when i met him he was separated from his wife, we got together and he stayed with me for little while , things change and we had a big argument, i did not put him out but i think he knew i wanted him to leave . and he went back to stay with his wife . he is unhappy there and he wants to move back in with me . I told him no not until he gets a divorce, then he can move back in with me . He says finacially he cannot move into his own apartment because of past credit issues and he was going to move into a hotel and stay their for awhile but now he says it is to expensive to pay 155 wk . We talked last night and i told him i am tired of the whole thing, because he does not seems to want the divorce. I want to end the relationship. He said, i can move in with u and we can work out the divorce together , I said no u will not stay wth me until the divorce . he got mad and agreed to end it all , and we can work something out with our son, he hs four other kids. did i make the wrong decison
2006-10-30 23:23:29 · 13 answers · asked by easygoingfunlovingfemale 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It was a very poor decision.
1. He was not divorced before he moved in with you. To his four kids you are the reason he and mom broke up, and the fact is you are the reason they did not try to get back together.
2. You have a kid by this guy meaning you are tied to him for the next 17 years.
3. This guy is a bum, you could have done better and should have.
2006-10-30 23:28:19 · answer #1 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No You Did Not Make The Wrong Decision. If He Wanted To Be With You He Would Have Got The Divorce.
2006-10-31 07:56:05 · answer #2 · answered by bob r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't let this pass without a comment. You have a child with someone else's husband and that husband is playin you like a fool. You don't need him in your life he has already caused you enough problems. You should have requested he get a divorce BEFORE you got pregnant with his child!!! This is what is known as "you reap what you sow" when you do bad things bad things happen. Now your son is stuck in the middle of this horrible web you weaved. Does he support his children? Does he help you with bills? One thing you did do that was on the up and up was request he get the divorce but you should have done that long long ago. I hope everything works out for the best.
2006-10-31 07:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine! how the things are changing? A person is jumping here and there without any liability and / or responsibility. Its a shame to him. Similarly on ladies side, inspite of having full awareness that person is with such and such responsibilities, so many kids etc. you entered in relation with him. Therefore, proper marriage should be b4 every thing, but now a days a 'nonsense and immoral term ~ long time relations' has been created and adpoted by ****** people, just to vanish the moral and ethical values. Most of the problems we are facing these days are result of this such practices.
2006-10-31 07:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by MY Regards to All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you made a wise decision. You shouldn't let him move in until he's divorced, otherwise you could end up in the middle of it. This is something he needs to do on his own and find the strength to do on his own. Maybe this will get him moving on it and things will work out between you 2. If he stays with his wife and continues to give you excuses, move on with your life.Good luck,I hope it all works out for you.
2006-10-31 07:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy only wants you until he finds something better. History repeats itself. He screwed up the life of the first women and her kids and now he is trying to do the same thing to you, If you'll let him. I think you made the right decision by telling him no. Stick to your guns. He is the one in need not you. With an 18 month old do you really need more problems in your life?>
2006-10-31 07:30:36 · answer #6 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for butting into the men's chamber but i think you made the bestest decision out of a bad situation. Stick to it. he cannot eat his cake and have it. let him take care of his other children first. As for you you'll do just fine with a better man who is out there.
2006-10-31 07:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by girlfunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is scum. You got duped. Now you get to raise a kid from a guy who cannot support himself much less another kid.
Get that support order ( which he cannot pay) and move on with your life. Find a single guy who can do right by you.
2006-10-31 07:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU GO GIRL!! I KNOW MAY USER NAME SAYS DAWNA, BUT I'M HER HUSBAND. DON'T LET HIM WALK ALL OVER YOU. STAND YOUR GROUND. HE OBVIOUSLY IS HAVING AN EMOTIONAL CONFLICT ABOUT LEAVING HIS OTHER CHILDREN, BUT THAT DOESN'T GIVE HIM GOOD ENOUGH REASON TO LIVE WITH YOU WHILE STILL MARRIED. WHAT YOU REALLY MIGHT WANT TO CONSIDER IS WHY HE AND HIS WIFE ARE HAVING TROUBLE, AND IF YOU MIGHT BE WALKING INTO THE SAME PROBLEMS. IS HE THE RIGHT GUY FOR YOU? ASK HIS WIFE, MAYBE.
2006-10-31 07:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by Dawna H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy can't afford to stay in a motel for a couple months, he can't afford to raise your children.
Hold out for a nice guy with a good job - this guy just wants free room and board and sex. Good deal for him - tragedy for you.
2006-10-31 07:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by gabluesmanxlt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋