not really in a financial postion to do it I really want a baby as I feel time is running out a bit and I don't want to leave it too late. My boyfriend would be happy for us to have a baby but is worried about the financial implications. My family are also worried about this. Is there ever a right time to have a baby.?
2006-10-30 23:54:09 · 12 answers · asked by Muffin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There is never a fully right time to have a baby. I know a lot of people seem to think that and then they wind up having their first kid well into their 30's, unable to physically keep up with a toddler and less apt to understanding a teenager. I had my son at 21 with no money (and for those that are judgmental, he was conceived through a condom) but we made it. There were rough spots, no doubt, but now at 32 I have a fantastic son, 11 years old. And there will be rough spots no matter how much money you have. I wouldn't have changed anything I did ever in my life.
My advice to you is if you want a kid have one. It will be hard, just like all things in life are, but you are 30 and time doesn't go backwards. I'm 32 and getting ready to get preggers again, hopefully in the next month or two, because I don't want to be one of the 40 year olds running around after a toddler (no offense, everyone has to live their life the way they want it, that's just not the life I want). Have the baby and don't let anyone tell you that you should wait if you don't want to.
2006-10-31 00:08:13 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there is ever a right time financially - if you keep putting off having a child till you are financially secure- then it probably wont happen - there will always be some excuse to use the money elsewhere
people can go overboard when first getting kitted up for hte arrival of a new child- BUT you dont need to have all the latest gadgets - nor does everything have to be brand new- so long as it is all clean & for cots/cribs;strollers etc ; that they meet current safety standards.- you can accept offers of hand me down clothes from friends/family whos children have out grown them- young children grow so quickly that thing generally dont get worn out. Also it has been my experience that for a 1st born in any family the parents will get lots of gifts from friends /family
the most important thing children need is there parents love & to feel safe in their environment
the decision to have a child is yours & your partners; it has nothing to do with the rest of your family.
also keep in mind that even though you may start trying for a child shortly you could take some time to fall pregnant ; but then again this could also happen almost immediately
basically the right time to have a child is when it feels right for you & your partner- so the two of you need to sit down & talk things through
2006-10-31 00:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is a right time to have a baby and you should plan it well because your life as you know it will be over once you have one. I don't mean that as a bad thing, babies are more than worth the lifestyle changes but everything will change. It's no longer about you it's about the baby.
Don't have a baby for the wrong reason and worrying about your biological clock is a wrong reason. You have ten more years to worry about this. Start saving now, plan this well and best of luck to you both.
2006-10-31 00:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by barkel76 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 05:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right time to do it is in an emotionally and financially stable sitution.
Meaning being married and committed to each other and to providing an emotionally stable atmosphere to raise a child.
Financially, you should be able to live off of your husbands income.
Children will take more time and effort than you seem to realize, having a child just because you want one is not a good reason.
2006-10-31 00:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The age you have a baby is not a factor. There are measures they will take to make sure you are in a a safe pregnancy. I have seen women have babies at 40, so when you are ready and things are better, go for it. Then again, God may have other plans for you and just give you the baby before. His decision really.
It shows alot of maturity to just think ahead like that. There is also freezing your embryo for later use.
2006-10-30 23:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by wingedladyk 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you cannot afford another child do something about it,,,,if your need is that strong for an extra mouth to feed maybe you and he look for a way to earn more money long term,,you wouldnt go out and buy a puppy knowing you couldnt afford to feed it in the first week would you,,and that is just 7 days,,what about no money to feed it for 18 years? as you are not pregnant yet you do still have the choice but really,,it would be irresponsible to take on the financial burden knowing you have no money.loving kids is all well and good,,but they dont pay for themselves and they are no ones responsibility to support but the parents and if they cant afford them,,,,who should pay for your children? ( and no this isnt about dss claims,,before anyone starts,,im not on that bandwagon)
2006-10-31 00:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Having a child because you feel that your time is running out is not a good enough reason because it's selfish. There is no thought in your reasoning for the child. It will by a source of conflict in your relationship if you force the issue, you may end up with a child you cannot support by yourself, alone!
2006-10-30 23:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by GRUMPY1LUVS2EAT 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on ur age of retirement from active business or job. It would be desirable that ur kids r reasonably settled by then.
2006-10-30 23:57:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh why don't you get married first? If you can't support yourself how do you expect to support a child?
2006-10-30 23:58:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋