It's me again preganant and 15 years old......?

Question

I'm sorry I should have gave yall a little bit more details. Well I just got a job and in December I'm about to turn 16 years old and my mom was about to give me her car. My boyfriend he got a car and a job. Both of us is really doing good for ourself. But know since this mistake happpen I really been down and depressed. On my last question I wrote I got criticize alot but in way I needed it. I got put down alot. Both of our parents meet each other. I'm not all that concerned about his life my life is big part of this too. I;m the one have to live and raise this child. He cares about what going to happen with me and my parents than him and his paents. And yes we was use protection things do happen you know. If you walk in my high school I go to now you see my pregnant girl thane you would see in the mall. But I am ashame of what is going on. All i can do is cry my heart out. But I want some answer that's going to help me and not put me down............

Answer 1

I know that it must be hard being so young and pregnant, but you have no idea what is ahead of you, its hard being a mom. But hopefully you will have some help, b/c you will probably need it.But as I see it, everything happens for a reason

Answer 2

You're lucky your parents are supportive, that's what you need the most right now. You can't change the past, what's happened has happened. All you can do now is make the best of a very bad situation.

Whatever you do, make sure you continue your education somehow. You'll never get anywhere being a high school drop out with a kid.

Just do the best you can do, and take your parents help and advice that they're willig to give. Don't let this happen to you again!! You'll have enough on your hands.

Answer 3

First off ignore these idiots that slam you. You know it was a mistake and you're having a hard enough time already; don't let them put you down.

i'm 19 and my high school was just like that. It was kinda sudden, most of the girls got pregnant. But my friend got pregnant at your age and she is doing great!

Her son is going on 3 in a few months. She is a manager at her job and she is still in college. She has a family that wants to help her. It seems your family wants to help too. Maybe they are not happy about it but they may really want to help you.

Her boyfriend is a on and off father, but they are doing just fine. And my 2 cousins are going through this too. One was 14 and the other is 18. They are both doing well.

At time things are going to seem horrible and you won't see the good in things that happen but keep strong and try to cheer up.

Answer 4

First off you should worry less about finding a job and more about getting an education. Even if it is a usual thing to see in your high school (a pregnant teenager), which, god I hope not, that it so sad, it doesn't make the sisuation okay. You need to think about what is going to be best for your child. Are you going to be able to provide for it, care for it, etc. I'm going to guess from the improper English that you are using that you will be elegable for government funding (sorry to judge but just a hunch), if so be sure if you haven't already to get yourself to the welfare office and apply for WIC. I really do hope all goes well, even though you are still very young, babies are a special gift that you should charish.

Answer 5

I'm sorry you are going through a rough time. If I was you, I would go to a planned parenthood or another counseling office in your area. They can help give you all of the options available to you. They can give you counseling about dealing with the pregnancy and with tell your family. Your still a baby yourself. Go out and get yourself some help. When you do tell your parents, expect them to be upset and angry. They only want what is best for you. Explain to them that you have looked into your options and would like their advice on how to proceed. This is a decision only you can make. Good luck. I hope things go well for you. Get some counseling. There are also hotlines that you can call. Check the blue pages in you local phone book for human services or counseling services. Even contact welfare of children and youth services. Any of these may be able to help you or get you in the right direction.

Answer 6

Necy, sorry, I think my previous answer was one of the one that put you down. I understood you didn't use contraception, as you said that you were attempting this kind of thing to happen. You don't have to be ashamed of your pregnancy, but I can only advise you to think about the abortion . I certainly don't want to influence you or to tell you that it is the only solution, but really think about it. I know the vision of abortion is not the same in Europe than US, but try not to be influenced by anyone, nor your parents, nor your boyfriend, because as you said, you'll be the one who raised the child, so you're the only one who will decide what to do in the end. My only advise would be to tell your parents as soon as possible. I can easily imagine that that will be one of the most difficult discussion you'll have to have with them, but I don't think waiting until they discover it should be the right decision. What I understood from your previous message is that they would be in favour of the abortion, so if you want to keep the foetus, you should start showing them you're an adult, so try not acting like a child on this subject. That will certainly be very difficult to talk to them, but I can promise you'll be relieved after, because waiting and trying to hide must be so stressful for you. Be sure you'll always find people to help you out here, or in your real life!

Answer 7

Be Strong and enjoy the life that is growing in you! It may seem hard to take at this young age but you will at least have the energy needed to chase after your child! Also, ANY child is a blessing no matter how old the mother is when she has it. You are going to be your toughest critic, no one needs to make you feel bad for something that happened. I would just suggest that if you are going to continue to have sex, I would just use two forms of birth control to better ensure that you won't get pregnant again before you are more ready. Best of luck to you and the baby.

Answer 8

Don't stress yourself out too much. Now is a good time to learn what people in your life are really there for you. I'm sorry that you have been feeling so blue but you deserve a lot of respect for facing the criticism and owning up to your responsibility. I wish there were more teens like you who could have the courage needed when put into your situation. Here are a few things you can do to improve the chances of having a healthy baby:

•Get early and regular prenatal care from a health care provider or clinic.
•Eat a nutritious and balanced diet.
•Stop smoking (and avoiding secondhand smoke). Smoking increases the risk of low birth weight, premature birth, stillbirth and pregnancy complications.
•Stop drinking alcohol and/or using illicit drugs. Alcohol and drug use limits fetal growth and can cause birth defects.
•Avoid all prescription and over-the-counter drugs (including herbal preparations), unless recommended by a health care provider who is aware of the pregnancy.

Best of luck to you and your precious little one.

Answer 9

First, I think that you are very lucky to have your parents support with the 1st child, when some of my friends got pregnant early, they had to fend 4 themselves, and by you getting pregnant again is just showing your parents that you are ungrateful and wants to do what you want to do. Having a baby does not necessarily mean that you are a mother, that takes time as you and your children grow, I wish that you could have enjoyed your teen years more. Your child's father and you should be more considerate when it came to having sex and making babies, because of your age and experience level, I doubt that your new job will cover two children, you and him should have calmed down with the sex, and focused on your one child, however, things happened, and you as a child have to make another adult decision, whatever you do continue to be a good mother, and try to support your child or children, and Pray. Remember it is your body and you have a choice in what to do, you might be very confused as far as what you want to do, but if you are determined no one can stop you!!!!! Best of wishes

GOD BLESS!!!!!!

Answer 10

I have to say I agree with alot of what has already been said. The big thing to remember is that you need to make a life for both you and this new baby now. Education is still something you need in your life. I'm sure its hard to take the harsh comments that are coming your way but just remember you need to stick it out with school so that you can make a good life for the two of you.

Answer 11

OK well I was a mom at the age of 15 myself..

It was very hard for me to tell my parents.. I was in a different situation I did not live at home. At first my Dad and Step Mom were very mad. After time they were better...

My Mom was a little upset but very supportive.
You need to get the Dr and Stay in School.. I was not able to stay in school due to alot of health problems.. I did finish..

It is not easy to be a "young Mom".. You can never say for sure that you're boyfriend will always be there for you and the baby, Just remember that. Boy's aren't ready to settle down. I would never change having my daughter but i wish i was older when I started my family. I pulled down my pants to play so I had to pull out my wallet and pay.. I was lucky though and was with the father for 6yrs.. We just got divorced not to long ago..

You need to sit down with you're parents and tell them what happened, There will be anger, disappoint, hurt. You need to tell them that what it is that you are wanting to do.. As in Keep the baby or whatever. Like I said it was not easy but I Loved every min of it..

You need to get the Dr soon as you are young and they need to make sure that you are OK..

Good Luck.