and now I smoke on a regular basis there, so I have been able to make him think the smoke smell is from the bar..but, now I want to smoke regularly in front of him...I am tired of sneaking...I want to light up whenever I want...when we are together....need suggestions....he is a nonsmoker and I respect that, but I am not a non-smoker anymore.
2006-10-31 01:14:36 · 21 answers · asked by julie s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh please! Does he ever kiss you? Believe me, if so, he knows. Unless he is so gullible to buy that your mouth taste like an ashtray because you work in a bar.
2006-10-31 01:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You decided to destroy your lungs now you want to destroy his too. If you want him to know you smoke just light up in front of him. However, if he is a non-smoker you should give him the respect of not smoking around him, I'm not saying sneak, just go to a different room. However, since you just started you may want to think about quitting before it really becomes a habit and affect your health.
2006-10-31 01:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How frank can you be to each other? He has his point of view, and there is nowadays a whole crowd to support him, I know. But why can't you just try to discuss the subject like adults should. Expose your reasons, listen to what he has to say, establish some limits, for example, you may not smoke near him, or inside the house, to avoid the smell. Try to negotiate limits that both can agree. Most of all, show that you respect his stand, but that you are also entitled to yours.
2006-10-31 01:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by eliana s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, he will be upset I assume. I know I would be. How about stop smoking. I mean do you like it? Or just enough of a habit now you want to smoke in front of him? You dont need to hear the spill about how bad it is for you- you already know that. Still you started smoking behind his back, stop smoking behind his back. You can do it. Good luck.
2006-10-31 01:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i gave up smoking in front of my husband and i also started again in front of him. there's really no where to hide nor tell but if a person love you he will be able to accept your weakness as well. (my husband has also given up smoking for a very long time). the way i am is not bothering him but i also respect him for not smoking everywhere in the house cause i care for his health too.
2006-10-31 01:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is be honest with your husband and just come out and tell him you are a smoker and that you know he is not and that you respect that, and let him know you would like him to respect that you are a smoker. He may get a little mad because you have not been honest with him but that will not last long. good luck.
2006-10-31 01:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel i am a smoker and my man is not. i tried to quit for him and for a while it didn't work i started sneaking around its no fun. when he found out he was really upset. he was more angry for me not telling him and trying to hide it from him than the fact that i was actually doing it. i think the sooner you tell him the better it will be for both of you. he wont get hurt from you sneaking around tell him before he finds out for himself and is hurt that you didn't tell him yourself.
2006-10-31 01:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him
but you should also respect him being a non smoker and smoke in front of him
2006-10-31 01:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
QUIT SMOKING
i wish i never started it a huge mistake and he likely allready knows unless you tell him you are kissing the bar patrons cause your breath will be awful
2006-10-31 01:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always just wait a few years and let the Pulmonary specialist tell him.
Think he will be more upset that you smoke, or that you are a liar?
2006-10-31 01:18:51 · answer #10 · answered by David W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you tell your husband hell probably want you to start to quit ecause trust me i think that its grose kissing someone thats smoke i have been in that situation before
2006-10-31 01:17:58 · answer #11 · answered by Crystal S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋