When we were younger our family was very distant and we somehow met up and fell in love with eachother not knowing we were kin. We had a sexual relationship for years secretly even after a few years of finding out we were kin. He still wants to keep this relationship going because he loves me, he says, but I just want to stop it because it is not nice to be at the same events and functions with family and knowing that were kin and trying to meet up to have sex later on. We both are married and live in two different cities but everytime our family has a reunion or event where everyone comes back to our hometown he wants to get together for old time sake. This weekend coming we are going home and he has emailed me to let me know he will be attending our cousins wedding and he wants to see me, what do I do, I am so confused because a part of me loves him too but I know it is wrong? Not to mention we are both married, I need help.
2006-10-31 02:15:18 · 9 answers · asked by Kendra J 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stop it and don't go your heart already telling you what to do.Lies seem to always catch up with us. Is it worth losing your family over.
2006-10-31 03:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by ujudy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound more you are both enjoying the sex. You are married, don't you love your husband? If not, then you need to move on. If it was true love your kin would be your husband. You would have found a way to keep the love alive even in a distant relationship,like you did when you were kids. I am just wondering how close your kinship is (not like 1st cousin or 2nd, because that's just wrong).
Many of us fall in love with other someone elses spouse because we know we can't have them. But a lot of us don't sleep with other spouses because we are mature enough to know that it is not right.
You both need to grow up or realise you can't live without each other and find a way to be happy together.
2006-10-31 02:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by Girls M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the word cousins......family reunion......and sex are in the same sentence then something is WRONG! Not to metion you are married....what will you tell your husband if he ever finds out...."I had an affair, oh and it was with my cousin but don't worry I didn't know when I first started sleeping with him that he was my kin!" lol! I think that you need to go back over what you wrote.
2006-10-31 02:29:27 · answer #3 · answered by TNL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like you said it's wrong. this sounds like a hard situation for you but you must do the right thing, and the easyest way to do so will be for you to stay with a crowd and do not allow yourself to be alone with him or things will happen. don;t get into that situation
2006-10-31 02:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by wendy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once you found it that it was your cousin you should have ended it there you know it is not right not to mention now that your married you chose to be with your husband because he was the ONE so thats how you should keep it
2006-10-31 02:35:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a no brainer. DO NOT PARTICIPATE IN THIS RELATIONSHIP AGAIN!!! Tell him that you can not see him except in public as a friend and leave it at that.
2006-10-31 02:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by Patti T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't even see him as a friend... why put the temptation in your face?
2006-10-31 02:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by Leasweetie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know its wrong, kinda sick too
2006-10-31 02:31:11 · answer #8 · answered by manfromblueriver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EEEEEWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-31 02:35:21 · answer #9 · answered by hotnsassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋