My ex-boyfriend lives in a neighbouring country. His mother and sister like me so much. The sister comes to visit me. I go to visit them, i buy a few groceries for them when there's none. On a good day for them they give me a few groceries to take home with me. But he doesn't call me, doesn't respond to my messages. When i call he sounds like the happiest man on earth, though we'll be taking on a friendly basis
2006-10-30 21:27:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What if i can not move on, I've tried to forget but I cannot, went out with friends, read books but still can not
2006-10-30 21:38:35 · update #1
You know, u r making this too much 4 urself. U said he is ur "ex" and I don't c why u should hope 4 something that is not there. I don't know what 2 tell you really,but what I can say is that maybe miss a guy so much that u think that what his family do to u will make things between u too. You r only hurting urself.
Let say maybe you like partying every weekend and always u get robbed, bitten or even become sick the following day, what would you do to stop suffering? would u continue depending on drinking aspirin/pain killers thereafter? surely u don't. But there's onething you can do;avoid "party animals"/even anything that can force 2 go 2 parties. It's not easy but it's worth a try.
Maybe the treatment you get from his family makes you think u can still b 2gether,but apart from being treated like that,what makes u think u can still b 2gether? Don't u think ur building castles in the air? Look time 4 a while, tell his family that u need sometime, and explain 2 them what u feell and if they really care, they will understand. Maybe once u c 1 of them u start 2 think "if we were....,It would have been..." and that is what is paralysing you. U c now this ex of urs is holding ur happiness whilst he is out there enjoying himself. You are the only one who can take back ur happiness from him and start 2 move on.
Even if he comes back 2 u, he might not love so, bcoz he would b doing that 4 the relationship u have with his family.He will only play with your feelings what will happen btwn u 2 won't b his family's business. And I don't think the way his family is treating u now ill be the same as when ur living with them/their brother so be careful Sometimes is good that they like you wherever u r. Don't be too much into them bcoz u also need some space to live ur life. This guy has moved on and i think u should do the same, otherwise these people will keep reminding u of the past that u hope will come to true.
Don't let urself to be tortured by this,step back and no what u whant,then figure out how u'll get what u want. It's ur choice let people treat you the way u deserve 2 b treated.Do not cry 4 a split milk,is not easy but it's worthy it!!
good luck!
2006-10-30 23:32:49 · answer #1 · answered by keatlaretse y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you're very close to his family as they are close to you but thats not going to gain his love. He may love you but may not want to marry you. It depends how long you've been together. If you've known this man for over 2 yrs or even a year and he hasn't shown No interest then you're on the verge of being just another name in his blackbook. Plus why would you want to go back out with an 'ex'?... thats a no no...if he really liked you then he wouldn't be an ex in the first place...why relive whatever made you break up in the begining?
2006-10-30 21:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by Okie Dokie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you're living in a dream world. The key word here is 'ex'! So what if you're still friends with his family, and that he's always delighted to hear from you - he's probably got no idea you feel this way, he just really happy that the break-up with you went so well and that you are happy for him. To him, you're a great ex-girlfriend. You're not a girlfriend or a fiancee, and in his mind he doesn't owe you anything.
He's not going to marry you, you just have to come to terms with this. If you really can't bear to be in such close proximity, stop seeing his family, and go and find yourself another man. This one is no longer yours.
2006-10-30 21:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so hard when you break up with a guy you thought was the one ,Maybe you should talk to him and ask how he feels ,maybe he wants to just stay as friends and if this is the cause then you will have to accept it and try to move on .It will take time though
2006-10-30 21:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by stephy200125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just move on. Don't wait for him. You deserve better than that. You can still be very close friends with his mom and sister without having a relationship with him.
2006-10-30 21:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it by ear, but since he is an ex maybe you guys are just not meant to be together. So move on and start finding someone else who deserves your love.
2006-10-30 21:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by teddytrin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he considers you more of a friend. It is possible that you may end up together again. Does he know how you feel? If not. ask him to go out with you sometime and talk to him about how you feel about him and his family. It;s worth a try.
2006-10-30 21:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you say he's your "ex" boyfriend? Why would he marry you if he's your ex? He may be happy to talk to you but maybe he's busy with his current girlfriend which is why he doesn't have time to answer your emails or call you. He's calling her and emailing her.
2006-10-30 21:31:18 · answer #8 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it. He sounds as if he likes you as a friend of the family. He is nice to you because you are good to his family but as he does not look to spend time with you, you must give yourself therapy and look to meet someone else who will appreciate you. Good luck.
2006-10-30 22:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by madisonian51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're just friends and nothing else. It doesn't matter how his family feel about you - he has to love you - not his family. You will get through this - move on - stop seeing his family and him and find something else.
2006-10-30 21:51:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋