hi i'm 17 and i want a baby. i'd ask people in my family but i know their answer what do you think??? i want 2

Question

i know its what i want its not that, that i'm confussed about its more confussing what people are going to think!!

Answer 1

DON"T GET PREGNANT at such a young age. be financally and emotionally stable. my brother got a girl pregnant when he was 17 and it ruined his and her lives. If you want to get pregnant now, your begging to live an even tougher life.

Answer 2

Hi, My opinion is, a baby is hard work they are very demanding, you will not be able to drop everything like your friends and go to a party or to the movies. As you are only 17 you haven't yet had the opitunity to have your time outta school and find yourself, I mean if it happens then deal with it then but don't plan to have a baby so young.

I was 17 when I gave birth to my son, I had to do it all on my own as it was my decision to keep him, I went out for the first time alone when he was 8 months old and it was because I wanted to go out with my friends for my 18th. It was very hard to relax knowing I had a baby at home.

I don't think its a bad thing having a baby this young I just don't think its something you should plan to do, I am no longer with my son's father and thats because I thought he was the right guy until I had my son and understood what love really was, It made my life so much clearer as you don't understand what love is until your holding a creation of yourself.

I hope you wait until you have finished school and have a little time to yourself, Then when you meet the right guy you know you can't live without and are old enough to marry and vote. Then have a baby. It's very demanding and its forever, you can't change your mind if it gets to hard.

Good luck and I know you will do what you think is best but this is my opinion as I have been there and done that.

Answer 3

Well, to be honest, most people are going to think that it is silly to want babies so young. That is only because babies are much harder work than people think, and being that you are so young there is still so much life you have to live before being tied down at home with babies. Your days of going out when you want are gone, IF you do that..I am not saying you do, but most people your age do. Also, babies are very expensive and you would want to give your children the best life that you can, which means you would probably want to finish school or get a good trade going before you have children. Again, I am not saying you DON'T have a skill now, but most people your age don't. Of course in the end it will be up to you, and what you really want and feel in your heart, but those are some reasons that other people will probably not be too happy about it.

Answer 4

As a single parent, I can only tell you how hard it is. Sure, my kid is great and I love her more than anything in the world but sometimes I feel resentment for the fact that I have to take classes online because I don't have the time to go to regular school. They are MUCH more expensive. I can't go out to bars after work with my friends. I have very few friends, period. Everything I do I have to plan in advance so I know my daughter is somewhere safe. There is absolutely no spontenaety in my life. Very little excitement. I am 24 (my daughter is 4) and I feel like although I have all of these great experiences from being a parent, I never got to fully enjoy my youth.

Plus, it is really expensive. I also feel discriminated against when people find out I'm a single mother. It affects my job, my social relationships, my romantic relationships, everything. Kids are great. Wait until you can afford to have them.

Answer 5

Honey listen you are only 17 years old and you have the rest of your life ahead of you. Schooling and your dreams so are you ready to give all of that up for the next 18 years?

Being a mother is the toughest job in the world and you never get time off from it either.

My little sister is 17 and she slipped up and is now pregnant. She is with a bad news boyfriend and she wishes she hadn't of got pregnant but plans on having the baby.

Are you sure you will be okay with sitting home with a baby while all your friends are going to the prom and having fun?

I was 21 when i had my son and it was hard then but i have made it and making it. My son is 5 years old and i love being a mom.

Once you have a baby it is no longer about you....You should really sit and think about all of this before going through with it.

Babysit someone's baby for a while and see if you might still want to go through with this or ask teenage girls if how it was for them to have a baby so early in life.

Good luck

Answer 6

Do what makes you happy, but only if you are able to provide a stable environment for a child. I'm 23, unmarried but engaged, and have a 4 week old; and its every bit as hard as people tell you it is. I was ready to make those sacrifices though. I think that is something you have to ask yourself. Are you ready to give up the things that teenagers and people in their early twenties do? And are you ready to be the sole provider and nuturer to another helpless, completely dependent human being? There are so many things to take into consideration before deciding to become a parent. Trust me, my pregnancy wasn't planned, and although I love being a mom, I had only a matter of months to come to terms with some things that you have years to decide on...
Good Luck and Best wishes whatever your decision may be.

Answer 7

Babies aren't a toy to play with while the mood hits you. A baby can cry all night, and nothing you do will stop them,, they will poop, throw up and wee all the time.... . can you handle that night after night? They cost more then you can imagine, so I hope you have a job to support both you and the baby. That baby will be with you for a long time, so save money for their schooling, also they will want a TV, DVD player, an ipod, a cell phone, money to go out.....

You don't mention a partner.... are you planning on just using a friend or is the father of your baby prepared to stand by you through this?

The issue about having a baby isn't anything to do with age, but it is all to do with the underlying reason why you want a baby.

Answer 8

Maybe the girl he 'likes' is actually you?! My bf now told me this epic long story about this girl he loved and who he loved so much that he would be happy to see her happy with someone else, turns out that girl was me and 2 years on we are still going strong :) it seems he really likes you but is not sure about how much you like him, maybe you should drop more hints about how much you like him and instead of taking things jokingly be more serious cause maybe he just says 'oh i'm just kidding' after a serious comment cause your not reacting the way he thought you would and to save himself the embarrassment says it was a joke.hope that helps :/

Answer 9

can you look after the baby? Do you live in your own place, have a steady job with a good income? Have medical insurance for both of you? Who will the father be? Will you have a dual income or singly income household? Will you be a two parent family or single parent family? You need to plan these things beforehand and wait until the best time to conceive. There is nothing wrong with wanting a baby but now its up to you and its an adult decision to decide to start planning for one.

Answer 10

Honestly, more people in society find it's easer to have a baby now. you dont always need to be married. this belief is depending on how your raised and what u believe in. But let me say as a married women i couldnt go through all this with the promise that he's going to stay around. so kids are great but make sure your prepared for anything, and remember you dont always need a man to depend on. you are a women. thats strength enough, but be wise. get an education and make sure u are truely ready. Ask some people that may have had kids young and see what they say they would have changed.

Answer 11

You need to evaluate why you want a baby at this time in your life... You need to evaluate what changes in your life the responsibility of having a baby to care for will bring... You need to make an educated thoughtful decision...

Would it be better for you and a child you have to wait until you are a bit older and more self sufficient , more educated (not that i think you are uneducaated I mean more educated as in having the necessary skills to get a well paying job to support yourself and a child)...


I would suggest you wait a few more years to have a child.... There is so much you have left to do to prepare for having a child wouldn't it be better to wait get the preparations in place then have the child....