I've married a deaf..?

Question

I am very tired of my six-month-old wife!!! yeah six months!!! she couldn't understand a thing that i said! no there is no language barriers!!! it's just that she can't LISTEN. she thought that if she sit down and listen quitely on what i said or what i am trying to say, she's a dumb a@@ and talk back totally in circles to the extend that i know there is no word get across to her!!! be it tv, be it flowers or movies or whatsoever there is not a single time that i could discuss!!! it always end up in a shouting match as i feel really dumb as i was merely making a point of my thinking and it has to end up in fights!!! i talk with friends or even my ex, i don't have that kind of problem, not even slightly!!! you could imagine! yeah we don't talk much! this is really sickening and i difinitely made a wrong choice!! is divorce the only answer now?!! help!!

Answer 1

The communication barrier you and your wife have needs serious attention----counseling for both of you. You will probably find out that your wife has learned to be heard by yelling---You could watch her parents interactions and what I'm telling you is probably right on the mark. Her parents yelled at each other and she has learned this from the monkey see monkey do from her parents.

1st off when she starts the yelling---don't give her fuel! WALK AWAY even if you have to leave the house----One can yell all they want but if you walk away---WHO''s listening! If you don't fuel the yelling by resorting to the screaming responses---you will have accomplished a simple boundary ground rule in your homelife!

If you don't fix what is broken in your relationship---it will be doomed. Couples should feel comfortable in communicating with one another without the feeling that every time conversation is started a fight insues!

SET the boundaries---set the guidelines....WALK away---DONT fuel ---Both of you get counseling!

Answer 2

The first twelve months of marriage is a trying time, unless you are both deeply in love. Sometimes women marry for security and not deep love. This love can grow if nurtured by you, so maybe you need to look at yourself through her eyes and judge yourself. Ask am I attractive, am I loving, am I kind, am I attentive. All these things a woman needs in a man, so she may just be disappointed in you and has not got over the shock of her making a mistake. I hate arguing and maybe she does too, just think yourself lucky that she is not a compulsive liar like someone I know. Have you ever thought that you might appear to be immature now that she knows you. The best is yet to come and this will come if you act manly towards her. Manliness is seen as being a good provider, a solid rock supporting a weak woman who would idolise her father as being strong, you can replace her father by being strong. Finally if you give up on her, then your future is bleak, because you will have to go through the same thing with another woman.

Answer 3

You two must have loved each other to get married in the first place. Think about why you were attracted to her in the first place. Go and get some counselling together. It really helps to understand yourself as well as your partner.
Hubby and I went through a few rough patches too so I can understand you frustration. Don't give up just yet. Six months isn't a long time.

Answer 4

What I wonder is how you ever made it to the altar since communication is the key to any successful relationship. (But since its useless to cry over spilled milk...) With that being said, if you feel like you are unable to resolve your communication issues, you have only two choices..patiently try to communicate with your wife you want to seek counseling to resolve the issue (it will at least show effort on your part) and if she doesnt seem to understand or want to argue that point, chalk it up as a lesson learned and get an annulment.

Answer 5

Is she deaf or what??? Did you not notice this before you got married and now you want out?? You are a coward and a fool. Why are you talking to your ex anyway?????????? I think you do not want to be married and realized this now and blaming your wife for the trouble in your relationship. It would be nice to see what your wife says about you. Maybe she is not the dumb a@@ you are.

Answer 6

in the last couple years myself and all of my friends have gotten married and i have noticed a pattern: in the first few months of marriage the fighting seemed to increase and we all thought we had made the wrong choice, but eventualy we setteled in and things cleared up you should leap to divorce so soon, you may even suggest seeing a couples therapist
~good luck

Answer 7

take it from me when i say that after a short period of six months it sounds as though your marriage is going down the tubes. you have two choices, either you call it quits now or you wait and waste another six months or longer and then face the fact that it is over and done with. myself i would chose the first one and go as fast as you can to avoid any more pain to either yourself or her. good luck

Answer 8

u should hv known or analize her fully b4 marriage, if she cant listen to U ,write in a piece of paper ur feelings & put on her pillow b4 she sleeps,if u love her & dnt wana lose her then continue wid the relation or othrwise u know the option (but try to do it carefully & wid no hurtings & ask her first or talk wid her abt divorce!
best luck!

Answer 9

with divorce you will end up losing half or even more money...do nothing.just ignore her. stop speaking 2 her.forget that she lives with you under the same roof. don't get involved in infedility at all. this will either bring her back to senses or ask for divorce ..and if she asks for divorce u save your money too:):) all the best

Answer 10

Divorce looks like your only option to me if the two of you are that incompatible. You should have really explored all these things before marriage.>