What should I do I'm 15 years old and pregnant???

Question

Me and my boyfriend been dating for 2 years and 2 months. We meet each other parents and other family members. I knew it was bound to happen because we start having sex. The biggest scare is he is a twin and I can handle 1 but not 2. I need yall to help me breaking it down to my mom. One of my ideas was just don't tell her untill I start showing. Now this right here is going to be the talk of my whole family. I don't want to have a abortion me and my boyfriend already talked about but it's not really what we want it's what our parents want when they found out. Now I fell like I miss up my boyfriend life because this is his last year in school. Please help me......

Answer 1

Hey i am 16 years old but when i got pregnant and had my baby i was 15 yeas old also. I didn't know how to tell my mom so i just let her find out on her own. And mind you it's not what your parents want because if they try to take you to get an abortion the people there are going to ask you, "Do you want to really have an abortion?" Just tell them no and they won't be able to go through with the abortion because it's your decision not your parents. And no your life is not ruined dont't listen to these folks. To me it's not hard being a teen mother because her daddy gets everything she needs and raising a child is not hard.
♥ GOOD LUCK ♥

Answer 2

If you walk in the rain, you must expect to get wet. Similarly, if you have sex with your boyfriend, you must expect that one day you will get pregnant. Now that day has arrived, you have to be mature enough to deal with the consequences. You say that it was bound to happen because you started having sex. Well, this is correct but as well as thinking of the fun part of a sexual relationship so young, you should have also been thinking about the problems that would occur should the 'worst' happen and how you would deal with it.

You don't say how pregnant you are but I guess that you are good few weeks along as you know you are carrying twins. I also guess that if you aren't showing yet, you soon will be. It will be difficult to keep this a secret much longer.

Perhaps you should try telling your mum. You might be quite surprised at her reaction. There is a real need for you to obtain definitive and objective information if this is to turn out for the best. Weigh up all the options which are available to you - abortion, adoption, keeping the babies, allowing someone else in your family to raise them. It is only when everything is out in the open and discussed fully and maturely that you will be able to make a decision that is going to affect all of your lives forever.

As for you messing up your boyfriend's life, he's done a pretty good job of that all on his own. He had sex with you and as a result you are pregnant with his child. He has attempted to behave in an adult fashion by having unprotected sex with you and now it is time for him to step up to the plate and accept the adult responsibilities that come as a result of his actions.

Answer 3

First of all you are only fifteen, why would you have unprotected sex anyway, Its not all about your boyfriends life its about yours too. You can always go back to school while you are pregnant and after you have the baby. I'm 22 years old with a 2 year old i graduated from high school and now i'm in college full time and i'm working full time and her father is not in her life and you have a good one so keep him girl i'm not going to say that it will be easy, if your child is worth it thats all that matters.You can always make a better life for your future family, and please do not get an abortion children are a gift from God, he allowed you to get pregnant for a reason, everything happens for a reason. And about your mom tell her, i'm sure she will be mad as hell because you are still a baby yourself, but it will be worth it, just tell her that you need her and you are sorry for what is already done soon your mom will get over it.. Tell your boyfriend to finish school and you keep going to school dont give up your child deserves so much more than a mom who dont have a high school education, when you finish go to college make something of your self dont become another statistic. Just talk to your mom like an adult, don't wait until its too late. I thought my mom was going to go off the deep end when ever i got pregnant but she took it better than i thought she would, but i was 18 and already out of high school, so girl pray about it.

Answer 4

Dear Necy,
You are in hard place now, but dont take what some try and tell you is the easy option:abortion! That always mucks you up for life and can mean that you can never have any more children ever!
You say your boyfriend is a twin, but are there twins in your family? Twins come more on the mothers side that the fathers, so the chances are there, but not hughly.
Yes, you will have to tell your mum she may even suspect now, it wont be easy but you will have to start making some grown up decsions now, as willl your boyfriend dont worry about mucking up his life, you made the decision together about this, and its going to affect you alot more than him. Pick your time though,to tell your mum, not after a bad day or when shes sick ect. Maybe make tea for her or get her a cuppa after tea, but warn her ahead of time that you need to talk to her about something important after. That willl give her a bit of time to get ready. Expect that she will be disappointed, and angry because she will see a larger picture,and will feel that there will be things that you will miss out on. She wont want to see you hurt, if she is any sort of mum at all. But it will take her a bit of time to get used to it, and you have had a bit of time. Its up to you if you think your boyfriend should be there, probably it will be easier for her to hear it just from you.
If she really isnt supportive and tries to force you to get an abortion or throws you out, there are support agencies that will help, ask your school counsellor about it.
All the best and congratulations, you are going to enter one of the most terriffic times of your life, it will just be a bit harder at times beause you have choosen to do it eariler.
Praying for you all the best- Mother of five

Answer 5

I know what you are going through.

To wait until your showing might seem like the best choice, but it's not. There's so much you need to do if you are going to keep this baby like see the doctor, take your vitamins. you need a support system, your young and you might think it's easy but it's truely not! i know single moms who do it all by themselves, have decent jobs and still find it difficult, imagine what you will go through. I'm not saying to CAN'T survive. plenty of people do but think about what you'r going to do. your 15 and have the world ahead of you, you need a good education, a good job, you need to just be a KID, don't let that pass you by. Your a child about to take on adult responsibilities and no matter how mature or ready you think you are YOUR NOT even close.
Ypur parents WILL be dissapointed, they may even force you to have an abortion, kick you out ( i dont k now what type of family you have), but if having a baby is what your going to do, then make a plan ASAP!
You DID not RUIN your BF life, and @ 15 he might feel that way,
but thats because he is 15 not so mature.You guys made an adult choice to have sex so this is what comes along with that choice.you already know that of course.

Pampers are EXPENSIVE - FORMULA IS EXPENSIVE - CLOTHES ARE EXPENSIVE - FOOD IS EXPENSIVE- TOYS ARE EXPENSIVE -

1 BABY IS EXPENSIVE - 2 BABY"S ARE EVEN MORE EXPENSIVE.

DO what;s BEST FOR YOU!

Answer 6

Twins run on the girls side..not on the guys. Fraternal twins occur from the release of more than one egg...totally up to the woman not the man. Identical twins aren't linked to genetics. It doesn't matter that he is a twin.

As far as telling your mom..you're 15 and you're going to need her help. I would tell her asap.

Who cares what your family is talking about. It's not their life it's yours. Don't worry about them.

You didn't mess up your boyfriends life. He choose to have sex too. It falls equally on both of you. He could have kept his d*ck in his pants just as you'll hear people say you should have kept your legs closed. It takes two to have sex and create a baby and it certainly isn't only your fault/problem/concern.

But now you are going to be a mother and you need to become an adult quickly. It's not easy trying to go to school, work and raise a child but it can be done. I should know I was 17 when I got pregnant with my son. But I made it through..got married got my college degree in four years and have a home. It's going to be rough but if you're strong you'll make it through ok.

Answer 7

I'm sure your mom will need a little time to "digest" this, but you need to tell her now. You don't have to go through this alone. I'm sure after the "initial shock", you will be able to count on her. Parents have a way of surprising us with their love and support.

You might as well stop feeling "guilty" because it's not going to help anyone at this point. You didn't get this way by yourself so stop worrying about your boyfriend's last year of school. I'm sure this isn't what you wanted for yourself either.

Decisions are going to need to be made, and you need your parents to help you make them. Since you are a minor your parents have to be involved in the decision making.

There are options and you need to go over them with your parents. Don't be afraid to talk to your mother, she loves you. I'll be praying for you, all the best.

Answer 8

Well I throught i was pregnant when i was 15, and when i started to show my sister came to me and said are you pregnant? I did not know what to say becase i did not want her to tell my mom. So i said if i tell you then you cant tell mom. She said she wont so i told he that i might be. I cryed for a long time i told my boyfriend at the time and he looked at me and said it was not his. That did not help me none. So i took a test it said yes then i took another test about a week later and it said no i cry more and more. So i never told my mom. But here is what you should do. You and your boyfriend need to get togther and go to her and say "mom you know i love you and you know how much me and _______ love each other"There is something that we must tell you but before we tell you plz don't get mad and we want you to be there for us and help us. Then you tell her mom i am pregnant.Then if you need to leave the room for a little bit and then come back and ask her if you can talk about it. Good luck!!

Answer 9

you really need to see a doctor and make sure you are OK, the school nurse should be involved and yes you should tell your mum before it is too late and she finds out either by looking at you so someone else tells her.
she is going to be shocked but hopefully she will come round and give you some support.
you have not messed up your lives just changed direction for awhile. Having children doesn't stop you from doing things that you want to do , just means you may need more help in doing them.
Good luck

Answer 10

hi i know what your going through i was pregnant at fifteen also,to a kid i have been dating for a while. stay with your boyfriend finish high school,but first you need to tell both your parents.go to the doctor,just be blunt with the parents don't hide it they will be more hurt if they find out from someone else. i hope your boyfriend is a little more understanding than mine was at the time. we are not together anymore and he doesn't anything to do with his son. but i moved on met a great guy got married had another baby. good luck remember stay in school.