It is all fun for them. Nothing is serious. With the kind of money they have, they can do everything. If they adopt poor children, all the reporters will be there taking photos and making them look so good in the eyes of the world. Just read the magazines. Read the newspaper. Watch the television. These sort of people are being adored and admired and worshipped. We can't be like them but we have our own lives and so let us concentrate on living our own lives.

Answer 3

Sometimes things develop because of background, the world we live in and current surroundings, and,just like how some men are crude,rude, nasty or just plain piggish- some women are just that way. Due in part to lack of education, intelligence or both. And some chose to and could be really smart-just need to go on what not to where (and do!)I think that my concern is if anyone thought it of me,either by my choice of friends, my behavior or my dress!

Answer 4

Why do you consider that another woman's behaviour might change my opinion of you?
Why do you think that all women are considered to be the same?

Do you think all Americams are the same? And all French men the same?

I know they are not. I know that they are all different. So this is in fact almost proof that because another woman behaves in a particular way, then you are LESS likely to behave in that way, because all women are different. All men too for that matter.
If we were all clones, we wouldn't have different fingerprints, and different DNA, would we?

Answer 5

OK I did come to the conclusion with my mother-in-law. Some women just like to be treated like S*#t and like for a man to tell them what to do. It is easier for them to have some one make all there decisions for them and be treated badly for it then have to stand up for themselves. In some cases it is cause some women are scared to leave, do to their situation, weather it is for there life, being lonely, living alone, or what ever the cause maybe. I wish some woman that go though life scared can see that there is much more for them than what is being handed to them.

Answer 6

While I don't know the answer, I totally agree with you! I have so many friends who do all of the above mentioned. I hate seeing it all. And they think I'm old and stodgy because I don't wear slutty clothes or poop out babies.

Answer 7

There are people in every "category" who ruin it for the whole group. I guess thats what different situations, preferences, lifestyles, beliefs, addictions, and personalities do to people!!

Answer 8

I know what you mean! Different people react to different events I guess... depends on how they were brought up...culture

Answer 9

I'm assuming you think you're perfect? Because if you do, you have a serious character flaw, yourself. Don't judge others lest you be judged.

Answer 10

I don't consider what other women do to be a reflection of me.