my husband quit his job I was agree, but I found him he has all day looking internet porn. Should I be mad?

Question

correction:maybe it wasn't ALL DAY. I just saw on the history of the day, some pages
visited. I know he does some other things, but just when I saw that "gallery" I got upset :(

Answer 1

Yes you have a right to be angry. You need to chat with him about it and find out why he would rather spend time looking at porn and not looking for a job. Find out if there is some under-lying reason why he feels the need to look at it when he has you. However if you don’t think that his reason is believe able then you may have to do pull a few wrings out of the computer so that it no longer works.

Answer 2

The best way to take his interest away from porn is to make him take an interest in you over what he sees in the media (either online, on TV or in magazines). There are various reasons that your husband may be behaving this way. He could feel that his sex life with you is slowing down, and that there is a loss of chemistry and excitement between you and him. This could be caused by rejection, or by your behavioural traits. However, continuing to watch porn regardless of the consequences and impact it has on you and your happiness is wrong. Perhaps talking to him about his behaviour and how you feel is the first step you should take - and acting upon what you say may force him into complying with your requests. For example, if he thinks he might miss out on potentially real sex if his attitude towards you continues, then he is likely to reconsider next time he thinks about watching porn. Alternatively, you could try spicing up your sex life with him, perhaps engaging in new sexual activities and experimenting with him more often will be enough to meet his desires - thus reducing his craving for "more", which should put a stop to his somewhat inconsiderate behaviour. I must not place all the blame onto him though - as he is only following instinct, and if his instinct is telling him to have sex, it is something that is very hard to ignore at times. This doesn't mean however, it can't be controlled or used in moderation. I think you see what I am trying to say. If you decide to confront him and talk to him about it - you must be firm. If crying isn't enough to influence his actions, then you must be verbally strict with him, instead of suggesting ideas to him, tell him what you think, so he knows that you're taking control and you will feel more dominant of the situation. I hope I helped, and good luck.

Answer 3

Before you blow your stack at him
Contact your GP ..and let him know what your husband is doing including the fact he quit his job
..
Does he show any other signs ?
*
Exhaustion on waking
* Disrupted sleep, sometimes through upsetting dreams
* Early morning waking and difficulty getting back to sleep
* Doing less of what they used to enjoy
* Difficulty concentrating during the day
* Improved energy as the day goes on
* Anxious worrying and intrusive upsetting thoughts
* Becoming emotional or upset for no particular reason
* Shortness of temper, or irritability

I would almost bet the farm if he quit his job that he is suffering from some form of depression which has not been diagnosed ...
The porn could be nothing but a mind fix ..something to stare at besides the wall ...

Answer 4

Yes, you should be upset. He needs to get a damn job. If he is a stay at home dad, he should be doing other things besides looking at porn. A good friend of mine and her husband just split because of his porn addiction. Watch out.

Answer 5

You have every right and reason to be mad... very mad!
That is terrible.
He should be a responsible adult and using the internet through the day for the right reasons.... looking at porn isnt going to pay the rent/mortgage and put food on the table.

Answer 6

Yes, I think you should talk to him about finding something better to do with his time. If it's all day like you say then he seems a little obsessed with it. But if it's just like...an hour or whatever and he spends the rest of his day doing something else a little more useful with his hands then..oh well. Guys think about sex a substantially greater amount then women. Would you rather him choosing porn as his outlet or another woman? But if he is actually on there all day...Creepy.

Answer 7

we all need a break and for some men what better way to unwind when stressed than,,porn,,he doesnt even have to move from his seat,its all there,,as long as the majority of his time is spent looking for work i shouldnt worry,,he sounds normal to me,,wouldnt you take a break looking at something you wanted,,say going on here to get a mental break?course you would.

Answer 8

Hey:
For the job yes , he should be working !But for porn probbaly not, I mean if its harmless then its ok! Most men looks at porn so its not a big deal!
Goodluck
Love SANAM

Answer 9

most of the time when a guy looks at porn is when he doesnt have anything to do or hes bored. another reason my be he aint getting what he wants from his wife

Answer 10

You're mad to put up with that workshy loser. Tell him to get a job. Must make you feel pretty special to work your butt off while he ogles pictures of naked women.