Have you been married to someone with NPD? How long did it last?

Question

Were you married more than 10 years? What did you do to make it?

NPD = narcissistic personality disorder

Answer 1

My wife has been married to someone with NPD for 35 years.

There are degrees of NPD and it is not that hard to decipher what an NPD person is doing. Generally NPD is caused by a lack of self esteem which can be brought about by such things as childhood abuse, the conduct of his parents during his time at his childhood home - things that would cause him to have such feelings that he has to inflate himself psychologically by doing any of a variety of things. ONe of the things is that he "boasts" or projects himself in a way that he presents himself better than what he is, he can express a vast knowledge, and actually have a vast knowledge.

The problem was identified by a psychologist named Kohut.

Narcissism, therefore, is a compensation method for one that is insecure for whatever reason. As for a cure, there is no little blue pill for it, it takes a therapy done with a psychologist's assistance. What the psychologist attempts to do is to get you to recognize it when you are overstating yourself and your capabilities, and assist you in developing mechanisms to assist you in stopping your narcissistic personality.

If the NPD seems to involve violence, it is probable that the person has Borderline Personality Disorder, far more severe but with parallel symptoms to a great degree - but they have a penchant for going beyond the line

I have been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, NPD, limited Borderline (basically where Borderline and NPD are the same thing). So I had to develop mechanisms to stop me from blowing my stack (as PTSD might cause you to), avoiding places that might seem to me as a place where I might encounter problems, etc. I have had PTSD from before my teens, exacerbated by experiences in Vietnam and when I encounter a possible altercation, I generally react by putting my hands in my pockets. If the probability increases, I will walk backwards, but then if the person who is causing all of this comes toward me, I stop and take my hands out of my pocket and take a step forward. At that point, I will not back down. That, however, is not NPD, that is PTSD.

NPD alone is not bad, and if you love the person, you should stay with him, recognizing the symptoms and learning how to deal with it on your own. I would suggest that you read Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, DSM-IV on NPD. It is not dangerous, it is only a mechanism he has developed to compensate for his lack of self esteem. Tolerate it and learn to live with it.

Answer 2

PD's do not go away. You can controll them with therapy and some meds, but they do not go away. I was married to a BPD, wow what a freakin roller coaster ride.

Also NPD and NPD Is actually a very bad match, the good match is the NPD and a BPD, they feed each other just right.

I wish you luck!

Answer 3

If you are discussing narcissistic personality disorder, I would imagine that it would be most difficult, unless you also are NPD, in which case it is probably a good match, so long as you both include the other in the narcissism umbrella.

Answer 4

whats NPD?