i have a boyfriend we have been 2gether for 4 yrs but the thing is i dont enjoy sex but i love him so much he is in my heart or is it because i never have orgasm is it possible but some times it can be good some times it changes why is this happening
2006-10-30 21:33:13 · 14 answers · asked by sunshine 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Girl u need to explore your body more! Figure out what u enjoy and tell old boy how u want it... Sex is gods little desert in the buffet we call life.. U should enjoy it!
2006-10-30 21:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
To start with slow down sweetheart. You seem to be rushing things. To have an orgasm is the sweetest part of love-making but, not the cat's meow so, don't take it to heart. Of course you want an orgasm, any woman would.
He may not know what's going on, most men don't. Being married for years and years doesn't a lover make so.
To start with, I'm assuming your in good health. Start with foreplay. This is where you and your lover kiss and interchange moves or touching, feeling, petting. Maybe he isn't getting you worked up enough. Some women take longer then others, when he finds out maybe he'll learn to go slow, take it easy.
You both don't have to "come" or have an orgasm together. If he's any kind of man he'll try and make you have one, even though he's finished, this would be the culmination of a perfect love match.
Don't "get him going" to soon, let him linger without the touchy, feely and use your hands somewhere else while he gets you going with the touching, feeling. The rubbing, tell him where it feels good, etc.
Get some porno movies, follow them like a guide, try it you might like it. Don't feel bad, a lot of women don't have a orgasm every time, some go an entire marriage without knowing what it is, it's too bad but ?
2006-10-30 21:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, I hate to say it, if you love him, but he may not be very good in bed. Did you have any other experience besides him to compare with? If you've been with other partners and don't enjoy it with anyone, then you might consider going to a sex therapist and/or getting some sexual counseling and also must see a good gynecologist to see if there is any physical problem. if he is the only one you've ever been with, then either just go on as you have been and take your pleasure in being able to please him or, try someone else to see if he is the problem. Sex is a good thing and it is too bad not to be able to enjoy it.
2006-10-30 21:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, tell him to read means health magazines or menshealth.com! there are all kinds of articles that make you a badass in bed, a new one comes out like everyday on the internet trust me, read them for a couple of months and girls will think he invented the orgasm
2006-10-30 21:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by zack s 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I really think is due to ignorance.There is a lot of literature on this topic.Guide your b/f where you want touched until wet and let him no hurry,if hurry stop him carefully until ready to orgasm
2006-10-30 21:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by ahmushi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like you had a bad experience in your past. When something hurts you during intercourse, it makes your mind think its going to hurt everytime. It can also cause problems with lubrication in the vagina. If I were you, I would go out and buy a play toy... something that would get you off...... its the MOST AMAZING feeling in the world!!!!
2006-10-30 21:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by bevey_jane263 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
intercourse is principally interior the ideas. that's the type you ideas-set your sexual encounters that concerns the main in what you get out of them. So there is something in the type you think of roughly intercourse and/or the folk you're having intercourse with which keeps you from playing it as much as you're able to. locate out what it is and additionally you're able to be waiting to get previous it.
2016-10-03 03:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...either be specific why u don't enjoy it and what the differences are when it's good or bad...or u'll get a broad answer like: b/cause he's no good...add to the question...
2006-10-30 21:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by 67ImpalaSS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't compatable - if you can live with it then so be it but I bet he'll click on soon enough and realise that somethings wrong.
tell him what's going on, perhaps you both talking freely about it may allow you to relax and enjoy more.
2006-10-30 21:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by Tiger01204 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you may need to explore your body
either alone or with your boyfriend
to find out how it works
and what brings your excitement up.
2006-10-30 21:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋