Sometimes my bf drinks from friday 'til sunday. And it's not even in a special ocassion, like a holiday or something. He drinks and gets drunk because he wants to. Recently he missed a compromise he had with his boss to work on a Sunday. Plus, he didn't go to work on Monday and Tuesday. I've decided to end our relationship because of the many times he has done this. What makes me even more mad is that when he does this he has me up all night, when I have to go to work the next day, because he's either sorry, his back hurts or he has chest pain. (Go figure, the heat from all the alcohol). This time there's no turning back, but he keeps on saying he needs help and he wants me to help him get help because supposedly he accepts he has an alcoholism problem. I would like to believe him, but it's so convenient for him to tell me this every time he goes in these drinking weekends. And then there's his manipulating mother also. This is a real situation. Please help!
2006-10-30 23:45:42 · 4 answers · asked by Playera 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He has admitted he has a problem, he is a big boy and he can get help on his own. When he is clean and sober and I don't mean after a 30 day stay in a rehab - I mean a YEAR - then you might want to reconsider your relationship. He is going to bring you down if you let him, so be strong and just point him in the right direction. Alcoholics Anonymous is worldwide send him to it. GOod luck and God Bless!!
2006-10-31 01:08:36 · answer #1 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is a really serious problem. tell him straight that he needs a professional help. seek an advice with a doctor. any rehabilitation center in your area that could help him. tell him also other than you he should help himself. with regards to his mother, try to talk with her. tell her the situation her son is into, maybe she is a manipulative mother, but we cannot erase the fact that her son is in trouble definitely she would help. hopefully things will turn out OK, if not then that is the point for you to decide.
2006-10-31 07:53:02 · answer #2 · answered by <fish_me> 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He obviously needs help... but if his acknowledgment of that ends as soon as you take him back, then its just manipulation. If you love him and want the relationship to work,... then insist he get treatment BEFORE you take him back. That way, you'll know he's serious.
2006-10-31 08:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a month. If in this period of time he does not straight himself, being more responsible and quit drinking,then I think you should end this relationship.
2006-10-31 07:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by cb56br 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋