(For my friend)
I have been in love with my High school sweetheart for the last 11 yrs. We broke up in 99. I got married in 2000. I have been miserable and just dealing with my husband. The catch is my high school sweetheart is married as well with 3 kids and is unhappy. We see each other on a regular basis. We spend time as if we are married. We make love to each other and I cherish the ground that this man walks on. I know it wrong but I never fell out of love with him. I dumped him (high school sweety). My hubby on the other hand has no idea whats going on. Im sure his wife does not either. I get super pissed when he doesnt call me, nor when I dont see him. I know he has a homefront to take care of but I want all of his attention. I know its bad but I love him. Help Me
2006-10-30 19:06:40 · 14 answers · asked by aukasted1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i know exactly how you feel. i am pretty much in the same boat. But what i have learned over the past weeks is until he is ready to leave his other there is nothing you can do. Enjoy the time you do have with him. As a woman we will always be jelous of what we cant have. You also have to remember that there are kids involved and they are the last ones that need to get hurt. I know couples break up all the time but kids just dont understand things. So my advise to you, sit down and think about every bad thing that could happen if you were to leave your hubby and if its worth all of it then take the plunge. I hope this helps. I think this just helped me.
2006-10-30 20:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by sandra 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not in high school anymore. And you have a family now. And trust me your hs sweetheart is married he has a WIFE. You have a HUSBAND. Grow up. Take a step in the real world. Drop the hs sweety, and tend to your family.
OR ask your hs sweety to leave the wife and kids and be with you and see what he says. He'll probably come up with some lame excuse like money reasons or something. If you 2 care about each other like you think y'all do. He'll leave her in a heartbeat. If he wont leave her he's playing you like a dog.
2006-10-30 19:12:25 · answer #2 · answered by Brandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love does not come on the side,,it is shouted out in the open with no excuses,,,you and he are having an affair and that is wrong in anyones book,,you and he have choices,,you are not tied to your lovers but still take the easy option by cheating behind the husband and wifes back,,this is disrespectful,dishonest and deceitful,you both have children but where do they figure in your jealousy?nowhere! if this were your husband cheating you would be incensed,"how can you do this,,what about the kids,what did i do to deserve this," but its not him is it,,its you so you are all but blind to the pain that will happen.sort your marriage either way and get him to sort his,,you and he cant claim its love when you have to sneak around behind your families back to get it,get together and be open with it or end it,,,,its hard to feel sorry for you when there are women on here in his wifes boat,worrying their husbands are cheating,,who will take care of them and the kids,,,how can he do this to me,,you have it all so cant see the hurt you are causing but it will come to bite you on the *** and when it does be sure you and your lover can afford to leave and be together because if not,,this pain will have been for nothing,,that is,,if indeed after getting found out you wouldnt be dropped like a hot potato
2006-10-30 19:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to look at what is going on around you. With there being children in the problem it is not just about you and him. If I were you I would look at the big picture, and realistic answers. Honesty is the best, the truth hurts. Just remember that it is not fare to his wife nor your hubby to be dangling on the sidelines. Good Luck And follow you heart. Just think it through
2006-10-30 19:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by lilliann_23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are in a mess that can only hurt u hom, his wife and your husband. if u don't love your husband and you are not satisfied by him, i suggest u divorce or separate and leave your high school sweet heart alone if he can't do the same. On the other hand if u love your husband be faithful to him and leave the other guy alone. What good can come from this. Get it right or leave it alone.
2006-10-30 19:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by deeyve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not alone on this alot of people do this and feel the same way,alot of people marry but are in love still with there lost love,the best thing to do is to be honest with your husbund just on one part and let him know your not happy in your relationship and you want a seperation,your feelings will never go away for your sweetheart never
2006-10-30 19:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your head a shake. You shouldn't have rushed into marriage and maybe thought things through. Now you are going to mess things up for a few people. What goes around, comes around!
2006-10-30 19:12:53 · answer #7 · answered by joyall57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is very very bad.please think about the childrens future,and your husband.whats wrong with him.and whats wrong with your bf s wife.i can say one thing to you.that is try to avoid seeing him,and talking to him.ignore him.otherwise it will lead to many problems in your life.if you love your husband only,then there is no problem .there will be peace in life.god bless you.
2006-10-30 19:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if thats the case why did you marry your husband and have kids with him in the first place.
2006-11-01 03:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by rosierotweiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-30 19:09:35 · answer #10 · answered by crazy_bout_nothin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋