2006-10-31 02:10:54 · 13 answers · asked by littleone404 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
How**** Well these other people have onlt tried a couple of months and some even have 2 or 3 children already.
2006-10-31 02:22:50 · update #1
I understand what you are going through... I tried getting pregnant for years and stood back watching everyone around me have babies... It is so hard, when that is what you really want... I got tired of waiting and went to the doctor... I found out I had PCOS and had to go through fertility treatments, I now have 4 1/2 month old twin girls! I wish you the best of luck, because I know its hard
2006-10-31 06:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by spaz050201 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I struggle with this also. My husband and I have been trying for almost a year with one miscarriage and no luck there after. One of my friends has a horrible marriage and her husband is very immature and she complains all the time about how she will never be ready for kids because her husband is a handful in himself. This same friend recently went off her birth control and wants to have a baby. This really frustrates me. Its like she is competing with me. She even told me she wants the name I picked out for a potential son and when I argued about it she said it doesnt matter that she will be pregnant before me anyway.
I dont know how I will handle it when she gets pregnant, but I will pull all of my strength from within to not show how angry I am.
2006-10-31 10:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by babyj248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During the first year of ttc, announcements of pregnancies, especially close friends and family members, was extremely hard. I found myself avoiding that person as much as possible, avoiding baby showers and avoiding visiting the newborn for several weeks. Its normal for any women who has been ttc.
What finally worked for me was finding out why I wasn't getting pregnant. A few months after my diagnosis, I began dealing with the announcements a lot better and actually sometimes found myself happy for some people. If you haven't been diagnosed, then get checked out. It could help. Good Luck!!
2006-10-31 11:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by KC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you meant "How" in your title, rather than "Who"?
I know how you feel hun ... and I feel for you, from the bottom of my heart. My husband and I went through what you're going through for 10 years. It is really hard to be happy for others, when you want something soooo bad, and are being denied that pleasure. What I found especially hard was watching people that didn't appreciate the fact that they had been blessed with children.
It's human nature I suppose, to long and feel jealous, when there is something that everyone else can reach, but, is unobtainable to you. There's really no way to overcome these feelings ... IMO, but, to lessen the hurt ... I would tell myself that God would bless me with a little one, when I was ready. I wish you well ........
2006-10-31 10:25:48 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Carol♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think that when your body is ready to get pregnant it will happen. i have a 8 year old and a couple of years ago i was going through the same situation all i can say is stop trying that's what i did and now i'm six months pregnant. don't let it get to you it'll happen when it's time just have fun with your partner and when you least expect it and when your not thinking about it it will happen.
2006-10-31 10:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by divatrucker25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult when their baby announcement is another reminder that you cannot have a baby. If you cannot be happy for them, at least pretend while you are in thier presence. Try not to ruin their happiness.
I assume you have been tested to find out why you are not getting pregnant, but make sure your husband is tested as well. Men are sometimes very reluctant to submit to these tests, but it is very important that he does.
Good Luck.
2006-10-31 10:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am right there with you. We have been trying for almost 4 years. My last depo injection was 2/03. Since then we have miscarried twice and gone to fertility specialists only to hear "unexplained" fertility. I work above a OB/GYN and believe me when you see one walk in there all in their pregnant glory it hurts more and more.
2006-10-31 18:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by kimntrent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I know what you mean!!! Everyone around us is having babies! My hubby's three cousins, who all got married AFTER we did have babies now - and they were all accidents. And here we've been trying for almost a year and nothing. It's hard, but you just gotta be polite to them and pretend you're happy for them. One day we'll be pregant too, making other people jealous. Baby dust to us both!
2006-10-31 11:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I tried for four years to get pregnant, we had to smile and grin when our friends got pregnant, its the right thing to do, but it is ok to HATE THEM secretly, we did. After going through Clomid and countless fertility doctors we finally went for IVF and had our baby five months ago. Don't worry, modern medicine can help you too.
2006-10-31 12:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by Honeypai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is understandable to be hurt and upset as people around you are getting pregnant. Try to be happy and part of their joy for them. Although it hurts, it's a little selfish to be focused on your attempts and struggle instead of rejoicing for a friend's miracle.
2006-10-31 10:13:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋