I found out today that i am pregnant with my second baby. We told our parents at 5 weeks first time around cos we were so excited, but my sister had a couple of miscarriages recently at around 8 weeks. I know that after 12 weeks is the "safe" time but i'm paranoid that something is going to go wrong this time around.....! When do you think the best time to tell everyone will be?
2006-10-30 21:48:09 · 29 answers · asked by cuddlymummy 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm more worried about the fact that they will get SO excited, but i don't want to let them down if it all goes wrong.
2006-10-30 21:54:32 · update #1
Congratulations, everyone has worries about miscarriage, its completely normal, I was scared more this time my third baby of miscarriage. Everything has gone well. But another thing was I was worried about telling our parents as my sister in-law is pregnant as well, with my second baby she was having her first, they were born 9 days apart.
4 weeks is early days, so its a wonderful time to just be excited with your husband for now, 12 weeks is a long wait, so just give it maybe just a month then tell everybody. Like of course its completely your decision when to tell them, but as your sister has had a few miscarriages recently then she will be very emotional when she is told, a few more weeks to let her recover will be better for her, and maybe when you tell her its not in a huge group just you and her, just to spare her feelings so she doesn't feel overwhelmed.
I'm sure everything will be fine and if you do miscarry then its not your fault it just wasn't meant to be, but I'm sure it is. Don't stress yourself over it, just take things as they come. If you get morning sickness and your family are around they might guess, women seem to have either a glow when they first fall pregnant or look really weak ( from all the morning sickness) Enjoy this. Congratulations.
2006-10-30 22:50:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i suffered the same problem as your sister, so when i became pregnant last time, i waited til i was 3 months gone, and i'd had my first scan. then i told my parents. if u are due a scan, then wait til you've had that before telling them. u can't exactly wait longer than five months though because most women start to 'show' after five months, and it becomes more or less impossible to hide. also, your parents would probably feel a bit left out if u waited that long to tell them..... thankfully i gave birth to a healthy baby boy. i hope that it all goes well for u too, just try not to stress too much ! (easier said than done, i know). good luck !
2006-10-30 21:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd tell them at about 8 weeks - that way people would be there for you right from the start (well nearly the start!) if anything happened.
example : you tell people at 8wks youre pregnant, then you have a scare with the baby, so you ring people up and tell them. theyre then not wondering why youre so stressed/emotional as they know why!
whereas if you hadnt told people you were preg and people noticed something was wrong with you, you'd get different people asking you 'whats wrong?' and you'd have to explain the situation to each of them.
sorry if this doesnt make much sense. it's way too early for me.
hope the pregnancy goes fine!
2006-10-30 21:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is so sad but happy for you. I would give it a few more weeks,if your sis is trying than It really isn't going to matter when you tell everyone she will still be a little hurt.Not your fault but Going though two miss there you start to feel like some thing is wrong with you,and that it is not fair that others don't try and they get to have baby's where as she isn't.
2006-10-30 22:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your only four weeks i would wait another month or so. its early stages anything can happen. hopefully it wont,i have just lost one its not easy. make sure you don't over strain yourself take things easier , relax etc. some people say your pregnant its not an illness. but the first 3 months are important and having a baby is one of the best things that will happen in your life.
2006-10-30 22:03:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't tell anyone until I was 12 weeks, just because I couldn't face telling everyone again if anything went wrong. I'd stick to that. Good luck and congratulations
2006-10-30 22:00:32 · answer #6 · answered by Hairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok . in what you said i'd hold off till your over 3mths if you feel this is a safe level for you. if asked why you didnt inform before state what you have written here 'because of miscarriages' going through a loss of a child at anytime for you and partner is bad enough but having to tell others too is something i believe you should spare yourself having to do
2006-10-30 21:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by belliehi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.. I dont see a reason why you should think about miscarriages, when its such a happy occasion. This wud add to negativity in you... which is harmful for the baby. I guess the good news shud be shared whenever it happens... it adds to positive energy. May God bless you & ur baby
2006-10-30 21:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by PC 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them when you are comfortable to do so. 12 weeks is the recognised safe zone, I think most people tell their family before then, as you have pointed out because they are so excited.
2006-10-31 00:33:19 · answer #9 · answered by Chickette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get on well with your parents esp. mother then I would follow IVAN's sugestion and tell her as she will be there for you if there are any problems, BUT, I would ask them not to buy or if they cannot hold off buying stuff at least NOT to give you anything for the baby until it is born.
You may want to let them know that you havn't told anyone else as well.
2006-10-30 22:00:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋