Is it ok if i went ahead and communicated with my soul mate by texting and calling him thou i know it his weakness to communicate and a busy person? When i ask him if its nagging he says no it absolutly ok and promises to call somes times and does call back, some times he doesn't but rearly.
Do you think i should act as he's doing or calling and texting him wont make our relationship stronger? I've tried acting the way he does and he would definatly call me when he would love to see me, i also feel he's too jealousy in that he calls at funny hour late in the night and insists he wants a Sh*g then.
He's the Kind who is so reserved and realy expreses himself, we've dated for nine month now,he's 30years and am 27years!
do you think he loves me or am just wasting my time with him? whenever i think of leaving him he surfaces and i've always failed to say no OR its over hun.. i love him madly,SHOULD I KEEP IN TOUCH DESPITE, WHAT DO YOU THINK!.
thanks all of you in advance.
2006-10-30 22:42:17 · 14 answers · asked by kiss me. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also we dont leave together and Vanhammer Yes i some times mean it until he calls,, thats when i call.
also most answers are telling me to leave him and get some one who'll love me right, dont you think every one has a weakness which the other patrner has to learn to cope with?? otherwise our lives will dwell on breakup " here and there only"?
2006-10-30 23:30:49 · update #1
Gypsy and smiley710.... thanks yo guys are right, i dont know whom am gona chose for my best answer cos the answers are all good, am sending him a mail now and i've got to end this. thanks again.
2006-10-31 20:52:04 · update #2
Considering that you are only 9 months into this relationship I certainly don't find his behaviour to be that of someone in love. It appears that he is only using you and you are acting like the desperate woman. Please don't allow him to treat you in this way and as for him calling you late in the night and insisting on a sh*g, I am amazed that you allow this. He certainly needs to grow up and begin acting like a normal 30 year old guy. If I were you I would try to forget him and I am sure you will eventually find someone worthy of your love. Good luck.
2006-10-31 01:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say he's your soul mate but you don't know how he is feeling? When you have met your soul mate you will know straight away because you won't have to ask that question. If you think that it is you doing all the chasing then step back a little bit and let him do some. Make your self busy when he calls at the last minute saying he wants to see you. By not making yourself so available you will find out if he just wants you for a sh*g or if he is serious about you. Good luck xx
2006-10-30 22:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by Jo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep in touch but don't overdo it. Don't ring him up or text him/email him unless you have something to say, not just to say "hi how are you".
Maybe this is just convenient for him, he might not be ready to commit but wants to keep you there for when he wants to sh*g. If you feel that he is only using you, tell him that next time he calls you late at night.
After a 9 month relationship you should be able to tell him what's on your mind. If not, the relationship is hardly worth it.
Don't give into everything he says. If you let him feel that he's in control, things aren't likely to change.
2006-10-30 22:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by IC 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hear you! I feel your pain! It is a tuff thing to just let go! I am in a similar situation. Being best friend. His divorce. I didnt realized I have feeling for him until later. I have told him how I feel-we can talk about anything. He recently met a girl now they are boy/girl girlfriend-but he wants our friendship to be the same.Before the girl -we email all the time. Now I hardly hear from him-maybe a short answer.not like before. I keep telling myself. He has a lot to deal with as a divorce guy. So I have to be patience. Friends have told me the same thing-forget him-He doesnt deserve me and I am too good for him. But boy! I am still in love with him! So I have decided to have faith. Focus on me! Our hearts will take time to heal. I am loving person and you sound like one too! But keep yourself busy, because if you keep thinking about it-it will drive you nuts. Just have fun, even thou you probably missed him and wish he contact you. But than we never know whats going on-cant assumed everything . Good luck! Know that you are not alone. If you decided to keep in touch. maybe only if he calls you. Good luck! whatever you decided good for you!
Remember you are beautiful and amazing individual!!:)
2006-10-31 00:17:57 · answer #4 · answered by smiley710 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
W/out him callin or texin u back i personally would feela s if i'm STALKIBG him in a sense i mean it don't take but a minute to text u back! a call takes about 2 min. c'mon if u don't mean that much to him to take a few min. out of his "busy" day i don't think u mean too much to him. He prob. likes the attention ur doating on him and is like "i got her sprung". Relationships should b 50/50 but i don't think ur even gettin 30/70... Just a thought don't waste ur whole Life on a dude who can't even CALL once a day or so!
2006-10-30 22:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by ~Niecee~ âË» âË» ♂ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 03:19:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget him, if he cant make time for u he is no man at all people that run a busy life style don't have time to concentrate on relations people like this only feel the argue to stop when there body tells them to have a break the fist thing they need is chill out there mind and body get rid of there frustration of sex then back to the busy life style again,
2006-10-30 22:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by amk100 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like everything is ok the way it is. Keep in touch with him since he says it's ok. If he stops calling then you stop calling. You never know...it may just work out.
2006-10-30 23:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to find out if he is as interested in you as he was when you met him first and where is your relationship heading towards. If you really love him and you are serious with your relationship find out what is on his mind too. It doesnt make sense if you call him when he doesnt want to speak to you, he can either be busy with work or he may be busy with other things. You need to decide yourself what u want to do and then ask him. accordingly you will know if you have to leave him or continue staying with him.
2006-10-30 23:01:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry but that's not i would call love, if he did love he would be getting in touch with you more often, dump him and get someone who will show you what love really is, good luck.
2006-10-30 22:52:42 · answer #10 · answered by MISSY G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋