I'm 19 yrs old and he is 26, he has been married for an year only and i fell in love with him just one month after his marriage. I think he loves me too. he is a dj in a delhi club. I cannot message or call him because his wife checks his log daily. she hates me big time. I just go to that club regularly to look at him and i'm the only girl towards whom he looks at .when our eyes meet its hard to break the contact from both sides. please help someone i'm lonely and depressed and i want him really bad
2006-10-30 22:14:51 · 33 answers · asked by Mitali L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he had expressed his love to me but that was last year. i don't know what to do. i wish he could divorce his wife tina and marry me. i know he loves me i can see it in his eyes.he plays all the lovely imotional songs for me. and he plays all my song requests. he keeps on gazing at me.
2006-10-30 22:20:15 · update #1
NO YOU SHOULD NOT BE SELFISH. YOU CANNOT MAKE YOUR HOUSE AFTER DESTROYING THE OTHER HOME. I CAN ONLY ADVISE YOU FORGET ALL THESE THINGS AND CHOOSE ANOTHER ONE FOR YOUR LIFE PARTNER.
2006-10-30 22:35:18 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mitali,
many women have made this mistake before.
PLEASE DONT DO IT
I am a married woman, and marriage is a pure and sacred relationship. You must not get involved with a married man - no matter what !!
Men like attention from women - whether they are married or not - it is the women who have to control themselves and see the sense, see what is right and what is wrong.
Imagine, if you were married and loved your husband like crazy and found out that when he goes to work, he is flirting with another woman. how would you feel ?
if you take this relationship further, it will cause all sorts of problems between him and his wife and you will be the reason for all those tears and heart ache.
Now listen to me, I know its going to be so hard, but you will have to let go of him. stop going to that club, leave him alone. if he tries to contact you, avoid him and tell him that you dont want to be involved with him because he already belongs to another woman.
Listen - you are a woman, dont do this to another woman. please.
Trust me, there is another man out there for you, who will love you and cherish you. Forget the married guy !
I wish you all the best Mitali and I really hope you will make the right decision and end this messy affair soon.
2006-10-31 00:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before i start i hope u dont get mad or think im rude....well first lemme start by sayin just leave him alone. if he loved u so fuckin much then he would be married to u and not his wife. maybe hes just a guy that dont want to be committed so hes playin his wife and himself. he shouldnt be wastin ur time or his wife. those the guys that breaks girls hearts and have them scarred for life because some ***** wanna **** around wit another girl. i know u probably dont wanna hear this tho and i know i wouldnt either but its true just move on and love someone that will love u and only u and u.ur young u can do it. i really dont think u want a relationship where u cant even call him because he has a WIFE. well im finished and hope u make the right choice.
2006-10-31 13:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by bxshorty064 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry for the harsh words that i am going to use but i think breaking up a marriage for personal benefit is a thing that only a ***** does. i am really disgusted the way you are talking about this without any trace of guilt and as if you are the one who needs sympathy. ok i grant it that you could'nt help falling in love but untill or unless that guy is have genuin problems in his marriage and wants to leave his wife, you dont come into picture. no matter when you fell in love with him, he belongs to another women.
all i can sugest is that you creat as much distance between the two of you as possible. start with not going to his club to sit and stare at him. get a life. spend time with family and friends. If nothing works leave the city. but plz dont commit the sin of breaking up a mariage
2006-10-30 22:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by urfriendfrlife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wish is not good, Why r u going to spoil some other's home. How can u expect sincerity from the person who is not sincere to his wife..?? this is not fair..You cannot make your house after destroying the other home. forget all these things and choose another one for your life partner.
suppose if u r a married one and ur husband a doing these things. how u'll behave . u cant tolerate it. so give up this wishes. trust in GOD. he will guide u in a proper way.
2006-10-30 23:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by Bharat N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you forget the fact, even after expressing it to you, he married another girl? that may be out of compulsion or may be a commitment! It is clear that his wife knows about you.If he still gives impression to you that he is in love with you, he is calling for real trouble. You can go through the legal provisions for divorce including compensations in the country in which you r residing, & find out what financial burden it calls for. Is that what you want for your beloved? In country like India ( the laws here are pro -women) the tax takes away 30-40%, compensation 33%, You"ll need to survive, on 27% of what he will earn! & this financial stress spoils any relation!( be it a father -son or brother -sister ) You are just 19 that means you are not earning & even mature enough to be independent. Romance & love has got their role in life, but in real life Love can not be there where there is too much of stress. The fact that somebody loves you is very soothing & people do crave for it even though they may not get it in their whole life time! If you still want to go with him, you need to be financially independent! I do understand your feelings as I had undergone the same a few years back! My married life is still hell even though I had checked myself out of the situation but a word of experience, Do not get mentally involved with any Married ! Be with your friends always, there may be one Silent Admirer for you! By getting him married to you you are destroing not only your, but all three suffer! Time heals all wounds! Better concentrate on your studies! In real life no one is really happy in their Married life even if it's Love Marriage!
2006-11-01 06:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you need to find a single man and not go after someone who is already married. It will lead to nothing but more pain and heartache because he won't leave his wife for you...they never do. You are too young to waste your life going after someone who is not available. You will meet a single guy if you are just patient. Going after this guy is a big mistake that you will regret later on.
2006-10-30 22:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should control yourself, he is married & u hv no right o ruin anybody;s married life.
The guy is really a dog if inspite of havin a wife is still looking out for other gals,i know he just wants to hv fun with you & then dump you.
Find real love,don't mess your life, I am also from delhi if u wish to speak to me mail me on hotchocredrose@yahoo.com
2006-10-30 23:35:24 · answer #8 · answered by hotchocredrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that its very difficult to be away from your love but there is no future for such relationships. You will be the one who will suffer out of this. Because when u will go close to him he would become loyal to his wife and u will be nowhere. Best is try to find someone who has not committed to someone. Specially if the person whom u love is indian. These indian men are very much committed to their wives. So no chance baby
2006-10-30 22:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by axby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds interesting.
Sorry to say unmarried girl have this sort of prob.they r attracted to two type of person
1.older then her
2.married
married one is bcose there life has been filled both spiritually&mentally so they look more interesting or seducing
But even though u like him.Then better make ur relation fast with him bcose the life of two women is in dilemma .
and its u who had to come on .as girl always want the boys to take control
2006-10-30 22:26:21 · answer #10 · answered by night_corn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Mitali...
Well u have a quite prefect problem but to my best knowledge u too are aware of the solution but u just dont wanaa accept the fact...
Anyways lets come to some facts of your life with your friend as per the above pic. maybe it would be easy for you to come to a conclusion..
See from your above fact one thing has came to clear and that is before his marriage too he might loved you and so you too but it seems that both of you never came to any conclusion which led his life with TINA correct..So that means his part of love life is over and now he is living a professional marriage life..
In this picture even after 1 yr he still seems to be staring to you..but now as he is married so its not sure that he loves you as he used to earlier..so in this situation you might be in trouble even if u get him ..becos maybe now he needs your body more than your love...pls dont mind but these are facts of life
In such case the only solution is that u need to be bit strong from your heart..and u need to take decision from your mind and not heart..see u might get good people as the life progress..but u wont get a good love life which is already been shared withsomeone else...
I hope u understand the logic of life if u think from your mind..rest its your decision..GOD BLESS U..
TK CR BYE BYE..
Remember..
LIFE NEVER STOPS FOR ANYONE TILL U HAVE TO GUTS TO TAKE THE DECISIONS...
2006-10-30 23:05:07 · answer #11 · answered by lalit_jain123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋