jobless man attraction means low or high self esteem?

Question

if a professional/educated woman wants a jobless man

does it mean she has low self esteem or such high self esteem that she doesn't need any other to prove her self-worth?

Answer 1

I make enough to care for myself and my man. My man works for a living and takes good care of himself and his finances but that has nothing to do with why I was attracted to him or why I married his ***. He could quit tomorrow and I'd take care of him.

I don't have low self-esteem and have no need to dominate him. I grew up with nothing so strive to have something but expect it only of myself, not anyone else.

Now, are you attracted to a specific jobless man or are you only interested in jobless men as a rule? If you are interested in only jobless men as a rule, then you may just be into a world of role reversals where you are the traditional man's role of breadwinner. A little role bending is good for society.

Answer 2

A woman such as that probably has little problems with self esteem and worth and more problems with enabling and or nurturing. There is also an element of power involved, the person with the money always has the power. If you aren't a nurture look for the answers in power and nurturing. This is a dangerous situation you put yourself into, one which could easily work against you. One day you may wonder what on earth you ever saw in a loser who can't hold down a job, the man, on the other hand, may harbor deep resentment toward you over a period of time and mentally or physically abuse you. Look for your equal, or as close as you can get, they understand you best.

Answer 3

Baby, don't GO NEAR that! A jobless man is nothing but GRIEF and more GRIEF! Low self esteem is definitely a suspect here. You will I promise end up providing for him eventually! Why would you want to burden yourself with his deficiencies. AIM high girl, we live in a material world, when poverty enters the door LOVE flies out the window! I have been there and it's awful.

Answer 4

She probaby wants a free babysitter/housekeeper. ;))

I'm just kidding really, although in some cases it may be true. However, if your preference is a jobless man, perhaps it's the kind of life you're used to, and you don't care what others think about you being the sole breadwinner in your family.

You do have to be wary of the jobless man though, he is jobless for a reason. It would've been understandable if you both attended school, both graduated, both took jobs, and when the babies came, both decide who will stay home. The one with lower income.

Answer 5

It could go either way......low self esteem and she thinks all she deserves is a jobless man. High self esteem and she thinks of herself as trying to save the world.

Answer 6

I think it means she wants a man she can take care of and control! So, I would say very low self esteem and this would make her feel in control and powerful and take some of the emphasis off of her lack of self esteem. God bless

Answer 7

Hi Bro, I was just reading (Heckcat) answer when I got a real heaviness in my heart and felt a grieving of the Spirit that "Christians" sometime, somehow treat each other this way. I know I have visited some "deacon-possessed" churches and some where they look down their nose at you. Reminds me of a story I'd like to share. Have you ever been to this church? One Sunday morning an old cowboy entered a church just before services were to begin. Although the old man and his clothes were spotlessly clean, he wore jeans, a denim shirt and boots that were worn and ragged. In his hand he carried a worn-out old hat and an equally worn, dog-eared Bible. The church he visited was in a very upscale and exclusive part of the city. It was the largest and most beautiful church the old cowboy had ever seen. The people of the congregation were all dressed with expensive clothes and fine jewellery. As the cowboy took a seat, the others moved away from him. No one greeted him, or spoke to him, or welcomed him. They were all appalled by his appearance and did not make any attempt to hide it. As the old cowboy was leaving the church, the preacher approached him and asked the cowboy to do him a favour. "Before you come back in here again, you need to have a talk with God and ask him what he thinks would be appropriate attire for worship in church." The old cowboy assured the preacher he surely would. The next Sunday, he showed back up for the services wearing the same ragged jeans, shirt, boots, and hat. He carried the same old dog-eared Bible. Once again he was completely shunned and ignored. The preacher approached the cowboy and said, "I thought I asked you to speak to God before you came back to our church." "I did," replied the old cowboy. "And what was His reply?" asked the preacher. "Well, sir, God told me that he didn't have a clue what I should wear. He said He'd never been in this church." God bless one and all who read <)))><

Answer 8

She already proved her own high self esteem by becomming educated and professional. She doesn't want her self esteem to be undermined or challenged and she sees herself as a provider, not as someone who needs or wants to be provided for.

Answer 9

I'd say low self esteem. She doesn't want a man around who threatens her perceived sense of her own high status (which probably isn't as high as she thinks).

Love jack

Answer 10

It doesn't mean either. So what if the man doesn't have a job right now? The difference is if he is willing to look for work, and make a commitment to become a better man for you.
That's what its all about.