For sometime now my boyfriend has been getting sms messages from a girl that he speaks to from work (She works for another company). When I ask him questions about it he tells me that is all for work?? The thing is she got fired from her job last week but she still keeps sending him messages. She even droped into his work today to see him. Which my boyfriend told me about. Now she is coming to dinner with us and his parents for his birthday. Should I be worried? Should I be nice to her? I've never met this girl before.
2006-10-30 21:22:46 · 10 answers · asked by Melissa K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
dont worry give the guy a little trust if he tells you is nothing give him the benefit of the doubt and show her how you two are happy so if she has any other intention she back off good luck you need it
2006-10-30 22:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by alfa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its hard not to be worried it just a natural instinct i say give him the benefit of the doubt even though they dont work together anymore they still could be friends and thats ok. be nice to her but not too nice and keep an eye out for her body language. its going to be hard to filter out what is flirting and wht isnt so make for sure you dont accuse her of anythng that your not positive about or he might think you are trying to end their friendship. i have had this problem before and i hae made the mistake of assuming that the other girl had bad intentions and my boyfriend resented me for it
2006-10-30 21:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should be worried. If there was something going on between your bf and that girl, he would have tried his very best to keep it away from you. Now, he decided to bring her along for dinner with you around to assure you that there is nothing fishy going on besides business. You should trust your bf and tell him how you feel about this.
2006-10-30 21:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you need to be worried, but I would be angry. She is going to his birthday dinner with you and his parents???? That is ridiculous. This sounds like a family get together. If he wants to develop a platonic relationship with her, that is fine (if it is OK with you) but you don't start out by inviting her to a family dinner.
Yes, be nice to her, after all, it sounds as if she is an invited guest.
2006-10-30 21:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be convinced that your boyfriend is totally disrespecting you. Don't go to the birthday dinner-- send him a "message".
2006-10-30 21:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by Faerie loue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would put him on the spot, ask him, what relationship is this girl to him. It could be a ex fellow worker or platonic, if its above board why wouldn't he tell you or show you the messages. Put up or move on I'd tell him.
2006-10-30 21:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by graeme1944 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he needs to stop seeing her. There seems to be more going on here then a work related friendship.
2006-10-30 21:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, If I were you I would be on my toes. Watch everything they do and how she acts toward him. You will be able to tell. Does he get defensive when you ask him about her? If so there is some untruthfulness going on.
2006-10-30 21:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by BC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be worried. Play by ear, if you are very uncomfortable do talk to your bf about it. Find out more to ease your mind.
2006-10-30 21:26:12 · answer #9 · answered by teddytrin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you do anything see how attractive she is if she is nothing startling you have nothing to worry about if she is a stunner give her the glasgow kiss to tone her down a bit
2006-10-30 21:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by JOHN jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋