Is there a way to test if someone cares about you? My boyfriend got drunk a week ago and after his hole "episode" he said, "Theres something wrong, listen to me... stop, theres something wrong... I don't care about you"
There is a kernel of truth to everything a person says.
Our relationship has become dry, boring... im not looking for a way to spice it up or anything like that... communication just spreads us apart. He just starts tripping about everything and I slip farther away.
How can I test him? Find out if he cares anymore??
2006-10-31 02:41:35 · 20 answers · asked by Poestalker 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Regardless of whether he cares or not, do you really want to be with a person who tells you he doesn't? Even if he doesn't mean it.
There's only so much a person can take, now you can blow it off as he was drunk whatever, but next time it will go a little deeper and the next time etc... Then you've wasted all this time on someone.
There's always someone better out there, I'd be saying "NEXT"
2006-10-31 02:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by Heather S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never test a person! Mistake # 1 testing others is unfair misconcepting and dishonest... He got drunk, (sounds like he might often?) You two are having problems and he says things that he may or may not mean... and here you are suck in the middle to figure it all out with hurt feelings now wantint to test him! It is not worth it and you are wasting time... The best thing you can do is go on with your life if he's there he's there if he isn't he isn't. Life is too short and he is your boyfriend not a husband you don't have to deal with any of it.... You can walk away at any given time without having to sign papers! If you jsut satrt going on with your life he'll come around if he cares and wants to be with you... Did he say he was sorry? It doesn't sound like much is left to the realtionship so why hang out what are you waiting for??? Open the door and walk out it with no regretes and think of the happier times that will come now that you have opened the door to new opportunities you will be amazed at the things you do without him in your life....,
2006-10-31 10:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are like rivers.
We are a mesh of awareness, cause and effect, emotions our genetic pre-disposition and our own experiences.
There is no test. Caring is seen by their words and actions, however it may not be the words or actions we want for caring.
There is no certainty with love. Love goes its own path with or against the current as it chooses. Some are loved when they giving and other love when chancing. Love is the striving to be better than what you are for the other person whether to keep them or to attract them. Love is the shark of emotions it dies if it stays still and thus must constantly move.
And you want to test for that!
Good Luck
2006-10-31 12:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't test people's affections. Either he cares or he doesn't. If he says he doesn't care then one of two things is going on. One he doesn't care. Move on with your life. Two he cares but has something else going on in his life preventing him from doing what he should. Help him. If he won't talk to you, tell him to talk to some else. Tell him to talk to a friend, a family member, a counselor; anyone. Tell him you are worried about him. If he won't talk to someone, then tell him it's wrong of him to dump that on you and that you are too good a person to allow him to to keep doing it. Tell him to go sort his life out and let you know how it goes. Tell him not to forget who cares about him while he's gone.
2006-10-31 10:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by soccermomw3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know that you are now seeing someone else, even tho you're not. See if he gets mad or not. If he does, he still cares and if not, you know the relationship is over.
Try this...I did the same thing with my bf in the beginning of the relationship and obviously we are still together.
2006-10-31 10:46:12 · answer #5 · answered by yagurlbubblez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like my g/f she says that she loves me, but when im away she treats me like dirt. i do believe that she loves me but just not in my definition. u will have to decide for ur self like i did do u want this person enough to put up with the b/s or do u want more. me i want more and im about to end our 10 month relationship, cuz she does not want to change, back to the way she was in the beginning. she was passionated, alive and willing to take life easy, now everything is a struggle, sex, going out to dinner and just getting her in a good mood. good luck
2006-10-31 10:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u like him and vice versa, then you may try to renew ur relation. you may bring some kind of change in your lifestyle. Better, you can go for the vacation with him and get some amaze to bring ur past attraction to each other again.
2006-10-31 10:46:24 · answer #7 · answered by akareem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i drink, i dont lie, maybe exaggerate but not lie, so maybe its not that he doesnt care about you, but the relationship is burnt out. my advice, let him go. maybe one day things will change and if you still want to be with him then you can otherwise just move on
2006-10-31 10:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by jerrnboo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is the key to a successful relationship, if you do not have that you are in trouble. no test needed.
2006-10-31 10:53:04 · answer #9 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think the best way to test someone is to leave them if they love you they will come back
2006-10-31 10:48:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋