If he really loved me wouldn't he have already told her about me? When ever she comes to town he plays family and I am left out in the cold. She stays with his mom and he spends the night with her and the kids. Why is this happening????
2006-10-30 19:57:48 · 15 answers · asked by ilovemychildren 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He obviously doesn't think it's important enough to tell her about u. Besides, what kind of arrangement do they have that he needs to spend the night with her? Couldn't the kids come over and spend time with him instead of the other way around?
2006-10-30 20:06:24 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave that man alone. YOu are not the love of his life. If he wanted to leave his wife he would and you would not have to ask us why is this happening. Its not like he just wants to be with is his kids, he would have brought the kinds to stay with you if that was the case. Take the hint. You are not a priority. He is not leaving his wife. Baby Treat yourself right. Find a man with no attachment. I know what I am talking about and I need to be this harsh because we women lie to ourself all the time. From one woman to another, run like hell before you end up pregnant and not only you will feel left out in the cold, but also so poor little baby.
2006-10-30 20:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by Obsidian butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess forcing him to tell her is an option. But you can't really make someone do something they don't really want to do. It sounds like he still has a pretty good relationship with her if she's staying at his moms with the kids. Could be that he's still in love with her. Maybe you should ask him what is going on and why this is happening.
2006-10-30 20:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by Das 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely keep what she said in mind, but he isn't necessarily guilty with you. I am wondering why he doesn't have joint custody, seems like a lack of responsibility to me and validates some things she said. But that alone should not make up your mind. If you stay friends with her, you will eventually break up with him. It will become weird and she already told you all the bad flaws and will continue to do so. What else will you talk about? anyway, keep all that she said in mind. If you are serious about your boyfriend, I wouldn't do lunch with her because it would just cause an issue from her influences you. You don't seem all that serious of worried about being with him, that is good.
2016-05-22 15:40:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he might just be wanting to see his kids, because he knows that when he tells his ex that she wont let him see his kids anymore, if you think there has been some hanky panky goin on confront him about it, the only way your going to get to the bottom of this, is talking directly to him about it. Tell him how you really feel, and tell him to tell you the absolute truth, tell him that feelings are not on the table to be hurt, the only thing thats on the table is the truth. Tell him that if he is gettin with his ex that you want him to tell you, because you dont want to be lead on, and you dont want to hold him back. Find out why his ex stays at his mom's house and why they have to be together. But im tellin you the only way your going to get to the bottom of this is by talking with him. I hope you get this figured out, and i hope that there is a legitament reason for what he is doing and i hope you dont get hurt in the process. Well GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-30 20:35:00 · answer #5 · answered by Don A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm..... looks like you are # 2 on the list, and that's not good! I'd say you are being used and abused, and it will continue until you put a stop to it! Next time he runs off to sleep with the "EX" tell him to don't bother coming back..then find a nice caring new guy and forget all about this loser!
2006-10-30 20:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well at home I think you need to talk to him about whats going on and tell him how you feel and you need to get to the point and ask him if he is over the other girl and if he isnt and he wants to go back well that you leave that house and you get someone new dont let yourself down just because of him and if he really was over his girlfriend he would accept your offer so....................
2006-10-30 20:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by sandra a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that he's a jerk who doesn't value you enough to make your emotional investment in the relationship worthwhile. Don't let someone eat away at your self-esteem - it's hard to regain.
2006-10-30 19:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by dingobluefoot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he must sort out the whole business with his ex and other family members, before he starts his relations with you. You must be clear about it and make it clear to him.
2006-10-30 20:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants his cake and eat it too. If he were going to leave her for you, he would have done it. He's not going to. You're the comfort mama, she's the real momma.... get a single guy and let this user loser go.
2006-10-30 20:01:18 · answer #10 · answered by James M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋