2 yrs ago and left the company to just be away form him and worked in another company, but i still love him so much more than before and he was trying to call me every once in a while , we are now pretending to be ex-collegues but we are dying to see each other. i don't know what to do, i couldn't love my husband and he can't forget me.. tell me what to do by the way, we don't meet because we don't wanna betray our families.
2006-10-31 00:16:17 · 19 answers · asked by lovely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
cut all communications off with this man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
2006-10-31 00:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you got some decisions to make here. You are in love with him and not your husband, and he is in love with you and not his wife? Girlfriend? What is he in to? I know you are trying to do the right thing here, but you have also got to be honest with the husband that you are married to. You must either break it off, and forget him, or leave your husband right away to be with this man. As bad as I hate to admit it, but if the both of you are in love this way, then it's just a matter of time before you are together, and the sooner the better. This way you won't be living a lie. One must follow their heart when it comes to things of this nature. You are already betraying your family, by trying to hide your feelings, and living in a lie. Wake up here, and move on with this man, or you will regret it the rest of your life. I'm not saying it's right, but it's what you must do in order to do the honest thing, and be happy yourself. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-31 00:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You took a vow and chose to be with another man. Betrayal is not only physical, but also mental.
I am not saying I do not understand how you're feeling and claim it's easy to forget him, but out of respect for the man who gave you his name and who has no guilt whatsoever with regard to this whole situation, you should try again and again and again to get over your ex boss. Remember how much you'll hurt your husband if you decide you want to end the marriage because you could not love him enough and because you married him while you have feelings for another man.
Maybe you should move out of town, or even out of the whole country.
Believe me, things we cannot get always seem shinier and better than what we already have. He's just a man, even if a gorgeous one, still capable of mentally cheating his wife by his love for you. He can do the same to you one day.
If you really love him do not ruin his marriage and if he loves you he should do the same.
2006-10-31 00:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by rinah 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You unfortunately this life is to messed up for every one to be happy. Sometimes other people have to suffer so that you can be happy. I know it sounds cruel but that is the way it is. It is a very difficult situation that you are in. But you have to ask your self some questions so that can come to a conclusion.
Are you happy?
Is this man worth you betraying your family?
Will hurt your husband more by being honest or by lieing to him and telling him you love him when you don't?
There are lots of questions that you need to ask and answer your self but the most important one is:
Is your love for each other strong enough to fight against all odds?
If it is then go for it!!!
2006-10-31 00:35:46 · answer #4 · answered by andia2amat 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You've already betrayed your families by having an affair previously...
Treat others as you would like to be treated? Would you want your partner to cheat on you? If not, then don't cheat on him. Would you want some other woman to get with your partner? If not, then don't get with someone else's partner.
Be a mature, responsible adult and close this issue and move on...if you're not happy in your marriage, then fix it or get out of it, but that should have nothing to do with you and the adulterous ex-boss...
What goes around, comes around...both of you should probably be watching out for that karmic justice...it'll hit ya when ya least expect it...
2006-10-31 00:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why did you get married to another man then? Sounds like you are a two face acting like you love your husband but instead suppose to be in love or LUST with someone else. I feel sorry for both of your spouses they deserve better then that.
2006-10-31 00:21:38 · answer #6 · answered by tiny 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Gf, sounds like you need to fess up to your hubby. Relationships based on lies aren't relationships at all. And if you don't love your husband, you don't need to be with him, BUT do not cheat. That is a big no-no. If you two are meant to be together, then you both need to come clean with your partners, clear the air and get things in action. But also, if you have kids, please be sure to be delicate about this situation and don't bring stuff like this up when the kids are around, it is sure to anger your husband and the kids don't need to see you guys fighting.
2006-10-31 00:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
D@mn, you are two incredibly selfish people. Tell your husband the truth so he can find someone worth spending his life with. How selfish ARE you to waste his life?!
Go ahead and act desperate and follow this married guy around. Then IF he ever leaves his wife and goes to you, you'll find out how it feels when he cheats on you. And he will.
2006-10-31 00:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by I saw whatudid 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i encounter it quite interesting there are those who declare to charm to close the ideas of God, and subsequently can plan the lives for others in accordance to their 'interior' comprehend-how of what God's Judgement will quite condemn. authentic religious leaders (not in basic terms Christian ones) remind congregants God provides people freewill. we are to blame for our own moves. we are referred to as to be assertive in our relatives and not in any respect reactionary nor overbearing. Marriage is an organization which brings money into the coffers of the state and which initially became established by technique of states as a way of inhabitants administration (not in basic terms numbers yet in words of behaviour). in case you imagine marriage is only a religious corporation, then the position did Jacob sign up his marriages, Isaac his, etc in the course of the old testomony.
2016-12-05 09:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to repent from this and you need to stop it now. You will be so accountable one day. This is bad... bad... bad...
If you love him you will let him keep his committment as a man to his family. Love is about making the other person better.....not enticing him into adultery and betraying his wife and family.
Love is not that......
2006-10-31 00:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by SunValleyLife 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on what you want babe. If you think your life will improve when you to have sex, then go for it. If you think that after you have sex he will divorce his wife and ask you to marry him, maybe, most likely not. If you want to make your marriage work, then cut all talks with your former boss off and start a love relationship with your husband.
2006-10-31 00:25:45 · answer #11 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋