2006-10-30 22:11:02 · 28 answers · asked by k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just get your friends around you to occupy your time and too wipe away your tears. If they are proper mates they will be doing this.
2006-10-30 23:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should do is wrap your arms around yourself and give yourself a great big hug.
You may be feeling like this was the only one for you, but what a lot of people don't realize is that the ending of a relationship is a sign that you are finished with what you needed to learn there and the quicker you get back to loving yourself the sooner the next relationship for you to learn from will show up.
Did you do your best in this relationship? Had it run it's course? Ask yourself what you will be taking from what you learned here to your next relationship.
Bless the opportunity to have known the person and get up and on with your life...There is more joy coming your way!
Each and every new relationship that comes into your life is a chance for you to grow just a little bit more. Don't hold yourself down thinking the world is going to stop because things changed.
Have fun focusing on all the attributes you would like your next relationship to have and busy yourself getting ready for that person to enter your life. Out with the old...in with the new...
2006-10-31 06:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by Coco 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of a breakup this way: you're one step closer to the one you're meant to be with." There are few things in life that are harder on a person than the time when they realize that the love they have worked so hard at, and spent so much time on, is finally over. For some, this realization is a complete shock and for others, they have seen the writing on the wall for some time now.There isn't a sure-fire way to mend a broken heart but there are definitely things you can to do to make it feel a bit lighter and ready for new love. First, allow yourself to feel what you need to and take all the time in the world to get over the person. For some people it may only take a few weeks to move on and others years. However long it takes, be okay with that. You can't live your life in the past, waiting for a second chance to do things differently. Doing so is only taking you away from experiencing things that could be better. Don't be scared to give love another try.So, you've found out that Miss Right isn't the soul mate you've always dreamed about. Now what? The period of loss and pain doesn't have to extend on to an eternity of what ifs. After spending a few days wallowing in self-pity, you'll probably want to start making a few steps towards life after love. To help ease this transition, try a few of the following ideas.Letting loose on your emotions is a quick and self-healing way to recover from incidents of loss and pain. This is especially true of keeping a journal. Make a commitment to write for at least a few minutes every day.Keep your mind busy with new information. Whether you decide to learn a new word or how to do something new on your computer, it will help you keep moving forward instead of looking back.Get yourself out and about with a 20 to 30 minute walk. Just the constant, repetitive motion of moving your legs one after another is enough to help you put things in perspective.Just because you are not attached to someone doesn't mean you can't enjoy going out. Think of it as a chance to go to all the places you've always wanted to go.Maybe there is something you've always wanted to learn how to do. Now is the perfect opportunity to develop it! Try anything from bicycling, joining a walking club, sewing, bodyboarding or surfing, learning how to watercolor, or cooking.Best Wishes!
2006-10-31 06:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fill your life with activities -- ANY activities, just to pass the time and start getting through life again.
You will eventually learn to feel like you can 'breathe' again, but it isn't something that always comes quickly (I know how you are feeling right now ---- like you are smothering and can't even get a breath. And the ache inside you is excruciating! No one knows unless it has happened to them).
Then it is time for you to 'hitch up your big-girl panties' and get on with your life. No matter how much you are in love, don't let that misguided love destroy your life and take your power away.
2006-10-31 06:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by Maewest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remeber the feeling when I was young, how my heart felt like it would burst. But I remembered the words of William Shakespeare "If music be the food of love, play on, so that I may sicken of it." This is what I did and got over it more quickly, you just get fed up with yourself and go out and find new friends.
2006-10-31 06:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by loxland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Hun,
Everyone else is right, time is a healer. I was madly in love with someone who mistreated me and as he was the first ever boyfriend I had (at 18, we were together for 3 years) it was really difficult to get over it because I really fell for him.
Something that helped me (and this may sound strange!) I wrote the date we split up on a bit of paper and put it in the bottom of a drawer. When I had decided I had moved on and felt better I got the bit of paper out, worked out how long it had taken me to get over him and then burnt it so it disappeared. It was suggested to me by one of my close friends and it made me feel so much better.
Things will get better as time goes on, the best thing for you to do is to try and keep yourself as busy as possible and keep your friends and family around you.
Good Luck.
2006-10-31 06:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by Vicky A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you've been together a long time.....it will take time to get over it
ask yourself is pride the reason you feel you're still in love though it is over?
enjoy being single,,,,, it won't last, someone else will come along and then you'll wonder how could you be so stupid and lay on the floor
2006-10-31 06:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is make changes in your home and get rid of old memories. Get out there, painful as it is. Meet as many new people as you can. Do not contact your X, if you meet keep it short and friendly! Time is a great healer.
2006-10-31 06:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by A1bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your friends to take you on a girlie night out forget about men for night and have some fun woman dont always need men only for somethings so get out there and show him your not going sulk over him thats the last thing u ever want to do.
2006-10-31 06:17:04 · answer #9 · answered by baby dust for me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with your mate and get hammered and while your there find a really nice young lad and take him home and enjoy the night
2006-10-31 06:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by Thomas Griffin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋