BABYMAMA DRAMA-IT SUX
my husband and I have been married 4 mos. his ex has his child, we live 500 miles apart but i still let her get under my skin. maybe its because I look forward to experiencing parenthood with him, and he has already been there done that. other than his past, he is the man for me. I love him more than anything, but his ex really drives me crazy. first of all she just filed for child support, she hasnt let my husband or i see that child in over a year. she prank callls us, she lies and says the kids in the hospital just so he will call her back, she tells us one day we can take her for a week and the next day he cant see her if i am around. I know it is just silly little mind games but i cant seem to deal with it. our relationship is going downhill because i am always unhappy and cant get this drama out of my mind...does anyone else know what it feels like? how do u cope?
2006-10-31 02:47:40 · 5 answers · asked by jerrnboo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are a few things here...
You knew your husband had a child before you married him...this will never change...you don't have to love the child but you do have to respect his role as the father
Let her be childish and play stupid games, be better than she is...he's your husband that gives you an advantage.
If she won't let him see his child your husband should get a lawyer to give him visitation rights.
I'm not saying this is fair or right, and you won't understand this until you have your own children...but I really understand about her having second thoughts about sending her baby 500 miles away from her. The legal visitation will help remedy this problem
You are a newlywed and you want your marriage to last forever....you can't change the situation, you can't change her, but you can change you and how you react to the situation and her......Good luck.
2006-10-31 03:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the ***** bother you My husband and i both have ex's with our kids so i know what you are going thru.we have a child together though also,I don't talk to his ex and when he picks his child up i always go with him because i won't let that ***** interfere in my life or my marriage.I make sure he doesn't even speak to her unless its about the kid.I also understand where you come from wanting kids of your own with him so did i and i got her and things are great between us i feel complete now.Just stay out of it and don't even push the fact about seeing the kids if he wants to see his kids he will find a way don't even stress your self over it just focus on your marriage.
2006-10-31 12:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by samwise25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you choose to marry a divorced man these are the problems you should expect to face. The only solution to this problem is that your husband should leave all care of the baby to his ex and have nothing to do with them at all other than child support. That way she should have no reason to call him at all.
2006-10-31 11:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's all about you. If you know the ex is wacko then why do you let it bother you. Why can't you just be there for your husband and his kids.Could it be your jealous because he has children with his ex and not with you. You need to take a close look at yourself in the miror.
2006-10-31 10:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by Monty L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have your hands full, his ex seems like she wants to be in control, just ignore her she will soon get over it.
2006-10-31 10:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋