2006-10-30 22:53:36 · 19 answers · asked by Jenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Call him on it. If he wants to lie to me then he needs to lie about things that I don't know about! I will catch him and won't be happy because a relationship is suppose to be built on trust and there can't be much trust if he is telling lies!
2006-10-30 22:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that depends on the severity of the lie. If he told me he took out the garbage and he really didn't, I might be upset, but it's not a battle I would choose to make a huge deal over, although I think that lying is bad in just about any situation. If he lied to me about a large amount of money or having an affair, and I knew he was lying, I'd have to confront him with the truth and try and find out why he was lying.
2006-10-31 06:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People lie usually because:
1. They wanna be projected as someone, who they are not but they'd like to be.
2. They are afraid of being hurt or hurting someone.
3. They want to hide their flaws.
4. They want something or someone so bad that lying is the only option left.
If one stops caring about what people will think of him/her, is content regarding what he/she is and has, and is confident that he/she is doing the right thing, the amount of lying reduces considerably. Though, still being completely true is not possible as many a times, a white lie requires to be told for the benefit of others.
So with that being said handle it based on why they lied!
2006-10-31 07:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he is a liar and I know he is a liar and it depends what he lied about his shitt will be in the living room or like this song says TOO the left your shitt is in the box to the left//////HEll no what did the spouse lie about////WHen i was married and he lied to me i got physical and then i left him////
2006-10-31 07:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by melanni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how big of a lie and if they continue deny that they are lying. I would definitely be cautious and question everything (not in there face but in the back of your mind)they try to sell you. Don't be naive!
2006-10-31 07:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by garrett w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accept what they say and if you are sure,get proof and ask again with the knowledge that they can lie to your face and they will get one chance to do it before the 'proof' is set before them,,do be clear what will be your reaction if they do lie as once your proof is given they will know they are rumbled and will try to get out of it so always follow through with what the result will be and dont change your mind.just like kids,,an errant spouse sometimes needs bounderies and just like kids,,if bounderies are past over and they know the 'punishment ,,they should consider their actions more thoroughly,if they still play up,,well,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,you cant kick out your kids but.........
2006-10-31 06:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine does this at times...about his ex wife and him talking...But I know it's because when the HER issue comes up some of the things she says about me...well..I'd like to punch her face in..NO REALLY!! SHe tries to start fights between us and he warns her that IF she is to piss me off and I divorce him..Her child support gets cut in half...SHE shuts up!!! But he has lied to me..and I've caught him...confront him and found out the truth...If he's lying to your face...able to look you in the eyes and do it straight faced...You need to have physical proof..Men seem to NEED that Do you have any proof method...
2006-10-31 07:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean really what can you do.Either you except it or give him that talk of getting his self together or your leaving.It is hard to prove a lie even when you know in your heart it is a lie. My husband is better than any person I ever met about lying.It is a sign of bad times coming ahead so please be careful...experienced!!
2006-10-31 07:19:17 · answer #8 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you are confronted with a real problem of trust. How can you believe anything this person says from here on out?
2006-10-31 06:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by WC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call them on it. I'd say right there at the time..."I know you are lying to me" ....why? You are married and both partners owe it to each other to be honest and upfront. I wouldn't let it go until I got to the truth.
2006-10-31 07:03:30 · answer #10 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋