Does anyone know any examples where a couple have been successful at making thier marraige work after infidelity?
2006-10-30 22:15:16 · 20 answers · asked by chimerauk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, it will never leave your brain....
2006-10-30 22:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, my Aunt and Uncle made it through infidelity and are still together. Now they have a really good relationship so it is possible. I don't think it would be possible for me though. That is the one thing I consider a deal breaker in my marriage....we both agree on that. So I guess it depends on the 2 people involved. I say try if you think you can put it behind you.
2006-10-30 23:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes it is possible under one condition that the other partner is willing to forgive and start all over again and to fund out the reason why the other partner was unfaithful. Its gonna take a lot of patience from the two of you to build the trust and the relationship back to what it was before and good luck in doing that
2006-10-30 22:24:07 · answer #3 · answered by LETHABO 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It can work, but the odds are against it. Usually a cheater is a cheater. Maybe if the cheater got some therapy or spirituality, he/she may develop some values and not do it agin, but still no guarentee. What you see is what you get. Forgiveness and unconditional love can do a lot though. Do you love the person enough to stick with them should they stray again? Or you ready to find one who'll be true to you? Some people give the cheater a dose of his/her own medicine back too. That can be a good teacher, but say goodbye to the relationship.
2006-10-30 22:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by FeeFee le Mew 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell you what... If you truly want to make the relationship work, forgive and forget. You cannot bring up this infidelity issue again. I know it was painful, but if you've mustered up enough energy to want to move on from it, do just that.
I commend you because that's the only instance in the bible that gives acceptable grounds for divorce. I wish you all the best...
2006-10-31 00:57:43 · answer #5 · answered by cutesensiblechic 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, and trust does come back again but not as strong as before. You must discuss why it happened. Get counsilling for starters. But if you can't, and you really love that person and can't imagine life without them...then try to find out the why..fix it the best you can...and forgive them. Infidelity doesn't mean the person doesn't love or respect you...although many people think that...it is something the other person is looking for themselves..something about your relationship together that is missing, something about themselves they are looking for and feel they can't come to you about it. If they continue to cheat then its time to get out..but if it happened only once...then try to work it out if you want to. But, you also need to work out your anger, hurt, and shame. Remember if it happens or happened more than once...well...thats a decision you have to make.
2006-10-31 01:18:19 · answer #6 · answered by Bethie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on your sensitivity. If you can give your partner the benefit of doubt for falling victim of seduction then you can prolong your relationship. Afterall, everyone has a sexual urge to meet someone more enchanting, more mesmerising, more of everything.
Then again, if one is looking for joy, peace and happiness, it surely cannot come from outside of your own self. What you're really longing for is within you. Like when you're thirsty, it isn't about belief or faith but of knowing.
Yeaning for that something which is missing in your life is a 'thirst' that needs to be quenched.
Instead of understanding this thirst, which has always been there, we do a marvelous job of covering it up. But the thirst comes up again and again. What you're looking for has always been within you.
2006-10-30 22:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by catcher 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I know of a couple where the wife cheated on her spouse and even after finding out he stuck by her side. They seem very happy now and its been 10 years since that happened. .Probably happier then before. At least that's how it looks and know they're a relative so it's not as though I never see them.
2006-10-30 23:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes but they had to forgive and forget. it is hard. If you can't do it then consider dumping her and starting over. My reasons.... Jesus said the only grounds for divorce is adultry. You can't live in peace with someone who cheats and is destroying a relationship while you are trying to build it.
2006-10-30 22:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As someone who cheated I can say it`s excellent advice - especially about keeping away from the person, changing phone numbers etc......and looking clearly at your own behaviours and addictions.
2016-05-22 15:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but the trust is gone ! The heart is amazing and it can repair itself and learn to love and trust again n again!
2006-10-30 22:37:41 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋