how do i tell ma mom and boyfriend??

Question

im goin to take a pregnancy test today because ive ben gettin some signs. im worried that if i am...HOW DO I TELL MA boyfriend and MA MOM!! let alone ma dad....im only 20 (i think its too young)and im trying to get into college hopefully i get in in january! im gonna take the SAT on november 4th....ma life is jus starting...so yeh its obvious that im kinda freaking out....please help me ! ma mom had me wen she was 16.. so she cant say much right??

Answer 1

Well, no point in worrying yourself until you take the test and know for sure.

If you are pregnant -

I'd talk to my boyfriend first to see how he feels and where he stands. You didn't get this way by yourself. I hope he's loving and understanding because you need someone like that if you are pregnant.

Then you both need to decide what you want to do, That's the tough one. Please, if you don't want to get married or raise the child, give it up for adoption. I was adopted and I've had the best life and parents. However, I also believe it's a "personal choice" and you both need to make it.

Lastly, you need to talk to your parents. It might surprise you, they may be more understanding than you think. Parents have a way of surprising us sometimes.

I'd explain to them what decisions you've made and ask for their opinion. You are an adult so I'd say it's pretty much up to you, but you need your family, especially now for emotional support.

I know 20 years old may seem young (I had my first child when I was 19, also "unplanned"), but things have a way of working out. Your parents may offer to help you so you can still attend college.

Whatever you decide, you have my prayers and best wishes. This could turn out to be a "blessing", and not the disaster you are thinking it is.

God bless you all.

Answer 2

I guess I was lucky in the way that I didn't have to figure out a way to tell my parents. I was 21 and at my nephew's 5th birthday party. All of the immediate family was there and a few friends. I didn't dream I was pregnant since I was told by a doctor that I couldn't have children. I kept complaining of not feeling right. My mom said I could be pregnant. I was in denial. So she sent my little sister to the store for a pregnancy test. I didn't know where she had gone and for what purpose until she got back. I said it was a waste of money yet they made me go into the bathroom and they all waited outside the door. When I came out with the news I wasn't sure how to feel. But, my mama was excited and made me feel great about the situation. I'm telling you this because I know I would have been terrified to tell her if I had found out first and then had to tell her. And I also know that she would've reacted differently. Let your mom be part of the excitement! I'd tell her... Mom, I've been feeling different lately and I'm scared. Ask her to be with you when you take the test. She'll feel honored that you wanted her to be a part of the experience. I'm not saying that she'll be extatic or anything. But, you never know... she could be. Please don't do this on your own. Share it with your mom. Good luck, hopefully Congratulations and God bless you and your family!

Answer 3

Your mom may have had you at the age of sixteen, but I doubt that she wanted the same fate for you. The best way to tell family and people who are close to us about things of that magnitude is to just tell them what is going on straight up. Let them rant and rave and when they cool down they will be there to support you. Keeping something like a pregnancy a secret is not a good idea because the secret will tell on you very quickly, when you start showing. If, in fact, you are pregnant, it is not the end of the world. It is actually a new beginning. Things may not be as simple as they may have been had you not gotten pregnant, but babies are wonderful things and they have a way of making our lives complete. Honesty is the ONLY policy! It makes our lives easier overall.

Answer 4

first things first, check to see if you are or not.
If you are you may not choose to keep it. That's your choice about finding out you are.
If your not take this as a lesson learned. If you are sit and talk to your boyfriend, is there any point in telling people just yet if you are only a couple of weeks pregnant?
Have a chat with your mum, either with or without your boyfriend. They will be shocked at first, may even say somethings that they may regret later.
Ask them to be supportive, there are plenty of time to still do the things you want to do in life, it either makes it harder as you have a child to think about or you wait till they have grown up a bit. Your life will change and you will have to think of a hell of a lot more stuff if you do have a child but it can be very rewarding.
Good luck !!

Answer 5

Before you get all hyped up and worried get the test done!! If you are not pregnant then for the love of god get some form of contraceptive. Don't do this to yourself again.
If you are then you need to sit down and talk to your ma and your boyfriend. Just tell them. You mom might not be mad but she will be disappointed. As a parent you don't want to see your children have the same hardships.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Ithink I need more info 2 tell u but I think 2 the diricet way is the better

Answer 8

Tell your Mom as soon as possible she may suggest other ways of coping with a pregnancy at your age..don't bring up her past it isn't relevant to this situation..you don't want to alienate her she is going to be very important in how you cope with this...good luck for the future...

Answer 9

if u are indeed pregnant u say mom,dad i am pregnant. then u go to bf and say bf, i am pregnant.

if u r not pregnant thank the lord and then take some kind of birth control or abstain from sex, so it does not happen to u.

Answer 10

well u know mistakes happen so jus explain to them the best way u can...thats the best advice i can give u sorry....