I need company. should i start a family or rather start keeping new company or what. pls sincere answers only. thanks.
2006-10-30 23:58:16 · 35 answers · asked by ineem20012005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am very very sorry for your loss (a big comfy hug for you)! Do you have any hobbies? Turn them into something where you can meet people. Take some classes, whatever your interests, art, photography; join sports. It will keep you occupied and busy you will make new friends. Don't rush into a relationship because you are lonely it might be for all the wrong reasons, when you are ready to start a family you will meet someone wonderful and the timing will be right. Keep your chin up, remember your parents and all your wonderful memories to help keep them with you. GOd Bless!
2006-10-31 00:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are strong, you are still standing and even on yahoo!!!
everyone's worst nightmare is their mum dying and here you are its happened and you have got through it.
I cant say I know how you are feeling, cause I dont, but please dont let this put you on a downward spiral, like I have saw happen so much to males in my area. They are then left feeling dejected and down and sometimes people never get back from this.
My mum's mum and dad both died within 2 weeks of each other, first gran and then granda. This was all as my dad was leaving her, she said it was the worst time in her life, bringing me and my sis up alone with no family, but that it has made her the person she is.
I really dont think you should start a family yet, i think you should wait until you are well and truly over it, then you can consider it then for the right reasons. They will never be a substitute for mum and dad!!!
I wish you the best.
2006-10-31 00:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by carrienicholson23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I'm sorry for the loss of your parents, this must be really difficult for you. You ask if we think you should start a family, does this mean you have a partner or wife/husband (sorry I don't know if you are male/female)? I don't think it's such a good idea to have children just for the sake of not feeling lonely. Ideally you want to find someone that sparks off all sorts of stuff with you and you want to create other wee folk when the time is right and you can focus properly. Bereavement affects us all very differently and there are lots of support groups or telephone lines you can go to for advice or just to talk things through confidentially. All the best to you.
2006-10-31 00:10:22 · answer #3 · answered by rondavous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom passed 16 years ago last month. I get her a helium balloon each year on the anniversary of her birthday and let it go with a love note attached.
The best way to get through this terrible time is to truly mourn. You cannot ignore the fact that you have just lost the first person that ever really knew you and loved you just because you exist.
Time makes the pain easier to deal with. After your bit of mourning try a new hobbies or go to a new shop or store. Do not revisit old haunts that you and your mom visited that will bring more pain to the surface. That part of dealing with your loss comes much later on.
Read a light and funny book to distract yourself and you may find moments when you are not actually crying.
I wish you luck.God Bless You!
2006-10-31 01:17:02 · answer #4 · answered by linda b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be feeling very lonely now, i do know how your feeling as both my parents died. It is a very traumatic time for you, the best thing that i can suggest is for you to find somewhere that you can talk out your feelings. Don't start a family, that is the wrong thing to do at this time. You would be doing that for the wrong reasons. Call into your Health centre or clinic they should be able to give you information on bereavement counselling in your area. If you are still lonely, look in your local paper for groups that you could join.
2006-10-31 00:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by scary mary 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you. My mum dies 6 yrs ago and my dad although still around I dont see him. What an awful time for you especially just before xmas too. I would put off starting a family for now until you've sort some counselling and perhaps a short spell of medication to see you through the next few months.
There is no cure for bereavement but talking about it is a great start.
2006-10-31 00:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by Scatty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, i send my deep condolences to you and you family, theres nothing worse than loosing a parent, I lost my father 3 years ago and it's his birthday to day so i'm depressed too. Do you have any brothers or sisters to help you through this sad time, any family. I wouldnt start a family unless you really want to, don't do it because you feel lonley, Grieving is a horrible emotion that effects people in different ways, try to grieve first and release any emotions that you may have, Time is a great healer but it i wont lie, It doesnt get any easier you just learn to live with it more. Take care and i hope you can find peace and happiness. xx
2006-10-31 00:05:22 · answer #7 · answered by shelz042000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mum died when i was 15. That loneliness never goes, but use it to spur you on to achieve great things. I ask myself what my mum would think when im faced with choices, it helps me balance myself and as a consequence i'm successful and have lots of great friends. My friends have been invaluable. Losing someone makes you appreciate your life and the lives of others more. I wouldn't advise you start a family because you feel alone, o out and meet people, join clubs and make friends, you never know where life will take you. Your mum will always be around you, you're a part of her, so take both of you on a life journey to remember!
2006-10-31 00:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by welshbird 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear about your mum, but please just take time to grieve and get used to your new situation. Don't rush into new things just yet. Certainly dont start a family until you are sure that that is what you want. If you need company, then why not get a new hobby or do volunteer work and meet new people. And dont forget to take care of yourself. Your parents would want you to do that.
2006-10-31 00:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters, You don't want to start a family. with the grieving that you are doing now.. would not be good for anyone. Get out of the house , meet new people.. Go to your job do it well. Just start meeting some new people.. will make it so you aren't as lonely... go for some long walks.. It will give you some much needed time to talk to you mom and help get over the grieving process. with her.. tell her what is going on.. write it down.. always help to get your feelings out. even if no one will ever hear or see them.Talking to your mom even thou she has passed she still watches over you and can hear you/
Start a journal.. write down you feelings and all you have done for the day.. will occupy your mind.. and go out and meet some new friends.. There are alot of people on here that you can talk to and make some pretty good friends.
If you need someone to talk to I am out here..
freemansfreeman@yahoo.com
2006-10-31 00:11:37 · answer #10 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋