He KNOWS how important it is to me,but doesn't seem to care! It eally makes me feel depressed...What should I do? DOn't say divorce because I don't believe in it.
2006-10-30 23:16:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is really sad to hear your story....wondered what was the deal when you both decided to get married...in any case, do talk about it...could be financial, social or economic reasons.....but don't stay depressed...it's not worth it. Good luck...you are a bright one...I agree....divorce is out...
2006-10-30 23:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by singirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you can live with never having kids with this man, you have no options.
I am not a divorce advocate either. But in this case I don't see much changing. Yes you could accidental get pregnant, but how's that going to help you. It's not fair to the child. If he really doesn't want kids he may not love the baby the way a father should. Your relationship would also suffer. He would resent the hell out of you for tricking him into it. You would then end up divorced anyway. Only now with the responsibility of raising a child on your own. And a child that feels unwanted by it's father. My advice is to get a divorce and then find a partner that wants children as much as you do. This is one of those issues that there's really no compromising on. You either both want kids and have them or if one of you doesn't want them and never will, you move on. Sorry. It's just not fair to a child to force it on someone that doesn't want it.
2006-10-31 09:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a huge step especially in a mans life. You should have discussed children before you got married/ There is very little you can do. Divorce him and find a guy who wants kids or continue to live with him childless. Whatever you do dont get pregnant a child should only be brought into a home with two parents that want them.
2006-10-31 07:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know exactly how important it is. Even if you dont want to divorce you could play the reverse psychology game and say "I can't be with someone who will never give me a child." Make sure before you press that issue that you really want a child NOW in life. And see where he's coming from. Is his answer to not wanting a child simply the timing or does he NEVER want a child. Tell him having a child to care for is your motherly instinct and you have to have it or you can't have a relationship. He'll then talk about it seriously with you as he wont want to lose you. If he really never wanted a child then he's going against Gods intentions.
2006-10-31 07:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by joeknockz 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He might be afraid to be a father, or he just isn't ready. It is a tremendous responsibility. Was this discussion had before you got married? Did you know he didn't want children? You can't marry someone to change them, as a matter of fact, you can't change anyone. They have to be willing to change themselves. Tricking him and being deceitful will only come back to haunt you in the end. Only he can answer this question, asking us isn't going to change the fact that he doesn't want a baby. Sorry.
2006-10-31 07:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accidents happen all the time. If you are having sex, then there is always a chance that you will get pregnant even though you take precautions! Talk to your husband. Find out why he doesn't want to have a baby. He may just need some more time and then wants one.
2006-10-31 07:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by charmz21lucky 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a lot depends on you guys age if you are 21 then this can be solved by time,but if you are 35 that is another story.Ask why he doesn't want a child, explain why you would want a child.Raising my 3 boys have been the high light of my life.If you want to cheat take him to some little league baseball games and football games and softball for girls sometimes you got to play dirty
2006-10-31 07:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by ga44male 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he cares; he is probably afraid of taking on the extra responsibility. You two should sit down and have a long talk over this and set your goals about when to have children. Something you should have done prior to getting married!!!
2006-10-31 07:19:52 · answer #8 · answered by WyoHunter 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Since you want a child badly and he isn't doing nothing to help, I think you should stop taking your birth control pills or whatever form of family planning stuff you use and do it. Tell him when it clicks and everything will be over.
2006-10-31 07:36:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you should do is talk seriously with him, and maybe seek counselling. Did you not talk about this very important topic well before you got married? What made him change his mind? Did you change your mind?
2006-10-31 07:18:44 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋