i have a tremendous intensity of feelings in any relationship, strong likings and dislikings. I can't take anything lightly, though i understand that it is a very necesary ability to have for any human being. I either leave everything for a relationship or leave the relation altogether. Dramatic ups and downs r regular in my behaviour which i know is absolutely ridiculous. I don't want medication as such but want to cure myself by logical thinking and self-analysis. May U help me ?
2006-10-30 20:05:47 · 8 answers · asked by ? 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
BPD can be dangerous! Depending upon the degee of BPD, you can get to the point where you hurt someone, even kill them.
My advice would be to seek counseling with a psychologist (who can't treat with drugs) and develope coping mechanisms that teach you to recognize the extent of your problem and come up with ways to deal with it.
Probability your problem is nothing more than an intense lack of self esteem and, thus, insecurity. Borderlines, like Narcissistics, will project themselves in a better light to compensate for their lack of self esteem.
Don't see a psychiatrist, see a psychologist that is recommended by your favorite physician.
2006-10-31 01:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by Polyhistor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually a therapist who specializes in BPD is a good route to take. It is common that you may want to walk away from the therapist at times, but take a "break" instead, and then continue with the same therapist after the break, which should be kept to a minimum.
I don't know what kind of drugs you have been prescribed in the past, but a basic anti-depressant and anti-anxiety medication therapy is definitely helpful.
I do not have BPD, but I do have a diagnosis which includes intense emotion, which I find difficult to express in a healthy way, so I do have some understanding. Both therapy and meds combined have helped me tremendously and I wish you the best to get the results you seek. Rock on, sister, and don't give up!!
2006-10-30 21:54:01 · answer #2 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry honey but youll be fighting it the rest of your life.this is the fact. but its the level of how hard it has to be thats up to us. people like us need meds pure and simple. i hated the side affects though but knew i needed them. well for a while now i havent been able to get meds besause its too expencive to see a sphychiatrist. i had heard of an herbal supplament over the counter that was supposedly real effective. well i brushed the idea off for a while until i had lost so much control of my constant mind that i started to lose it. then i said screw it it should not be so hard. so i went to the drug store and baught the vitamin called st johns wort. the pharmacist said its similar to taking prozac or paxil. he said watch the dosage because its like anyother prescription, but its natural. i was pretty surprised at this and was excited to get started. the first tree days i didnt really notice a difference. so i upped it to 2 pills in the morn. oh my god. the sileance caught me off guard. i suddenly realized only after about 3 days that my mind was quiet. i could think but only when i wanted to. my energy level went up because the depression was no longer weighing me down,i felt more clear headed, calmer, a hell of alot less argumentative, and i actually started sleeping though the night. i wake up refreshed and i feel more ready to go.
give this a try ok. then e-mail me when your mind has quieted down. i have been and am still in the same boat as you. i have just had alot of time to learn how to self talk yourself through it. i will do my best to teach you logical thinking and good self analasys. im doing this because i hate seeing people feel the same as i have and if i can help you feel better ill do my best. so start with quieting down your mind with st johns wort, then well talk more. email me when you are ready kay.skysmama77@yahoo.com
2006-10-31 16:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by solas lethe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a therapist who isn't interested in pumping you full of drugs, one may be hard to find but even a friend who you can talk to anytime and who is going to be honest can help. A one-time answer over the internet from some annonymous people isn't going to do much.
2006-10-30 20:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Logic and Self-analysis are not diseases. They are the only tools you have for coming to an understanding of this existence, and your goal/role in it.
In the absence of the right basis - logic and self-analysis doesn't reach any conclusion, and we just keep moving in circles.
The right understanding is to see existence as co-existence. co-existence is realized at all levels of existence. when we analyse our self, and use logic to see all that's happening in and about us - we start getting more and more resolved.
2006-10-30 20:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by Rakesh Gupta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should enlist the help of a professional. You can do more harm to yourself trying to go it on your own or with the help of unqualified strangers. Think about it, you are trying to be cured by someone with a personality disorder!
2006-10-30 20:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by Kacky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the case with many people but if you really want to cure your self then try not to go for your desires but go for to make people happy (dont take it negitively) and try to speek as less as you can and keep paitence all the time then analize your self then see for your self thet did my advice helped or not
2006-10-30 20:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by sunny k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are off to an ignominious start by asking on Yahoo!Answers
2006-10-30 20:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by JustaThought 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋